My girlfriend is a virgin...she wants to stay a virgin till marriage but lets me finger her.
The problem is she gets really close to having a orgasm but no matter wat she never has one. Anyone have any tips of finishing her off? Oral is out of question, she wont allow it

 

I'd say oral! She doesn't know what she's missing! But since she won't allow you to feast on her delicious pussy, I'd say try using toys like a little vibrator. Or pleasure eggs.

Good luck

 

She won't allow oral? silly, silly girl!!!

 

Slip your cock in and tell her she'll still be a virgin - (honest)

 

i agree about the toys. Buy an egg/bullet and use it on her clit (and everywhere else in the area she'll let it go).

 

Forget her, your marriage will be a mess, she's not willing to do oral, guess no way to dream of anal.. you are about to mary the Holy Virgin Mary & she'll remain that way !

 

She needs to allow oral..god this girl dont know what shes missing !
What smart normal girl doesnt accept oral ?? haha im appauled !
jk hey maybe shes shy

well id go with the toys as well, egg works wonders for me =)

 

have her read this thread and hear it from other gurls.. she NEEDS to let you go down.. at the same time you need to be good at it.. let us tell her to get over whatever it is thats stopping her from doing oral..

 

any tips on convincing her to do oral??

 

is she super religious or something?

 

hahah as a girl thats the only excuse i could think of...honestly this girl needs to let him do it !

 

Tell her dont let the screen door.

 

Since I can't ask you dozens of clarifying questions, I'll just post a long note on technique that may help you. Having a woman orgasm in your hand is one of life's most satisfying experiences, in my opinion.

1) Check the mood and set the mood. Poking around like a clumsy proctologist with bad aim from the get-go wont do the trick. Relax. Let her feel you relax. Be totally in the moment. Attitude counts - she can sense what yours is, so do a reality check on yourself before you start. She probably isn't as goal-oriented about this as you are, so let go of that detail in your mind and let things flow.

2) Take your time and pay attention to her WHOLE body. If you don't have a list of where her favorite non-genital errogenous spots are, you're already in trouble. Her pussy isn't going to run away or disappear if you spend time on her neck, breasts, legs, lips, small of her back, buttocks, etc. Try a little mini-massage on her hands, scalp or feet before you attempt to "get busy".

3) Kiss her - alot. Kiss her - alot. KISS HER - ALOT. I hate to put too fine a point on this, but you really should kiss her alot. While you're kissing her, let your hands roam about her body. Carress her lightly in some spots, grip her more firmly in others. Stay away from her pussy at this stage, no need to rush - she's just warming up. Use your mouth to kiss her wherever else she likes to be kissed. Keep up your discipline about not rushing to her genitals. You're just going to have to suffer with a raging hard-on for a while longer.

4) Peel her clothes off a piece at a time and give whatever area gets exposed all kinds of attention - extra caresses with your hands, more kissing of her skin, tell her how soft, gorgeous & amazing that part of her is and how much you love it. Go back and kiss her mouth passionately from time to time as you are taking her clothes off. Take a look into her eyes, you'll know if you're on the right track or not. Smile at her - don't be so damn serious - let her feel how much you are enjoying this.

5) Let her take the lead about how naked you're going to get. She may want you nude as well, she may not care. Either way, just go with it and try to forget about how your cock feels like it is going to explode like the Hindenburg. Once you both are as unclothed as you're going to get, snuggle up close to her - press your whole body along hers and kiss her again. You can't be close enough. Tell her you love giving her pleasure.

6) If she likes her breasts touched or kissed, that's a good place to focus while you settle in for the last stage. Use your hands and mouth to smother her chest with attention. You ought to know what she likes - sucking, pinching, grasping, whatever it is - do it. Hopefully her body will respond to your activity - her back may arch to meet your touch, her nipples may get stiffer than usual . . . pay close attention here because timing is important - if you jump too soon you may miss the mark, if you wait too long, the moment may pass.

7) Move one hand along her belly and across her thigh. A light touch is good, but not so light as to tickle her. Let your hand roam just outside of her most sensitive spots. Believe it or not - no touching the pussy yet! Don't worry, you're getting close. Use your whole palm, use just your fingertips, but keep your hand on the surface of her skin as it slowly meanders along her belly, hips, tummy, thighs. She will let you know when she wants you to touch her pussy. Her legs may part, she may roll her hips towards your touch, she may grab your hand and put it right onto her. Again, your job is to focus on the details of what is going on and react accordingly. Also, you're still kissing her, right? Good.

