14 (I think). 21 now.

 

From what I understand, HFA generally implies sub-genius at least. Use that power to find outside support. :rose:

:excited: One source to help you find that support might be the one who gave the diagnosis.
Another source might be volunteering to assist the mentally disabled - they might be less likely to judge any missteps you make.
:rose: Find the pattern which needs breaking and then find what would assist in that disruption. :rose:

One thing that I know is that social skills are learned and the later in life that you start learning them, the harder it becomes due to the need to overcome prior habits which were created by the lack of those skills to begin with.

 

Thank You :rose: Which is exactly the point I was trying to make with my post.

 

So much good advice given already.

I agree. Take it easy and just try. It may not be easy for you but try to pick up on the cues that people give off. Figure out what works and try to stop doing the things that don't.

 

The OP seems like an extreme introvert. Introversion has advantages. A disadvantage is that introverts have difficulty developing social skills and the social understanding social skills are based on. In social settings introverts should respond more like extroverts. That does not mean that they should be socially aggressive. It does mean that they should observe others, and see what kind of behavior is appropriate to the situation.

One rarely commits faux pas by being a good listener.

 

Everyone is different in their own way!

 

That is not good advice for someone lacking in confidence. The OP should try to be a nice guy, and a sympathetic listener.

 

I am scared to talk to some guys.

 

Then listen to them. Try to take an interest in what they are talking about. Ask them questions they enjoy answering. Let them do most of the talking.

 

But what if they talk about something I know nothing about?

Do I just pretend I know?

 

Ask them about what they are talking about. People love to share their knowledge.

 

Do you belong to a support group with other autistic people? That would be common ground with others who are understanding to your needs, maybe some friendships will develop. It's easier to be more comfortable with others who have similar issues. There's somebody for everybody. Surely there is a lonely girl out there with similar issues who would be thrilled to meet a guy she could be comfortable with.

 

Aura of Confidence

I think that correct spelling in the written word projects confidence.

 

If you are autistic, this site would work perfectly for you. I suspect it was developed by an autistic guy...

http://www.succeedsocially.com/

 

Did I spell something wrong?



OP- just the fact that you made this thread and you are responding to people's posts is a step in the right direction....

Every conversation you have either on a web site or in real person will boost your communication skills.

I agree with a previous poster look, for support/social groups with people who have the same issues as you do. Hopefully there will be a qualified moderator to lead the group.

GOOD LUCK!
NEW :rose:

 

No such thing as normal. The whole world is a stage. Everybody has issues. Some just wear the mask better than others.

 

HEY! who the fuck is that?

 

You saw nothing.

 

Hi I was working and on june 10 2010 got fired...it's my feet and back...now disabled by S. S. in pain every day from operation in march 1982.....was depressed for over a year...now don't think about killing my self....but the next thing better kill me...so not all better yet...but I can under stand what your saying....PS this is the short story............

 

Everyone is scared to speak to some guys.Don't panic over that.