I'm in my early 20's and my friend is in her late 30's. She is all about coming onto me when she gets drunk. The problem is that she has a completely different attitude about things when she is sober. She says stuff about how she's old enough to be my mother and how it was wrong for her to act like that and she even makes subtle accusations that I took advantage of her (even though we have never have had sex).

Lately, she has been getting pretty aggressive about things, but I haven't let it go any further than a little making out. I'm really not into taking advantage of drunk girls, especially when they are my friends, and I really don't want to add any drama to my life if she's going to regret it the next morning or feel like she was taken advantage of.

The fact that she is that much older than me is just a total turn on, so I really do want to fuck her. Is she just saving face when she's sober? I have to figure that part of her wants to fuck me and that she's just not totally comfortable with the idea, but the alcohol loosens her up and she gets more comfortable with it.

Any advice?

 

offer her an orange juice

 

As a man who lost his virginity to a older woman I have a little advice for you.

Sit her down and talk with her let her know what and how you feel.
Let her know that if she stays that agressive that you'll either take her up on it or quit drinking with her. Note: do all that when she's sober.

 

This is really good advice. One thing that I notice is that she is a lot easier to talk to about stuff than girls my age. Much more straight forward.

 

Yeah thats the muturity factor. Older women have confidence and know what they want so they don't play head games as much.

 

Sounds like she has a particular fantasy but sober she is either shy or unsure about fulfilling it becasue of the friendship.

I think it depends on how influenced she is by alcohol when it occurs, I mean after 3 drinks people can notice I have been drinking but I am still in control of all my thoughts and actions so am in a position to make educated decisions.

After 2 1/2 bottles of wine maybe less so lol

I would continue along small steps, see if it gets to anything heavy in terms of sexual touching and if that impacts your friendship before actual going along with her fantasy fully

 

What have you decided on this she's hardly old enough to consider herself a bit too old for you and she wants you (as it sounds) When your alone with her put the cards on the table and ask her point blank,"You do or don't?" I don't like games and innuendos so, be blunt! If she says "Yes" meet up and if she still needs a cocktail then it's O.K., at least going into it is two adults who know what they are doing!

 

CUT HER LOOSE


she is nothing but trouble. if she is going to ACCUSE YOU, of taking an
ADVANTAGE of her, IMAGINE, if you FUCKED HER when she gets really
drunk.

you need to understand that, ALCOHOL in general, has an ENTIRELY
different effect on people. you will see another side you never seen
before.

imagine going out with a group of friends. one of your female friends gets
wasted and comes on to you. you take her home and fuck her. you see
it as no big deal. she sees it a whole other way. NOW, she's telling
everyone you took ADVANTAGE of her.

NOW, everyone is looking at you in a DIFFERENT manner. you will be
ISOLATED from them. the women may not want to talk to you ever again.
the guys some ( may or may not ) talk to you either.

as is points out by LAW, if you FUCK a woman passed out without her
CONSENT, it is called " RAPE ".

it can also be the same with her being INTOXICATED/DRUNK, without her
being passed out. AGAIN, she is under the INFLUENCE of the ALCOHOL.
it alters the mind from making appropriate choices.

let her know, just how she acts between being SOBER & DRUNK.
she may not believe you. but, atleast explain her behavior to her.

 

Isn't It A Shame!

That in this day and age two adults can't take the edge off with a few drinks without worrying who took advantage of whom (men worried more than women unless, the lovers underage) You know how many babies were born under the guise of alcohol in a time when underage pregnancy wasn't rampant? Now we're forced to be Politically Correct and everything from divorce rates to teen pregnancy (we're so sensitive, now) is through the roof makes me think what it would've been like if we'd had to figure out the solutions ourselves instead of Big Brother stepping in?

 

If you are in your 20's and she in her 30's, I am pretty sure that a sexual encounter between the two of you would just be great!...

But, remember! Just SEX! NOTHING else!...

Personally, from YOUR description, I sense that the woman is craving for your dick, but she is too shy/proud to admit it!

NOW, if I were you, I would just mind my own business and cunts!

Maybe, just maybe, if you don't have "at hand" some cunt(s) to fuck, let her take her alcohol and give her a good long fuck, until she becomes sober again - than, just fuck her again, showing her no mercy - I just hope that you have a nice big dick!

Finally - she is playing with you!
She wants to manipulate your brains, since you're so much younger than she is!

NOTE: If there is some business involved, between the two of you, than things might be COMPLETELY different and you should just ignore the above comment!!!
Good luck!

 

Very true, I think you should just let her know about it while she's sober because if you take action drunk once she sobers up your gonna loose her friendship and find yourself in trouble (hope not) so be smart about it and tell her that you won't take advantage of her while she's drunk but to be open towards you and tell you how she feels and next time she's drunk record it so that the next day she won't deny it
Maybe is a fantasy she has and she's afraid to admit it due to her reputation or who knows what kind of woman she is, only you know maybe feel inside she wants you but she's ashamed once she's sober, look drunk people rarely lie specially women but you have to gain that confidence to b able to approach her and for her to trust you and tell you her thoughts

 

You said "older lady", then I see 30's and instantly wanted to smack the crap out of you......However, unlike 99.99999% of the BS posted on here your post is one of the most genuine or the best line of BS I have ever read....So.....


She drinks like she does to give herself an excuse. There is an old saying. "A drunk, is a sober man talking". Meaning, what people do when drunk they would normally do sober if they had the courage.

DO NOT sit down and talk with her about it...That will only make her back off 100% and it is done. Now I don't care if you get your dick wet or not. What I do care about is that this woman is trying to live life how she wants, and has generously included you in it and to kill that inner self she is trying to unleash would be nothing short of sad.

Do this instead.....Next time you go to hang out, ask her to be honest and write down on a piece of paper SHE will keep how she would like the night to turn out. Tell her to keep it until/if she decides to give it to you....Then drink, do whatever, have fun.

If she hands you the paper of her own volition no matter how stupid, do it.....If she gets tanked and forgets the paper yet gets frisky, ask her if she would like to show you the paper....

WARN her before you take it either way.....That whatever is on that piece of paper you WILL do.

.......Then fuck the crap out of her

What awesome fun....enjoy, this is one of the better parts of life yet being young, keep it in perspective. Enjoy it, let her enjoy it......Use it for what both of you will, then move on. It will be good for both of you, and good for you both when you break it off eventually.

Hush......an alias

 

Never fuck a woman that has accused you of taking advantage of her after a make-out session.

 

Thanks for all the advice.

I'll probably be out with her this weekend. We shall see what happens.

 

Cool

So what happened (I like women with age too.)

 

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ummmm looks like she must have fucked his brains out, cause he has not been back to this thread in a month.....

 

thanx for commenting.

no offense. but, do you know how to use periods ?. (.)

you only use maybe one or two commas (,) .

 

No offense taken. I type from my phone so my apologies if I sounded confusing

 

the older woman.

YOU BETTER HIT THAT SHIT. IM A OLDER WOMAN EXPERT. what shes doin is tryin to build up confidence cuz she wants to bang, being coy hasnt gone completly out of style. and. older women know what they are doin,most of the time, the sex is so much better .
I say, Go knock the bottom out of that pussy, boy.!