well i have been with my gf for about 6 years now, im 23 shes 21. the problem is shes never really in the mood for sex. she hates oral sex (either on me or her). she seems to be very sensitive around her clit and doesnt really like it touched either. she doesnt like sex toys (ive bought her a few and she tossed them out afew weeks later). ive tried not askin her for it and anytime i bring it up she gets alittle mad. when we first started dating she was crazy in bed, she put on all sorts of outfits and heels..... i do all sorts of crap that i dont want to for her. and i know shes not at all a cheater. is there any meds or something that may help her get into the mood some. im the complete opposit and im always in the mood, is there anything out there that can knock down my horneyniss?

 

anyone?

 

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try and talk to here about it even if she gets mad just ask.

i know you probably don't wane hear this but she might be cheating on you.

 

They make a female extense to help with the females mood. But above all. Talk to her to try and fix the issues.

 

You need to break up your paragraphs.

There isn't enough detail. I think there should be descriptions of what your girlfriend wore to entice you, what she looked like, how the two of you fucked each other and whether or not she came. Add all of that to your story and I'll take another look when it's finished.

 

No no, you're breaking character. This is an interactive story in the epistolary point of view. We will all collaborate by exchanging messages consoling and advising the thread starter on his fictional love life, and one of us can even pretend to be his angry girlfriend catching him complaining about their sex life. This is the future of literature.

 

Or,

He could post his question in the Sexuality forum, where it belongs. You would think someone who has been here for almost two years would know that.

Sheesh.

 

Oh thank go I thought I missed something because this story sucked. No character detail no plot and no climax. How can you have a sex story without a climax?

 

i kno for a 100 percent fact that shes not cheating on. and ive moved the damn post over to the other section. sorry i dont log in much and have no idea where to post. its under "gf help"

 

A lot of people can be vultures around here when it comes to forum etiquette...and the bitch is, every forum has slightly different implied policies when it comes to this...though I am guilty of flaming for certain things as well, it just gets irritating at times seeing the exact same things over and over. It should be understood that someone with only 14 posts may not have learned the ropes around here, regardless of join date...and it's not like you started a thread that you can find literally thousands of threads on the topic by searching...don't take it personally, it is just our way of acting "cool" by bitching at people for not learning the etiquette in a timely manner.

Anyway, you seem to have nearly the exact same issue as I do with my wife. We were together for 7 years, the problem started after about 2 years. I decided about April of last year that it was time to get married or break up...my stupid ass chose to get married last November.

I have a theory on this issue, as I have been closely involved with it for 5 years. Females let out their inner freak at first to impress us and rope us in, then once they have us on a leash, the cut off all sexual ties; and we as men are stupid enough to tough it out (cuz that's what we do...we're tough) in hopes that she is just going through a stage and the freak in the bedroom will soon return. When it doesn't work, we start kissing the ground they walk on, provide a house and home and sometimes family for them, some of us even start picking up after ourselves and even <gasp> do housework trying to impress her enough to get some reward sex. While it's not the freaky sex we have been hoping for to return, we settle just for getting our rocks off without doing it ourselves; and just try harder to impress her next time and hope the reward will improve, but it never does and before you know it you are a wrinkely old man who doesn't even remember what it's like to have a hard on.

 

It is time to leave her. She will never want what you want nor will she change. You have shown her you will go without and not talk about it. She knows that you want her and as long as you give any type of signal, she will play off it and use it to her advantage.

You were young and not emotionally mature when you began dating. People grow and change. You/she have and will continue to do so. Being so young, you are finding new experiences and meeting new people. And doing things you have never done. Don't miss out on the woman that maybe your soul mate because you think it will work.

If it was ment to be she would be your friend and lover. Not just a friend. She would show you in many ways. Sex is one.

I would say she is cheating on you no matter what you think. No one wants to admit that the one they love and care for is stepping out on them. I have seen it with to many friends and myself. All the signs are the same. It starts with the sex and continues onto other things.

Just end it with her and move on. It will be best for you in the long run.

 

I hate to tell you this, but usually sex goes downhill, but I don't know how much farther it can go downhill for you since you're already with a sexual dud...if you value yourself, you'll find someone who can appreciate your horniness instead of squashing and ignoring it. YOU'RE TOO FUCKING YOUNG TO HAVE TO GO WITHOUT!!! I speak from years of experience.

 

is she on birth control? cause i know a lot of birth controls can affect sex drives.

 

Same situation here.

 

First problem with a question like this is there's not enough room for all the information (your position and hers) how it all started and what steps you took at that time to fix it so, I'll share my story shortened? Married a 22 year old virgin and 6 months in she tapped the brakes on our sex life I immediately told her this wouldn't do while re- enforcing my love and respect for her! Many years of arguing and compromising with me taking on mistresses with her full knowledge (and permission at times) that her complacency was not an option I chose, almost 26 years later things are way better with no outside activity needed. If you love her you have to get to the bottom of this, there will be fights, there will be pain and who knows where it'll go but, neither of you can live this way successfully without knowing every detail like it or not! If she says she doesn't want to talk about it, make it clear that it's not going away till, it's settled for better or worse!

 

i do bring it up alot, but it goes no where lol but now that she seen my email and seen i posted something she started giving it up some . thanks for the real advice. we both kno everything about each other i mean everything.

 

In the end it's all that matters, Godspeed!