This really made me laugh, but mostly because I have an image of myself using my favourite rabbit as a hand blender and my buttplugs as door stops:excited:

 

I'm 54 and I get annoyed if the article implies that a diminished sex drive is normal and to be expected. I honestly don't think it's normal. Yes, going through menopause can mess things up for a while, but that's not permanent. Once menopause is over, a woman has proportionally more testosterone than she did before menopause, so if anything her sex drive might go UP!

Personally, I go to a female gynecologist because if I'm having problems with sex drive or functioning, I just feel more comfortable talking to another woman. It 's been my experience that male doctors don't always take women seriously. Well FUCK THAT!

Now, if I had been with my partner for a long time and he had lost interest in me because I wasn't the sweet young thing he had fallen in love with, then yeah, my sex drive would probably go down. Who wants to be rejected after all? Unfortunately I don't have a long term partner, so if a man finds me attractive now, and I feel the same way about him, I'm ready, willing, and very able. I'd love to have the body I had 20 years ago, but fat happens, and I've accepted it.

 

I learned about older women early

I was 22 when I went down on one of my mom's friends during a huge outdoor summer party. She was drinking and flirting, and there was the opportunity so I lifted up her skirt and started in on her panties with my mouth. She didn't stop me so I kept going until the job was done. Over the next couple weeks we finally talked about it and she was freaked that mom would find out. I told her to let me do it again. I've loved older muff ever since. She was about 40 at the time. Love to butter older muffins.

 

I've never had such a high sex drive as the two or three years (I'm 52). My hormones are making a last ditch attempt I think - now I'm getting the hot flushes and wondering if this is the beginning of the end

 

I am also in my fifties (53) and I can tell you that I know from my parents that they had had "needs" even in their seventies!

Anyway, be sure that we won't be as we were in our thirties!

 

I m on the other side of 40's. There's no stopping me. Not yet!!

 

Wife and I are both 62. Don't fuck nearly as often as we used to, but let me tell you that last night was one HOT one!! She is always eager and willing whenever I feel like it. I can have her juices running in 5 minutes.

 

Tooo funny, glad I am not the only one who thinks like this. My husband thinks my humor is a bit dry. I love dry humor. Butt plugs as door stops - oh my oh my oh my - lol.

 

I wish my lady was more like you posters here. Our sex life has come to a near halt in the last few years. She just turned 50.

 

You should try to find something that stimulates her mind and keeps it stimulated. For me the more I do anything sexual the hotter I stay. That is why I come here when my husband is away or extremely busy. I play alot seuxally but my mind needs the stimulation as well.

Try sex Q&As, sex chats, sex texting, writing sex stories, create and maintain sex blogs together, or do sex forums together, etc.

 

What works best for me is walking up behind her when she is fully clothed and busy doing something, wrapping my arms around carefully so as not to interupt whatever she is doing, and nuzzling her neck - I am doing all the giving, and she can't do anything but accept the affection. After a short time, I start to retreat and usually I hear "Don't stop!"

That's about all it takes to prime the pump, then later in bed a few hugs and nibbles arouse the passions, her nightie comes off, some deep kissing, sucking her tits (which drives her wild), 2 fingers in her wet pussy, and she is begging to be fucked. She likes it hard and fast, and afterward she wants to keep my dick inside as long as possible. Sometimes we fall asleep with my dick still in.

 

lota older white women b freaky as hell! love that shit!

 

I've done that only to be pushed away. Thanks for your suggestion. I can't even touch her breasts anymore. When we do get sexual, she tightly covers them with her hands the entire time and just lays there, she doesn't even touch me. Its heartbreaking to be in this situation considering how passionate we were early on.

 

personally, at 41, my sex drive is higher than it's ever been. i feel more confident in myself as a person than i did when i was younger, and together with keeping in shape that's got the hormones really buzzing.

 

Okay, seriously Chosuke -

You need to find a great sex counselor with a marriage counseling background. Try to find a female one so your wife will be more open.


How do you find them?

Via the net - yellow pages, yellow book, etc. then you call for references and you call the references to confirm this is the counselor for you and your wife. You want a proven track record. You will find the better counselors in the larger cities and a good one is worth their weight in gold.

Also you can try a University that is doing studies on your type of situation. You can become a case study and the counseling is free and quite fun if you get in the right setting.

Worse case, you will find out a lot about yourselves and move on one way or another. Best case - not only does everything improve, SEX will begin to ROCK!

 

Sex drive

Can vouch for that, when my wife went through menopause her sex drive diminished considerably

 

noooo - I only just discovered mine

 

I am 61 my wife is 58 we still have sex on regular bases there has been times of slow downs but we still bounce
Being into herbs & other nutrients probably helps a little but the only thing slowing us down now is lack of time ( I work two jobs )
If you feel like you are slowing down try "Muira Puama" amd "Damiana" but if
you are still able to make babies be careful these herbs not only boost your sex drive they also boost your potency