8) OK - it's time to touch her pussy. But, guess what - no penetration just yet. That's right, you've still got a bit more to do to truly prepare for her orgasm. Your hand needs to pay attention to her entire pussy. It's not just a hole, it is a lovely and complex universe unto itself. With the butt of your palm on her mound, let your entire hand rest across her. Move your whole hand across the surface - not hard enough to part her lips, but firm enough to feel all the delicious details. Spread your fingers a bit until you can feel the skin just outside her lips. Move your hand further down until your fingertips can sense the bottom edge of her ass. Move your hand in ovals, circles or figure eights as you increase the pressure. Your movement may spread her lips apart and you'll feel her moisture and heat. Discipline! It's not quite time to stab a finger in there - your patience will be rewarded.

9) By now, you should be getting all kinds of signals that what you're doing is working. Her breathing is different, her face may be flushed, her body may be squirming or moving in response to your touch. If she isn't really into what is going on in an obvious way at this point, then you might as well stop. If she has any libido at all, it should be surfacing big time. If you are prone to hand cramps, or lack the discipline for stamina, the next part is not for you. In any case, you've finally made it to the part alot of guys get to in step 3.

10) There are lots and lots of ways to make that first touch of her inner parts. She may be wet enough that simply sliding a finger between her lips will do it, you could use two of your fingers to slightly spread her while a third finger enters; whatever method seems right at the time, go for it. Again, penetration isn't necessarily the goal here - her inner lips, clit and the lower edge of her vagina all need attention. Putting a finger or two inside her is fine, but unless you're trying for a g-spot-type orgasm, a woman's pussy has alot more nerve endings on the surfaces than inside. Explore a bit with your fingers, get really familiar with the territory. As you are touching her, you may get responses from time to time. Go back and try to duplicate what caused her to react. It may be the spot, it may the way you touched that spot, it may be some combination of the two. Your goal is to give her pleasure, so don't focus on what you think it ought to be - pay attention to what is working and give her the pleasure she's responding to.

11) Now, if you have found a spot and a touch that is revving her motor - stay there. This part is all about rhtyhm and pace. You want to try and maintain a consistent motion, changing your speed or pressure only in response to her requests or movements. Nothing frustrates a woman more than getting right to the edge of an orgasm touchdown and having her lover fumble. Let her orgasm come to you - don't chase it. She wants to cum now - she needs to release all that beautiful tension you've built up in her - her body is electric and your hand is going help her reach the apex of her pleasure - fantastic!

12) We're not done yet. Your lady may be a lighting-quick orgasmic, but more likely her orgasm will have a couple of stages to it and you need to be alert to these changes. Let go of her too soon and she may kill you, but touch her too long or hard on a super-sensitive spot after she has cum and she may break your arm. If you're lucky, she will have enjoyed that experience so much that she'll forget all of her religious and moral convictions and demand that you eat her out and fuck the daylights out of her. Or she may want you to do that same thing to her again and again until she passes out. Keep it all about her and you'll be rewarded - that much I guarantee.


well, good luck - hope that helps.

 

Very well written old tool! As a woman I'd melt in your hands And I'm sure not a single woman could resist such attention.

 

Naahh, he's trying too hard...

(after reconsidering) Ok, one time maybe. Maybe twice...

:rose:

 

Damn fine work Oldtool. I agree with all that. There are however women incapable of reaching orgasm(what a cruel cruel world). Sometimes it can just be mental block and women will not allow themselves to reach it for such reasons as vulnerability and so on. She needs to trust you and be comfortable with you and then pretty much everything Oldtool said.

 

hmmmm, I'm not sure I could stop after only 2 times. We'd better set a long weekend aside so there is plenty of time for me to try just hard enough. :-D

 

I'm not religious but I'm sure glad it's the Easter weekend...

We did steps 1-12 a couple of times last night and then again at breakfast, just to make sure I hadn't missed anything

Seriously though, I love to listen to her heart while err.. working. It's a real turn-on to actually hear her motor racing! Plus I can tell when she's on the brink as her rate suddenly jumps up just as she's getting there and so I can ease off the pressure or go to a favourite spot or go a bit faster, whatever it takes to push her over the edge.

Usually she makes me stop for a recovery or we fuck instead but lately, she's let me continue to bring her up a second time straight away. After the first time, I have to go much more gently and avoid touching her clit directly for a few minutes as she's too sensitive. So I'll skirt around it or go for her G-spot or just use blunt pressure from my palm (pressing and kneeding, rather than any friction)... That seems to work and then as she comes up to the boil, she'll let me work her clit gently and that pushes her over the edge again.

She really loves oral and I love the taste of her juices - if she asks me "what do you want for breakfast?" My favourite answer is "You"

 

OT what a great detailed tutorial. Hope that takes care of his problem.:rose::rose::rose::rose::rose::rose:

 

Old Tool, that was a truly mammoth post.

Kudos.