So my boyfriend is 19 and im "younger" and it seems he's intrested more in porn than he is to me. I have a very high sex drive and im told a damn sexy body. I got the tits, curves, long legs, i dont have an ass but i hear im good looking from girl friends and such. but when it comes to sex, most the time i have to make the first move, and he never takes off my shirt or really pays attenshion to my body at all. and when we hang out he has his friends around alot. or hes looking at and he never watches it with me whats up with this is he board of of me, or not intresed . sometimes he will suprise me or want to go down onn me and cool stuff like that, but most the time its turn on your side and we will spoon can .someone help me out why in his mind is porn so much better, and hes not into sex, do i suck that much?

 

well for a girl, sucking isn't a bad thing, but most likely it's because either, a) porn is something new or taboo, or b) he's addicted to the porn

 

I don't think he's interested in porn more than you, in my opinion guys will always look at porn cause they don't need permission. That and they're guys. lol

 

If thats you in your avatar then I'm thinking the problem may not be with you. But thats just my opinion.

 

Maybe you need to put your current bf out to pasture and find yourself a new stud that will pay more attention to you. Cause if you don't then you are subjecting youself to constant disappointment and let down. You need to move on sweetheart.

 

First, let's talk about the difference libido and potency. Libido is how much you're interested in sex. Potency is you're capacity for sex. A man with a high libido combined with a low potency may be interested in looking at porn, and feel guilty about not performing enough for his partner. There may be other issues, but you need to find out what his situation is and if it's something you can deal with.

 

You 'd better change your BF.If you are such a nice chick,you'll find any fuckable guy at once.

 

okay here's an idea, how about the horndog's who want in LL's pants be quiet and let the grown ups give advice

I think JAWs was probably the best

 

I agree with JAW - talk to him about it - suggest watching porn together and see where it leads - perhaps go down on him, whilst the porn is on in the background.

Don't try to stop him watching porn - it's never gonna happen. So accept it, but make it part of your fun things to do together.

Don't be bashful about frigging yourself in front of him, get some toys and enjoy them in front of him - chances are he'll pretty soon want to be where the toys are!

 

You are incompatible. It happens. Walk away and if that is you in your avatar then you won't be on your own for long.

 

Have you told him how you feel? Honestly, if he really cares about you, and he knows that you are concerned than he should do whatever it takes to fix the relationship.
If that doesn't work, then I say that you need to end the relationship, because the odds are that his habits won't change.
Also, I hope you aren't too much younger than 19...

 

did you ever think maybe he just likes some porn now or again? to him it might be like fishing or something, and you may just have a higher sex drive, if sex is the most important thing to you, get another boyfriend. dont always assume the worst too

 

He's just young and inexperienced, and perhaps a bit self-centered. It sounds to me like you can do better, and you're too young to be confined to one guy anyway.

As for porn, I agree with the other sages here. One of the problems with porn is that it sets up some fairly unreasonable comparisons. But you can use it to your advantage, by finding out what turns a man on.

 

And with those words ringing in your ears, I'll volunteer to step up to the plate!

 

Guess im one lucky guy then. My girlfriend easily has the body of a porn star, now i just need to dirty up her mind :mrgreen:

 

This is one good avenue to explore certainly, but it would mean that you're making all the effort.
Porno is fantasy, and very attractive and easy. You're there all the time in reality and require a certain effort as you're a person; so he may have become complacent about your availability!

You could try telling him that as he's more interested in porno than you, that you're not going to have sex with him.
I can't guarantee that it will work, but there is truth in the fact that the thing that we can't have often becomes the thing that we most desire!

If he finishes with you, what have you lost? This situation doesn't suit you and it might be time for you to look elsewhere for the kind of relationship that does.

 

That was never my problem...

 

which one, the body or the dirty mind?

oh wait nvm

 

Are you complaining?

 

nope and I'm sure the SO's of the forum members here aren't either

you probably singlehandedly improved their sex life


ooo there's an idea for a thread..."Has Kimiko improved your sex life?"