How can I stop myself from cheating on my wife, do you think I was born to fuck around?

 

Why do you want to stop??

 

I think a good start is to ask yourself, why do you feel the need to cheat on your wife? Is there some emotional need not being met, or perhaps trouble in the bedroom? Are you no longer attracted to her? What drives you to cheating?

 

Ya exactly what this guy said.

 

men were suppose to spread their sperm in as many holes as possible.

 

If you truly want to stop cheating on your wife then you will. It's not that hard.

 

Not that easy

Its easy said than done. I've done it from day one and when the occasion arises its hard to turn it down

 

This is the most solid advice. Once you know what drives the desire, you can discuss the need you have with your wife, or seek to curb the need.

Be honest with yourself, then with her.

 

mickey,
I have the same proublom I love to have sex with different women. I love my wife and we have great sex but I look at all women and want to fuck them. Maybe a fettish? Maybe haveing sex with tht same person time after time loses it's excitement? After all when I am looking outside of the marrige it is for sex only just that no love no relationship just sex, most of the time it is only one or two times with any one women then it's off on a search again. I have gone back to see some of them again when times get tough. I am very open and honest with all of the women I meet about my intenchions. Most of the women I find are in the same boat as me or are single and have not got fucked in a while. That is why I like the time to treat them right and make them feel good.P.S. as we speak I have a 24 year old women waiting to fuck me as soon as we get the chance I do not want some lunch hour fuck I want 3 to 4 hours with her at least

 

can't stop.

Love my wife, but she is a zero in bed. Believe me, I've done everything possible to enhance the experience with/for her, but she just has no natural drive. I still love her, care for her... give her everything, etc.

Unfortunately, many of her pretty friends find me hard to resist and love to take care of me... and they have huge urges that I LOVE to fulfill.

 

This. My wife is beautiful and I love her, but beauty and sexuality are TOTALLY different things. A plain-Jane woman with just the right snarl and natural drive will beat any super-model that lays there passively hands-down.

And sometimes people just don't have sexual chemistry. What do you do when you're 10-20 years married, love each other, maybe have kids? Have a financially destructive divorce that lowers everyone's standards of living, and devastate your spouse and everyone around you just so you can go chase the ass you want? Or do you accept your doom? Or thirdly, do you roll the dice, get your personal gratification and tell yourself that their ignorance is bliss?

 

go for option #3. Although eventually you WILL get caught.

 

It's just unlikely that you won't. I'd take them odds

 

Thanks for the comments guys and gals. I know what the underlying problem is, but do you think if I found the perfect woman , I could still help myself from cheating on her?

 

I am curious for women's opinion.

Although if a woman is horny, she gets her husband to fuck her anytime.

If a guy is horny, he can't always get the wife to fuck him.

So that's why guys need to cheat?

disclaimer: after talking, discussing, etc with the wife about needs... and still you don't get any... then you cheat?

 

Look if a guy is bored he is going to cheat. Love has nothing to do with it. If the sex is getting old and boring and always the same, guys are going to start becoming interested in finding good sex elsewhere. I wish more women understood this.

 

As for me fidelity is highly over rated

 

Well the problem is, Mick, that there is no such thing as a "Perfect" woman. You're only setting yourself up to be hurt if you keep chasing fantasies.

 

So. I've done the cheating thing. Quite a lot, as it happens, and I've got quite a particular way of looking at it. People might recall the last time I talked about how to cheat, and was promptly accused of being a sociopath... but no matter.

The way I see it, you're cheating for one of three reasons.

Reason one: you aren't happy with your current partner, so you're searching for satisfaction elsewhere, either emotionally, physically, or psychologically. Perhaps you like the thrill.

Reason two: you're not in a time in your life where you want to settle down with someone. Thus, you've got itchy feet. You chafe against the bit of long-term monogamy, and so you stray.

Reason three: you have no conception or regard for human societal codes, or societal morals. They simply do not exist for you; you are possibly a sociopath.

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Reason three is unlikely, because if you were sociopath you simply wouldn't be asking the question you did. You'd just get on with cheating, and you'd be very careful - pathologically careful - not to get caught.

This leaves reasons one and two. It doesn't matter which is correct; all that matters is that you're in a relationship you don't want to be in. This is, surprisingly, easily solved by leaving. And though you may think it's hard to finish relationships, it's not. It's horrifyingly easy. Ask anyone who's ever been dumped by a partner.

But I think you're a little bit scared. She represents something that the great unknown doesn't - regular, quantifiable, reliable affection. In the presence of that, it's easy to thrill-seek. Take that away, and suddenly you're not thrill-seeking, you're fighting tooth and nail. Or are you? If the answer to that is 'no' then I cannot urge you more strongly to leave your relationship, for your own sake and, if I am to partake of societies moral qualms, then I must advise you to think of your partner as well.

 

Its not the perfect woman, it's the woman who connects with you in the bedroom