All of you are right. Yes I do know what booze does to sex drives, and yes he is depressed. I can clean with him about cheating, I'm not good at lying. He also I'd depressed and has gained 80lbs throughout our marriage which I reminded him of plenty as payback for telling me I needed to lose weight when we met. Our relationship is toxic I know. But I don't constantly cheat, it's just when he takes his stupid flights. I'm trying for him. I am semi un-attracted to him but I'm trying to get him to go work out with me by saying things like "it's a good way to spend time together"

I think I need to leave but am giving it a last go for his sake, he loves me and hates the D word

 

Hmm,

I hate repeating myself..just think it through engaged. It's a life changing action. And only you know when it's time to cut your losses and move on. None of us do. On your side girl...

 

My BF only turns downs his wife.. if I offer he is eating me..

 

why turn it down.....
1. marryed
2. not that I like
3. don't do strangers because of STDs


why I would....
1. look at that ......

 

" But I don't constantly cheat"


But you don't "constantly cheat", ....................how does that sound? You aren't ready for an adult relationship. D Word now, it'll be the best thing you've ever brought to your "relationship".

 

I wonder if you would all say half of this type of thing if I was a guy.
I cheated on him for leaving for Mexico while claiming he was "going to Chicago for a job" not to mention this was when we were more than broke. I'm not gonna make more excuses, cheating is wrong, but I was angry I didn't know what else to do that would make me feel like we were even.

 

Times I've said no...

If I'm sober and she's not, I'm probably going to say no. She has the right to be in the same mental state that I am when she makes that descision.

If she's in a relationship, I don't care if she grabs me and pulls me into the bedroom, I'm not biting... literally or figuratively

If she's related to someone I care about, or is someone I care about, I'm not going to let her get in my pants.

 

if he doesnt want the pussy, see if he wants the ass...might get him interested again

 

Honey, if you were a guy this whole thread would have been people blaming you, saying you need to work harder, eat more pussy, buy more shit, beg and plead and fight and earn some sex. Then, when you admitted to cheating, the majority of the community on here would have rained holy righteousness down on you. Seriously, there's got to be 10 threads like that. Look around.

To your situation, I repeat:

Your shit is broken. Get a divorce.

 

I never ever ever ever ever turned down pussy

 

I dunno but 420 (nothing too hard core ... ) has always turned me into a freakin fuck machine ... last time I hit some herb then went to play with a lady friend of mine, her and I went literally through the night, I had cum so much that I had nothing left, and she was left laying on the living room floor sith serious gape, a red swollen pussy and a body covered in cum. She loved it but than also asked me to do so again in moderation.

She was walkin around weird for days .. as was I .. good thing I opted to do this on our 1st day of vacation.

 

no drugs for me...but I will try that book you mentioned

 

Chick, in all seriousness... and drugs aside... if what has been said about you in here is true then your man probably resents you. Being so full of negative emotion about the person who wants to fuck you isn't likely to get an erection at all, and even if he does he's in the wrong headspace to enjoy it anyway.

You've mentioned that he was like this when you first met so I guess I'm curious as to why you think things would be different now?

Try counselling. If it doesn't work then at least you've tried... and if he refuses to go, you basically have your answer.

 

The sex was great until about 2 years ago when money issues got in the way of our relationship. That certainly sent us into a spiral. He drank when we met, why I thought that would decrease I will never know-- I guess when you really care about someone you want to hope for the best. Once insurance kicks in I plan to offer him a treatment progam for alcoholism. And yea, if he turns that down- I gotta go

 

What it sounds like to me is that he is using you. First off, he went to Mexico for fun instead of chicago to get a job. What is there to think other then he went there to cheat on you. You confronted him about you cheating on him, now he has something against you. And what ever you do, do not tell him you want him to get treatment for alcoholism, that would be like him calling you or any man calling a woman a cunt all hell will break loose.

You need to turn the row on him, tell him you will not buy his alcohol for him. If he wants to drank, he needs to get a job and support his wants. No more plane rides. Find time to go out with a family member and when he ask where you are going, tell him out with friends from work. Another words take the control out of his hand and put it back in yours. If none of this works start talking about divorce, he doesn't want a divorce cause he has it easy with you. and the next time you ask him to fuck you and he refuses, tell him fine you will go rub one out.

 

Been there

 

I suppose if there is puss oozing out along with blood then yeah I would ignore and avoid like the plague but if its completely healthy and no medical issues to worry about then yeah I would accept no problems

 

That right never have turned her down

She is right about turning down eating the wife.. but not the GF

 

I am her son

And it is the sweetest tasting pussy around.. and Her BF knows I eat her Pussy..

 

only times i've ever turned it down was when I first meet a chick and she just seems dirty and not in a good way or depending on where I am with my personal relationship if another girl offers I may say no. But as far as when I'm committed whenever she say's go it's on like donkey kong, lol (had to say it):excited: because no matter what I love seeing and making a woman cum no matter how many times I've been with her.