What are some good positions for someone who is new to anal sex? And what is a good way to apply lube (my gf says that the lube never gets inside of her)

 

Doggy position is best,first you need not penetrate fully. Use more lubes,gradually both will know the best position.

 

Don't know if one or both of you have tried Anal before...I guess I'm asking if she's "broken in" or if you're in essence "de-virginizing" her.

If you're having a problem with the lube, finger her first. Either with your bare finger (with LOTS of lube) or put a condom around your finger (with LOTS of lube) and finger her first. This 1-gives you a chance to open her up a bit before you go plunging in and 2- gives you a chance to get some lube inside of her.

I'll repeat use LOTS of lube. There's no such thing as too much when you're starting out! Use LOTS of lube. Use LOTS of lube. Use LOTS of lube. Use LOTS of lube.

There are two approaches to "lubing up" that me and my bf use. Sometimes he just fingers me as we're warming up (as described before). But the other two methods are just a hell of a LOT of lube at my opening. Or he'll lube up his whole cock. (With LOTS of lube) Make sure you've opened her up a bit before using either method. If her sphincter is closed tight when you try to get in it's just gonna scrape off the lube as you enter. She needs to be a bit open and very relaxed.

I know I'm sounding like a broken record but that's something that a lot of people don't listen to. They want to penny pinch and use it as sparingly as possible. But if your GF stops wanting to have anal because it's uncomfortable you're gonna wish you had used MORE lube.

I don't know what kind of lube you're using. They make special lube for anal (it's thicker and is supposed to last longer). Perhaps you need to try that. I know that we started with KY and there was a bit of a problem with it not really going all the way in. So check into the anal lubes (at adult stores). It could be a good investment (although it's rather expensive if I remember).

Finally, in terms of position.....we started with Doggie. It was easiest for him to aim and whatnot. Plus it gives her a bit more control...she can pull away or set the pace. The most important thing (especially if she's not broken in) is to let her set the pace and control the situation. If she says "stop/ don't move/ wait!" LISTEN to her. It can be VERY painful at first and it's important that she know you're going to listen to her needs or she's not going to relax. And that'll just make everything harder.

 

thank you very much, i have astroglide is a liquid not a gel do you recomend a gelly type?

 

I really can't say. I've never used anything other than KY. If you're not embarassed you can go to an "adult book store" and ask them. They usually have good suggestions.

 

Yes, definitely doggy and listen to her like Snoochie said....I've never used lube, I must be crazy... ..Whatever you do take it very slow and easy.

 

Astroglide should be fine, it's nice and slippery and doesn't dry up as fast as some other lubes. I agree with Snoochies that doggy style is best for begginers. I'd also really encourage you taking the time to stretch her out, one finger at a time; by the time you can easily slip three fingers into her, it'll be much easier to take your cock. Go slow, be gentle, LISTEN to her, and use lots of lube. The most important thing is that she be able to relax through the whole process. Good luck and enjoy.

 

way good advice Y - !:rose:

 

Best position ?? .. Get her doggie style and fuck her ..

Sorry, I didn read the thread.... :mrgreen:

 

Since I'm a new guy, I'm reading through the older stuff, and thought I'd add my 2 cents worth re: lubing up. We have 2 ways to lube up, both work great. One is, go to the drug store and buy a child's liquid medicine syringe. Pull out the plunger, fill the syringe with lube, get the air out, and insert it into his/her ass. The other is to squirt your lube into a sandwich bag and put your cock, dildo,etc. into the baggie and squish the lube onto your tool. Very effective, and no mess at all. Plus, if you just stick clean things in the baggie, you can keep it until next time and use it again!

 

Contrary to some other post, girls I have been with don’t like anal doggie if they aren’t used to anal. It’s way too easy to go too deep. I'd try on her side or missionary with a pillow under her hips.




As far as your astroglide/ky question, atroglide seems gain something chemically when mixed with natural wetness. It still lubricates on its own but I might try a little spit or mix in her juice for added umph.

 

For my own experience, once I'm opened up a bit I find putting the bottle to my ass and squeezing a bunch (all?) inside me works about as well as anything. It makes some squishy sounds but you never run out and it feels "interesting" as it runs through me.

Love Always,
ixi

 

Doggy style and KY. Nothing more. Nothing less. (advice from someone who has had more cocks up his arse than most)