So I've been dating this girl for 3 months and we've been having sex ever since we have dated. Problem is, is that she can't orgasm. I've tried it during vaginal sex, oral sex, fingering her, and nothing seems to work. She has used a handheld showerhead as long as I can tell (probably ever since she started masturbating) but does anyone have any tips? She hasn't been able to get herself off in about 3 weeks by herself, so I don't think it's just me. Any tips or advice would be much appreciated.

 

could be a psychological thing

 

It could just be nerves, sometimes it takes time for people to click, have you tried fingering her whilst having vaginal sex, or getting her to do it herself.

 

Maybe she should get a new boyfriend.

 

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What have you tried during oral, fingering and vaginal sex?
Let her use the handheld shower head for chrissakes

 

If she's been masturbating for years and suddenly stopped being able to orgasm, I'm at a loss to explain it and would advise her to get medical and/or psychological advice or sex therapy.

As far as your technique goes....in my experience, the mistake a lot of men make is they feel like they have to treat women like delicate little flowers. Sometimes, in order to cum, we have to be fucked, not made love to. So don't be shy. Get inside her head, and show her what she was made to do. Just a thought.

Watch this sequence and you'll see what I mean. I would have cum a hundred times.

http://video.xnxx.com/video753866/oily_sex_with_big_tit_babe_1
http://video.xnxx.com/video753891/oily_sex_with_big_tit_babe_2
http://video.xnxx.com/video753903/oily_sex_with_big_tit_babe_3

 

@Kimiko

That could work, but she says that she doesn't like fingering rough. I've tried fucking her hard and she's had trouble walking the next day, but hasn't bee able to cum as a result of my fucking. Any more advice would be great.

 

wine and time

have a few glasses of wine for her to relax, kiss around her pussy by her thighs and butt but dont kiss the puss. do this for at least 20 mins rubbing her tits and body when she least expects it just lightly brush her pussy lips with your tounge. get her begging for it and slowky eat her pussy and stick a finger in it also if you do this for a while every girl will explode.

 

I've been there... In my early 20's

First of all I think its her and not you.... Sex is mental... I hope she comes around

 

Honestly, I've used the shower-head, and I find afterwards that I'm a lil bit numb. The more I do it, the worse it is. I find that after awhile nothing else can make me cum. I suggest maybe teasing but NOT pleasing her for 3 days, a week, and seeing if that helps. It may also be mental, maybe she has fixated on a fantasy, or just doesn't truly want sex at the moment. It could be hormonal too, our ovaries pump out a carefully regulated mix, and if it even a little bit off, it could either pump up her sex drive or kill it.

 

I'm 29 and just had my first orgasm last week. It wasn't a sudden change in my life. just never ever had one. And by 29, I had just resigned to the fact it wasn't going to happen.

The fact that I had one last week was a shock and a half. What I credit it to is that my hubby has never, EVER denied me sex. Not once was he too tired, too sick, whatever. If I was horny, bam, I could get sex. Then he left town. He's been gone 4 weeks now and by last week, I was so goddamned horny, I was afraid to order a pizza for fear I'd give the delivery guy an extra good tip...if you know what I mean.

So for one of the very few times in my life, I bothered to masturbate in hopes it would just relieve some of the tension. and WHAM! it happened. I didn't use any toys I wasn't accustomed to. Didn't do anything different than I'd done before. But after 3 weeks of being horny and not getting any, I was primed and ready, I guess.
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So here's my advice from a similar but not identical situation. Try sexual starvation. Pick a date and nobody touches the vag till that date. No matter how horny she is, nothing goes near the pussy. A week, two weeks, whatever. Then when time is up, give it another go. But tease her during that time. Remind her how badly you do want to do her. Keep her hot. Let it build.

Also...and I know it's hard. But you BOTH need to not focus on her orgasms. I've been with my hubby six years and at least two of those, he though I was having earth shattering orgasms. Once I finally fessed up, I could tell it was weighing on him. For a while there, he was really consumed with my orgasms (or the lack thereof) and it took a long time for sex to return to "normal" for us.

All I can say is all the experimentation, toys, porn, stories in the world didn't do us any good. But the week before he left, knowing he'd be gone as long as he will be, I fucked him every day. And then once he was gone, my head knew sex wasn't coming. But my pussy sure had other ideas.

Well, that's what worked for me. But your girl is in a different situation. So it may not work for her. All you can really do is be patient and I swear do NOT get focused on it. It just gives you performance anxiety and makes her self conscious and distracted. And you can't orgasm if you're nervous or embarrassed. you two both just need to do everything humanly possible to relax and forget it's even an issue.

 

Send her over to me. I'll fix it.

 

I was waiting for a post like this to turn up. lmfao

This place hasn't changed a bit since I left!

 

foreplay-foreplay foreplay, I have found the best cure for that problem is lots and lots of fore play do not get in a hurry take your time make sure she is primed and ready before you ever start intercourse . I got my nickname doing exactly that I am a strong believer in the 2 hour quickie ,start slow and let things build if she isn't all gooey and drippy she isn't ready, put intercourse off until she tells she wants it NOW !! when she thinks she ready play another 10-15 minutes .
talk to her found about any fantasies she might have ,play them out for her .
dated a girl for a while that loved to be tied up made her feel like she had no control in the situation used to tie her up tease the hell out of her she would cum so hard she push me out :excited::excited:
also foreplay starts in the morning with the little things tease her all day when it is bed time then get serious with the foreplay