OK so I hate the word but I am almost certainly going to cheat and here are my reasons:

I am desperate to touch her, I cant think of anything else.
I want to kiss her so bad, and be kissed back
I want to be naked with her, running my hands over her breasts, feeling her nipples react.
I want to touch her pussy, stimulate her clit, feel how wet she gets
I want to push my fingers inside her,
I want to go down on her and eat her pussy
I want to feel her hand on my cock guiding it inside her
I want to feel her warmth, see her face expression when she cums
I want to ejaculate in her
Most of all I want nothing else other than to be close to her.

Sadly since my wife wont allow any of the above to happen then it seems I will have to find sex elsewhere

 

of course many people will say, cheating is cheating. WHy don't you just talk to her about your wants and stuff. Those are all valid, but nobody knows exactly what's going on in your relationship better than you.

I've always said, if you DO NOT keep your partner happy, then will seek it elsewhere.

I've heard of the types of women who 100% cut off sex after children have been had. They see sex as only a means to procreation. Fine, whatever, but to ask a man to competely stop wanting/having sex is just stupid. Maybe if you were with some religious freak who had the same ideals, otherwise it just isn't going to happen.

If you have HONESTLY gone to all measures possible to get her to try/do these things, or anything for that matter, then many won't blame you for cheating or even leaving.

People can ignore many things in relationships, quirks, pet peaves, character flaws, being a messy person, and so on, but sex is one hell of a powerfull thing to just shrug off like a personality flaws.

 

I love my GFand all, but she doesnt want to loose her virginity.. So i've been thinking of cheating .... Sometimes I just go with a guy (im closet bi) but i dont really consider it to be cheating.

 

If your wife wont have sex with you as you described,....do not cheat, offer her an open relationship,....she may need something you cant give her,...and you get hungry pussy :excited:

 

I'd need to know the honest reason for this major cut off as best as you can give it before saying yes, no or maybe? More details please!

 

No idea what more to say Milo. We pretty much stopped having sex when our second child was concieved. Our second is now 2 and a half. I knopw she works quite hard and is a bit stressed by work. I have talked to her and told her how I feel. She just says that she doesnt feel it is that important to her anymore and she doesnt know why she has gone off things.

Yes I know that stress and having kids is going to put a dampner on ones sex life to some degree. Its not as if can be quite so spontaneous etc etc. But zero touching Zero kissing zero anything sexual at all.... so I dont know

 

Yeah there must be more to this.

 

Then don't cheat just yet, instead see if you two can get a babysitter and find some time together or even set up an appointment with her doctor maybe, a therapist? It sounds like your child may have set her hormones off kilter so, bring these concerns to the surface and try to work them out and if all else fails there's always cheating. Before cheating you must exhaust all options first if you love her!

 

don't cheat. try to salvage the relationship.

sex is a big part of any relationship, it's an intimacy that begets more intimacy. if that is gone then it won't be long before the rest goes with it.

so try to fix it. if it can't be fixed, then leave her... and find someone you can be intimate with.

 

You need to tell her that you want sex, and that you expect her to at least make an effort to satisfy your wants and needs and offer to do the same. If you don't let her know about this problem before you cheat on her then you can't justify yourself. You can't let her think everything's fine, cheat on her and then blame her for your cowardice.

If, after you bring this problem to light, she doesn't make the effort to be more intimate with you, or you're still not satisfied with the level of intimacy then, idealy, you should let her know it's not working out. There is nothing wrong with breaking off a relationship you don't think is working out; even if there's a child involved, as long as you're still there for the child.

If you can't bring yourself to end the relationship with your wife and you want to have sex with other people, there's nothing wrong with having an open relationship. To let her know that you want an open relationship I'd suggest making subtle hint's, gauging her reaction, and then make less subtle hints, if she doesn't already seem dead set against it, and then finally just ask her.

If you find out she doesn't want an open relationship, and she won't have sex with you, or enough sex with you, and you still love her or don't want your relationship to end for whatever reason, then go ahead and cheat on her. It's still not the right thing to do, but clearly you do want to cheat on her. To at least some extent you could tell yourself it was her fault too, if that helps you sleep at night.

 

There is no legitimate reason to cheat in a monogamous relationship. Been there. Done that. Bad idea all together.

 

my excuses were just as lame

She doan't want me..
I love to take her ass..
I no one knows all will be good..
If I give my wife equal time..


a milloion more..

I Gave THE GF pissed the GF off..

now the hard part talking to the wife.. GOOD LUCK ON YOU

 

I am as faithful as my options, which are many. I will cheat only if an opportunity for a quick hitter presents itself. I make no effort to date the person, so it is usually a much younger girl, who is out thrill seeking, which is great for me.....My 16 yr old daughter is a great provider, since all of her friends, at least 3 current, have been more then willing sex partners on numerous occasions......Love having a pool and girls who parent(s) do not seem to mind that their daughter wears a micro bikini to a neighbors home, hell my daughters can only wear them in our back yard....

 

You forgot the best reason:

That you are a weak-willed coward

 

I'm not criticizing you but:

I hope your 16-yr-old daughter's friends are 18 years old (or older) otherwise you could be in a heap of trouble but I'm sure you thought of that already.

Are you sure? For all you know, your daughter's friends may have been read the same rule from their parents and yet they're wearing them in your pool (unless her friends don't have pools in their yards). Just sayin'.......

Other than that, have fun!! I'm rather jealous! :excited:

AS FOR THE OP, personally and as Diatravire said, I would exhaust all other avenues first, then divorce her, before cheating on her. Just my .02 cents.

 

I was in your position, try talking to her, my fiance and I decided to work together to figure out our issues. We bought a book that made a huge difference. We had the most amazing sex after trying one of the exercises for the first time. She had the strongest orgasm she had ever had she was moaning, and crying (not tears of pain or sadness) while cumming and bucking against me. She also used to have trouble getting wet and that day we didnt use lube once and had sex three times in a row. she came like that everytime. I am glad I decided I had enough and confronted her, if I had cheated on her this would have never happened

 

Sometimes you can plead, beg and express your wants to someone until you're blue in the face and STILL BE IGNORED AND CUT OFF FOR YEARS!! And I'm talking YEARS!!! Then be told "they" can't take it anymore after they've decided THEY didn't want any sex and push you away physically and emotionally. If this is the case with your wife, don't cheat on her. Divorce her and find someone who loves you and will take care of you.

A person can take only so much rejection.

 

Here is an idea .... Divorce her. But you will not, because you are a pussy who does not have the balls to do the right thing and divorce before going with someone else. If things are this bad why are you still with her.

 

Rothko, ignore the sad cases on here criticising you I'm about to PM you some constructive advice...

 

perfect expression right here.