Im a single 22 year old guy, who lives with my best and lifelong friend in a flat in the centre of town. We are best of best friends, id lay my life down for him, i trust him whole heartedly, as he does me. However, over the last 6 months, iv developed what i think is an unhealthy obsession. An obsession with his girlfriend. She is always at our flat. I knew she was hot, and he knew, that me and all of his friends think so. But since we moved in together, iv been lusting after her. It will never happen, and id never betray me friend. But lately iv been stealing used panties, and high heels from her. I constantly wank over pictures of her, smelling her shoes and underwear, cumming in them too. Iv even stretched to sneaking a peak at her in the shower, and trying to watch them have sex. Im worried that i shouldnt be doing this. I think this may be more common than people will admit, but id like some advice about, if i should stop? is this unhealthy? and a females perspective, what if a friend of your boyfriends or partners was doing this to you.............

 

Interesting.

You should stop. But it's probably easier said than done.

I'd be slightly scared if I were a female in that situation. . . assuming I was aware of it.

What to do? You should definitely talk to someone about it. . .

x74

 

thanks....

well she isnt aware, she has no idea. im unsure as to who to speak to, i obviosly cant say to him. and i think i should stop, before i get caught, but its such a thrill.........

 

Speaking to him would probably freak him (and her) out.

I really don't know what advice to give you. I'm hoping that someone else here can say something more helpful.

First off, stop taking her stuff. . .

x74

 

Maybe you should avoid being around her/them. . . as much as is feasible.

 

i live with him, so avoiding it is hard, and shes hear about 3 days a week. i always replace the shoes, but iv kept two pairs of panties. they are well hidden.

 

The more you feed an obsession, the more it grows.. . in my experience.

If you keep stealing her panties and using them, then, in your mind, you'll become even more obsessed.

Chances are, it's not even really about her anymore. In your mind, she's become more than what she really is - sexier, prettier etc. So what you're obsessing about is an ideal version of her (that you've made in your head) and not actually her. . .

x74

 

This exactly; it's an infatuation. Mind over matter dude, you gotta start taking positive steps to get over this, or things will end up going bad. She's just unobtainable because she's with your friend, so you think you want her. I've been in a similar situation, but I didn't start stealing her stuff... you just gotta accept that they're together and you gotta live with it. Eventually it'll fade, and even if it never goes away entirely, it'll become at least tolerable and won't cause problems (providing you don't get drunk and tell her you love her or something!).

 

oh id never get drunk and tell her i love her or anything like that, and i dont think its to do with an ifatuation or anything, i think its more the fact i love jizzing in high heels and sniffing pants.........

 

i do appreciate the advice though, thank you

 

If you like jizzing in heels and sniffing panties, then get a gf of your own.
But in the meantime you can use someone else's. . . not your housemate's gf's!!

x74

 

ALL obssessions are unhealthy.
Stop taking her things, she'd your best friend's girl and you should show her the amount of respect you show him.
You shouldn't be doing it. This is not all that common, obssession (true obssession) is pshychologically rare in my opinion.
female's perspective:
@partner: Hey, ____ is starting to creep me out
@friend: *act distant and cling to partner*

Insecurity and fear will result on her end if you continue; sadly and frieghteningly, obssessions grow larger and at some point she would do anything to get away from you- or you would do anything to be alone with her just to "have the chance"

This is dangerous and I believe you should speak to a proffessional therapist not a porn forum.

 

You should keep it to yourself and get your own gf................

 

You need to find someone else to obsess about, just pick someone at work or a celebrity.

 

id love a womens perspective of this......

 

Dude, if this friend is so special,then you starting down a road that will end in disaster. What your doing isn't cool, right, or normal. Loose her panties, well hidden doesn't mean shit. I understand about friends having a hot bf or gf. Here's some free advice, when she's around make yourself scarce, they will respect you for it, and you'll cool off. And they may have already noticed your vibs, people talk! Definitely cool off!