Okay, I was talking to as friend on here earlier about my relationship and it got me wondering if maybe I'm wasting my time. We have only been together about 3 weeks. The sex is not satisfying me at all. She don't like her pussy licked witch I love to do by the way. she don't give oral. Its just plain missionary sex and thats it. When I try to talk to her about it she changes the subject. Can't even get her to talk dirty...LOL. I'm not really emotionally attached and I know if I broke it off we could still be friends. What I want to know is should I move on or keep going and hope she breaks out of this shell?

 

If its only been 3 weeks, I would say you just aren't meant to be together.

Unless, everything else is so wonderfully perfect that you just seem meant for each other... Other than in the bedroom. Have you tried talking to her, I mean really having a conversation and not while in bed and she's said no?

 

Just leave a lot of porn lying around, watch it naked when she's in the room, and talk freely about sex in as crude a way as you can. She'll either end the relationship (worst case), or she'll figure that she had better learn to cope with you as you are. Sometimes it takes a sexually-liberated person to make it okay for a repressed person to join the party.

If she doesn't respond, it's a huge red flag.

 

Yes I have actually triedr a legitimate conversation but I get no where. I useually get this disgusted look from here and the subject changed or ignored. And no there is really nothing specific holding me down to this relationship.

 

I think you should dump her and find someone who is willing to do more with you.

 

Well you've got nothing to lose so you might as well go with the nuclear option, an ultimatum.

Let's see how to phrase the conversation starter.

"<Insert Girl's Name Here>, we need to talk. Listen, I like you but our sex life is seriously lacking compared to what I'm used to. And your inability or unwillingness to talk about it is damaging our relationship. Now I don't want to force you to do anything sexually that you don't want to do but we are going to at least talk about it. If we don't at least talk about it I don't see this relationship going anywhere."

Then she either talks about it or you break things off. Just remember to stay calm. And good luck.

 

I think you need to give it some time. You don't know each other very well yet. It is hard to be open and willing to try things with a person you don't know that well. Give it a while and try and introduce new things slowly until you have her trust. She may have had some bad experiences in the past and you need to gain that from her before you start asking her to do things she doesn't like or is uncomfortable with.

 

IT WILL NOT CHANGE!!!! Don't fool yourself into thinking that it will get better! It won't! Find someone who will take care of your needs and completes you. I would guess that you already know this otherwise you wouldn't have posted the question. So do you both a favor and get out now and move on!

 

Great advice, Ryan!

 

She's not breaking out of anything and you shouldn't shoulder the burden of being responsible for what she does or her happiness. If I were you, check your Pride and leave her alone. If you make her your focus, you're going to be in the ride of your life. Just pick up and go. She's not worth the effort and your time. Trust me. I went through the same thing. She made up her mind who she wants to be. I suggest you do the same.

 

+1

Listen to this lady, she knows what she's talking about. Adult sensible conversation is not going to change things, you need this more forthright approach to have any chance of liberating her sexuality.

 

I'd go along with Kimiko as well. Not every woman is open about sex, or indeed keen on other positions. Give it a try. You have nothing to lose.

 

I'll second (or third) Kimikos comments. Personally I waste no time letting a woman know what I am all about in the bedroom. Submissive women and women with submissive tendencies tend to be attracted to me and vice versa. If I do run in to a woman who is uncomfortable with my dominance or my way of doing things the leash is short. Much as I may want to keep her around I am ultimately going to be unhappy in the bedroom and that is unacceptable. She too will be pressured and unhappy and that too is unacceptable to me. :wall: I imagine that if you stay together that several months from now the situation will come to a head and two very frustrated people with completely different view points will be angrily splitting up. There is nothing wrong with trying and exhausting all possibilities but at some point missionary with no oral must change or must find a desperate loser only to happy to trade up from his greasy hand.

 

if you guys were really into each other, like really really into each other, it doesn't matter if it's just simply making out, or dry sex, it would be extremely satisfying and hot. and in your case, you plead it to not be satifying at all; i'd say you're not at all into her so i'd just break it up now before it's too late. don't waste your time.

 

Bail out now....it won't get any better.

 

How old is she?

 

if its only three weeks, and youre not emotionally involved with her, it's probably best to leave her. Sounds like at this point your both just going to end up wasting each others time.

 

I've been with women who are less liberated than me and they do not change. And 3 weeks isn't too soon to know if you're sexually compatible or not. If she won't even talk about the subject then it's just not going to work.

 

having a shitty sex life is upsetting trust me I know haha. If you cant communicate and your having doubts already looks like two red flags to me