well sounds like your head is not in the same place....maybe you have something that you like that really gets your toes curling and pussy tingling when you think about it.....try that and see where it goes....i.e. role play, beastiality, etc. just a couple of ideas....also maybe you need clit massaging while being fucked, another idea....hope this helps....

 

a lot of good points have been made! Masturbation may be of service to you but if you don't enjoy and can't make a compromise it's no big deal. My current GF was having sex since 15 and hadn't had her first orgasm 'til two years later. It's a very emotional thing for girls, they have to be open to the idea, you can't let the stress and pressure of "will it happen?" distract you from enjoying the moment. My girl orgasms frequently with me and hadn't masturbated until I got her to play with herself during foreplay so I could learn to better please her. If it's not for you, don't worry about masturbation cause it's definitely not a necessity (though I can't bring myself to grasp how girls go without personally!)

another great point was the vibrator or toys. Some girls/women actually can't achieve orgasm without the assistance of a toy that vibrates at an adequate RPM. For some girls it takes a strong vibrator to produce enough stimulation as a partner's penis/hands/mouth just aren't fast enough. See if your partner is open to having sex with a toys. Take the time to explore, relax, and in time it will come! (or you will )

best of luck, you won't be disappointed when you find the key

 

Your words make me feel that you are REALLY determined to DO NOT masturbate.

I've met ladies like you, so I won't try to convince you to do something that you don't agree...

There are, at the sex shops, some penile rings that have some protuberances that are supposed to stimulate your clitoris while having intercourse.

There also is a vibrating ring (made by Durex) that really works fine (I've tried it with my wife)...

So, just try them and, if even this way you don't reach climax, PLEASE go and see a doctor!

 

Fantasy darling, fantasy. Watch some porn. Read some erotica online. You have to get aroused between your ears before you'll get aroused between your legs.

 

when I was young, scared to cum inside gf pussy didn't want a baby...if your scared or something just relax let it happen...I missed out on a lot because of it:wall:

 

Sounds like you're broken...get that shit checkef out.

 

I take it your partner doesnt do oral sex?

I have had many women who take an eternity to cum... It takes persistance, and it takes figuring out what makes those women tick... 80% mental with women. Try music, and concentrate on the music to distract your brain.

 

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You might want to think about a vibrator such as the Hitachi Magic Wand and use it during sex. For most ladies, the stimulation of the clitoris provides the greatest sensation so a vibrator used there while engaged in coitus might get you where you want to be.
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Getting off

Danika,

One thing I've learned over the years is that If you think about the orgasm too much it ain't going to happen. If you put pressure on yourself to have one it will create a "mental block".

Relax and let it go.

Tom

 

I must say that I really love this idea. I listen to music all day long because I really love it. I'll have to try it during sex.