I was going through my daughter's phone and found some pictures she took of herself and sexted to her boyfriend. I don't think she should be doing this at 15. I want to bring this up to her but I am too embarrassed because I have been having sexual thoughts about her ever since

 

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Say nothing. Keep enjoying and getting off on that hot lil young body of hers.

 

Shes 15 and sexting her bf.. !!!

Time to have a chat but whatever you do dont mention that you have been going through her phone.

If she is having sex with her bf you need to know she is practising safe sex and is using contraceptive.

She also needs to know that statutory rape charges are going to look absoloutely brilliant on her bfs CV. Forget College he will be struggling to get a job stacking shelves at Walmart, so a word with his parents is in order too.

As to you getting turned by your own daughter I think you need to do some close self examination, getting turned on by a naked woman is normal ( I will assume she is sexually mature) but she is your daughter and she is 15..Nuff said huh!

 

"Statutory rape"? Where the hell you getting that from? From the little bit the OP wrote I think he would have mentioned if the bf was more that 3 years older. Most states don't consider kids having sex with kids the same age as statutory rape. But who knows, seems like you're bringing up an issue that didn't need to be addressed but since you mentioned it, -Darksidedad, how old is the boyfriend? And what state are you in? (Seems like if this bit of information of location was given in the first place much of the arguments wouldn't happen.)

I do agree that he has to closely examine himself about his feeling toward his daughter. Here's a few questions, before seeing her pix, were you sexually interested in her at all? How much does she look like a her mom at a young age?

 

OK so Im not a legal expert and maybe I got this wrong.

It doesn't however change the fact that there is a strong possibility that his daughter is having sex and as a responsible adult figure the onus ought to be on him to ensure that she is practicing it safely.

 

kids are going to do WHATEVER they want anyway, they'll find a way. Didn't you when you were younger?? ya, i thought so.

Being a responsible parents also means you have to talk to your kids and educate them. 95% of teens have sex before legal age, get over it. But look how many unwanted teen pregnancies there are and how many of them were truly naive.

Help your kids understand the responsibility of sex, dont just tell them NO YOU CANT HAVE SEX. Thats like telling a child don't get into the cookie jar. They're going to get into the "cookies" one way or the other.

 

Who said anything about being told not to have sex. I think you are right, they will probably do it anyway but being educated as to the risks is key.

 

How typical......err.......I mean how odd. Every post you have made on the forum concerns incest, a fascination with your daughter, heck even your chosen nick name.........and suddenly like clockwork there it is in your own thread.

Yes, I'm sure you're very embarrassed fapping away.

Hush......an alias

 

I would NEVER tell her I went through her phone. But, if I did bring it up to her, I don't know how I could saw I found them without admitting I went through her phone.

Her bf isn't much older than she is, so stat rape charges aren't the issue. I imagine he could get a "possession of a nude minor" charge. I have thought about talking to his parents....but that would be pushing blame on him and not taking responsibility for my daughter's actions.

I will think about this some more. Thanks for a helpful answer.

 

I am in California.

And for the record, I never had a sexual thought about my daughter while she was growing up. I'd be lying if I said that was the case after her body changed, but I made it a point not to entertain any kind of thoughts like that before seeing the pics. Afterward, it became much more difficult not to.

I think you are on to something with your last question. Her mother was a knockout and I met her when she wasn't too much older than my daughter is now (we had her young). I think this factor might be playing into these feelings

 

Her mother and I have had talks with her about sexual responsibility, and I have told her directly how boys/guys/men operate, so she is no dummy on the subject. I can guide her about sex, but I can't stop her from having it.

But I think the issue here is the act of sexting itself. I don't think she realizes how risky, pervasive and embarrassing the consequences can be (and not just for her). It's something a harlot would do, not something my daughter should be doing.

 

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I would say nothing to her about the pictures,, and say nothing to her BF,,, he will tell her you said something to him,,, believe me !! And you will get thought of as a snoopy parent !! :-s So I would say to keep track of whats going on,,, and remember your daughter is coming to the age that sex is having sexual thoughts,,, just as you were at her age !! Enjoy the pictures,,, And if it turns you on,, jerk off thinking of that tight little body !!

 

I started this thread with the intention of admitting I have been getting turned on when I shouldn't be. I'll also admit I may have been going through her phone for selfish reasons, but as a dad, I think I have that right to do that just like I would go through her drawers looking for drugs. I did not forward or save those pics (that would be a criminal act) but the situation is still awkward. Do you have anything more helpful to add?

 

I would say nothing about the pictures directlly, maybe in passing mention something you had read / heard about, kids sending pics and regreting it later, as in her bf showing his mates and stuff, I think children just grow up faster these days with all the media, internet, etc etc, or make a joke about it one day when she is texting or on facebook on her phone, e.g I hope your not sexting there young lady !!. and laugh, yet that will depend on what sort of relationship you have with your daughter to be able to make a joke.... many a true word said in jest.

Personally I dont think you should have looked at her phone, these days phones are minature P.c's (Personal, computers) you wouldnt look through her Diary would you.
R.e being turned on by it ...... My sister is very attractive but I can hold my hand on my heart and honestly say I have never looked at her and fancied her, been aroused by her in any capacity what so ever, incest in a fantasy roleplay capacity, fantasy story, fine, realisticlly though erm ..... not my thing

 

This is the most reasonable approach I didn't think of, thank you.

As for what you said about your sister, I felt the same way. But something happened and I looked at her differently. I let my guard down, I stopped fighting the urge, and then I had one of the most intense orgasms of my life....I've regretted it ever since.

i wonder, if you ever saw your sister in sexually suggestive poses, would your advice would be different?

 

You have to find a way to discuss the consequences of teens sending nude pictures. Not particularly about her, just something in passing. Not only would her bf get a possession charge, but if caught, your daughter would get a distribution charge and both of them would be registered sex offenders for the rest of their lives. Yes the law charges girls who send their own pics!

 

I'm not going to even touch the incest thing! But as far as maybe breaking the ice about sexting maybe mention one of these celebrities whose phones got hacked and all the naked pics are now on every site possible!

 

this a bad decision i need meditate

 

I am sorry darkside but you best get those thoughts out of your head...This is your flesh and blood, and if you even think for one minute that what your thoughts are telling you to do is ok, you need to find yourself some help and quick...Don't listen to anybody on here telling you that it is natural or normal to think or act on this...I am not a judge but common sense tells us to reign in our thoughts when it comes to things like this and obviously you feel the same way or you wouldn't have posted what your thinking...Be smart, be decent, and be a father...

 

Guy are you even serious? Thats his baby girl and your telling him to do nothing but get off on her pics!!! wow