It's 4:13 in the morning and i'm lied in bed beside my beautiful girlfriend who is sleeping, we've been together for 3 months i get to spend 4 nights per week with her of which tonight is the last until the coming tuesday. We've not had sex for over a week which has been bothering me alot, she says she's just not a sexual person... Then it comes to tonight and i ask for a hug, not much of a problem you would think?

Well she has this teddy that she recovered from her mum's house last week and now she insists on sleeping with it. I ask her nicely to put the teddy to the side for a minute so we can have a proper hug and she says she can't because she needs to fall asleep with "him", she's soo tired that she's going to fall asleep soon and she doesn't have time to give me a hug and then pick him up again....

Those were her actual words. To clarify: She doesn't have time to give her boyfriend that she says she loves even a hug before bed because of a teddy.

Now i want your opinions please,

Am i being too clingy expecting a ONE on ONE hug before bed?
Is it wrong that i feel i can't hug her properly if there's a teddy between us?
Does she not love me?
Do i not make her feel secure as much as her teddy does?!?
Has she lost the plot or have i?
Is this shit normal?
Should i finish it?

Share your stories...

 

These aren't steps this is my advice to you.
1) Get the hint, she's not interested in you, time to move on.
2) Perhaps recovering the long lost teddy hits a memory of innocence to her so she feels like a child again, obviously sex is not innocent.
3)I have never not wanted sex with my boyfriend, a week and a half is way to fucking long, the last time I've done something like that, was when I lost interest in the guy and wound up breaking it off.

 

That's just weird. I'm wondering if she really likes you. I know that may sound insensitive but it sounds to me like she's either very emotionally unattached or she's not that into you.

 

Thanks for the quick replies, not what i wanted to hear but it does agree with what i already thought. I think she likes the idea of being with me but doesn't really love me.

 

Sounds classic, from my advice number 3, thats exactly what happened to me, I liked the idea, but not into him.

 

this is NOT good, I don't like this kind of wordlplay(from her), this is a"sally game" I think you are on the way out.

`not a sexual person'? after 3 months she tells you this?!

Give her an ultimatum, tell her its the bear, or you!
then say: Adios muchacha, and thank yourself for dodging this bullet.

 

Giving her an ultimatum after 3 months is worthless, there isn't that much invested in the relationship at this point, he should just man up and get someone else thats interested in him.

 

If she's making excuses after only 3 months.... Run, Forrest, Run! Women are manipulative creatures, I should know. I end up constantly putting my male friends back together after some woman comes along and rips them apart.

Thank god I only have to do it to make my husband take the trash out....

 

I disagree, he at least will put her on the spot, he can say his peace, and have some resolution. Worthless? Hardly. I also believe I strongly implied that he leave(between the lines of my post).Many of us can invest a lot in a so-called serious relationship during this time: emotion, time, and money, as well as not looking for another.
Maybe finding someone else as you blithely suggest is not as easy as it sounds, I know it is for me. They (girls) aren't just waiting around for us when things go sour.

 

Women, are like buses.

 

Looks like the bear has been getting into the honey pot.

 

I alway love the 'just find someone else' approach. If it were that easy then we would...

TeddyBear girlfriend is the one who should man up and have the decency to admit to how she really feels, instead of hedging around the subject.

Dolphin asks: "Is this shit normal?". Regrettably, mind games are part of the territory with some women. It sounds like you have served your purpose, I am sorry to say.

 

just find some one other then her end it now shes just not that into you even if you try to end it and she claims she still loves you she dose not and probably never did next girl i would say date her more be four you invest in a relashinship that would use the word love in it in the first place 3 mons is not that long of a time to be together and using that you dont hafe to love every one you fuck and you really most likely do not know every thing about a person if you only been with them for 3 mons so just cut it and move on

 

Just thought i'd update this thread a bit.

We're still together... and... we're having a baby ;-)

Due on the first week of January.

Note: Keep in mind i made this thread 3 months ago

 

Congratulations! :excited:

God help you.

 

LOL

 

Teddy Jr.

 

Is it yours or Teddy's!

Just kidding, congrats!