I hear a lot of young couples (especially their men) start to worry at about if their lovers are losing interest in them just a few years into being married or following the birth of a child? Sex has a flow and can fail to satisfy if it's terrible (rushed, fumbling, uninspired, one note, etc) when we first come together as a couple we assume more than we communicate about our needs, wants and desires. Then over time we start to feel frustrated as our perception of what should've happen doesn't, in frequency, duration and creativity, when the fact is we never truly made it known to our lover what we were expecting over time? Just like any other skill we are bound by the limitations of what we know or have experienced and what we've learned along the way, instead of taking the time to communicate these need before the frustration sets in when we're nervous, angry and scared that we're losing them or could lose them? We become complacent and comfortable being together for so long that the subject of sex never comes up but, is implied or acted out with little regard for improving it over time? Point is sex like a child or flower must be not only fed but, nurtured and given our full attention every so often to really grow strong, in a world so busy with work and responsibilities we must take the time to put everything aside and focus on why we chose this person over all others. Many couples learn this only after fighting and arguing when they both know they want more but, not making the time to achieve it is the first mistake!
When is the last time you bought her flowers for no reason, sent the kids to a babysitter and made him a beautiful dinner followed by love making, went out on a date or even spent quiet time alone with your lover and no distractions? Take a little time to smell the roses and enjoy each others company, while your there create new plans for improving your love making a little at a time 5% differences every few months for the next year, date nights, hotel getaways, etc; take it from some one who knows! "Nature brought you together and Nurture is what keeps us together?"

 

that is so true great information!

 

Good info Miles

 

On daily basis!

If we don't tell each other, daily, I love you at least ten times a day, this means that we've been much too busy!
We also have the habit to hug each other, kiss each other, on daily basis, even if, at our age, we don't make love every day...

 

Words To Live By, Heads up Ovid

 

You nailed it.
Cheers brother!

 

I think you told everyone the way it should be.. my husband and I makse sure there are lots of " I love you" and hugs and kisses during the day..

 

I love talking about sex but, I love when a thread of mine makes us think about the love behind it!

 

" Your 12 Best Sexually Charged Love Songs?"

Feeling the love, post coitus?

1. Betcha by Golly Wow!: Stylistics
2. Me and Mrs. Jones: Billy Dean
3. Sister Golden Hair Surprise: America
4. Do What You Do: Jermaine Jackson
5. I Want You Want To Want Me: Lobo
6. Baby Come Back: Player
7. Reunited: Peaches and Herb
8. Sky High: Jigsaw
9. Always and Forever: Heatwave
10. Who's Holding Donna Now: De Barge
11. If Your Not Here: Menudo
12. Just You and I: Eddie Rabbit and Crystal Gayle (I'll date myself)

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