so im not sure how to put this so i guess ill go into detail to better explain. I've been with one woman, sexually, and now im married to that woman. I've been with her for 8 years, been married for 1. When we got together we were both 15, and we were both horn dogs. Sex was great, and there was days in which we'd do it up to 6 times! After the first couple years sex slowly became less and less. Now, after 8 long years we're married and getting ready to have our first kid! But the sex is still slowing down...and im still just as horny. Now in most cases i'd just go beat my meat and be done with it. But lately, I cant help but think about what could have been. Theres other women that i really would have liked to have a chance with. Dont get me wrong, i love my wife but i cant help thinking about other women. She knows that i would like a 3-some and shes againist it. And im slowly thinking less about that and more about just straight sex with another woman. So much so that its drivin me crazy, i would really like to have sex with someone other than my wife, at least once in my life. Am I a bad husbend? I dont know what to do really, i dont want to cheat but im about ready to..... sorry for the rant. Any advice is helpful....

 

a fantasy is not a betrail !

and fantasizing with something else or someone else is more than natural ... maybe the fact that you´ve only been with your wife makes you "racionalize" to a certain extent your feeling of guilt

 

You were with the same woman for 7 years, didn't cheat and decided to get married. Now after 1 year of marriage, you're going crazy focusing on what you "can no longer have"! That's perfectly normal. Refocus your attention on your wife. When you think about wanting to have sex with another woman, try to think about your wife having sex with some other man. Directing your attention away from her towards someone else is not going to make the situation any better and is probably going to eventually end up very badly for you.

 

try being honest with your self here. and honest with your wife. sex gets boring if you dont change it up. talk to her. she might be just as dis satifsied as you are and thinking the same thoughts you are.

 

Ya, ive tried talking to her. At least a year ago we had a argument about it, and i've pretty much left it at that. She used to be bi, and i came along and kinda saved her from 2 shitty relationships. Now she doesnt want anything to do with another woman in bed. That i can understand. But it doesnt help that im kinda feeling bi now, she doesnt really know but i kinda assume she has a good idea (we both enjoy anal stimulation, honestly me more than her). So not only do i want to have sex with another woman, i also would like to try sharing with another couple or just bringing someone in to mess around with. I should also mention that we have had a thing with our best friends, involving a group game of truth and dare, and a group game of foreplay dice. That ended up turning into us fucking in the same bed as them one night, and our wives giving us duel blow jobs. That was really cool, but at the same time, it was with our best friends. They've been together like a couple months less then us, and we've been friends with them for as long as we've been together... idk, not sure what im even tryin to get from postin on here anymore...guess im just confused and sexualy angered. lol. Of course talking to other people about my sexual problems is kinda nice too.

 

I was with a guy for 8 years and he was my first. I loved him very much and we were always faithful to each other but towards the end I was desperate to know what other cocks were like. I had nothing to compare it with and he was always putting himself down so eventually I began to believe that he was right when he said he was small and all this crap.

So when we did break up (for other reasons) I decided to have some fun and I came to realize very quickly that his cock was amazing and I had a good thing with him as far as sex.

Most guys were way smaller and the one that wasn't was too damn big, and not a one of them had a clue how to use it. It's really a "the grass is always greener" situation.

What you have to remember is that if you focus on the things you cannot have you will always be miserable. If you honest and truly love your wife then I have to say getting to try another pussy (or cock) is hardly worth destroying your relationship.

Also, you tried talking with her once. If it is something that means that much to you that you are afraid you will cheat on her then you need to try to discuss it again. Here is the thing about talking about uncomfortable issues. They usually lead to arguments because someone feels insecure and throws up walls or lashes out.

You need to set your intentions outright. Establish that you love her. If you know what she is worried about and what makes her feel unsafe then attempt to allay those fears by telling her what you are NOT trying to do. As in:

"I am not saying there is anything wrong with our sexlife" or "I'm not saying this is your fault or that I am going to go fuck another woman, I just have some concerns and I want to discuss them with you."

I know it sounds silly as hell but when someone says something like that to you it takes down the barriers and makes it hard to argue. They've opened up to you enough to lay it out on the table like that so the least you can do is listen.

Anyway, enough lecturing from me. Just, please, if you want to have other pussy at least have the decency to tell her. The lies are the worst part.

 

hello sugar your right. We talked about stuff last night, still didnt get it all out there yet since talking about one thing can always lead to talking about something else. My next big step is to tell her i have bi feelings and see how she reacts to that. lol. If it goes well, then maybe we can work something out. Id be willing to try a 3 some with another guy, but thats gonna be kinda hard since to dont know too many good lookin bi guys. Plus, I couldnt do it if i see the guy all the time or anything, just kinda weird i guess. So that kinda drops it to like 1 guy. Then i start to worry about, well what if hes bigger than me? I'm not small, but im not huge either. I'd say i'm above average at around 8 inches or so. But hes got like a horse cock or something then i'd probably feel really bad. At least when we did stuff with our friends his dick was about the same size, and since we only got our dicks sucked i'm fine with seeing him and her on a regular basis. If anything I went from having a best friend to another brother. Plus it made our relationship stronger. Idk, i guess im just a horny dude that hasnt gotten to see the greenier side, and now that i've realized how much i could have done i wish i would have. But at least im STD free and am only now having a kid, after getting married and being together for 8 freakin years. hahaha. Most the people i went to school with either have kids and no boyfriend/husbend or they just turned to drugs and ruined what life they had. Its a sad sad world we live in. Thanks for all the advice guys/girls.