my wife has not initiated sex since we were teenagers, she claims she never turns me down (false) sometimes i feel like she is not romantically attracted to me. I still am pysically attracted to her what gives?
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Did you feed her wedding cake? I hear it does that.

 

funny, but its just something that is bothering me

 

Some women feel it is the mans job to initiate. If she is not comfortable initiating but rarely rejects you get the hell over it and fuck the hell out of her.

 

naw i would rather have her want me active partner

 

i hear you, same problems

 

tell her your honest concerns and try to have a constructive conversation about the topic. maybe you'll understand each other better and be able to fix the problem.

 

There is not much to go on here.

When you say she never initiates sex what impact exactly is this having on your sex life?

Is your concern that you would like your wife to be a little more dominant when it came to sex?

She may not initiate sex but does she respond positively when you do?

Some people are quite comfortable with the idea of their partner initiating sex and perhaps it hasn't occured to her that her not coming on to you might be an issue. She maybe quite sattisfied with you taking the lead.

A little more information on this one would be good

 

In relationships their is always a dominant partner, in this case you. i dont see too much wrong with what you have!

 

Understandable to feel that way, the wife and I have had this conversation many time in 26 years it seems to be a thread that most women have? The feeling that men should be the aggressor (it's a role we've been in forever) I guess I'd ask how sex feels when your together (connected not, connected?) The wife and I feel connected always but, I'd love for her to be more forward and I've learned to accept it (although I keep on her to try) Keep communications open and you'll be fine! Milo

 

Well, you should know best if she's a shy person...

If, most of the times when you initiate sex she responds positively, you shouldn't feel embarrassed or something - you should have taught her different when you were teenagers!

Anyway, it's natural! Even in the wild life, the males usually "go" to the females...

 

OP, I know what you mean. Basically it'd be nice to have the female initiate sex every once in a while to show that she actually wants you, and your body, and not just going with the flow when you want some. The only thing you can do is talk to her about it, tell her that you don't have a problem being the main aggressor when it comes to sex, but occasionally you'd LOVE it if she'd not necessarily take the lead, but to whisper in your ear to take her to the bedroom and fuck her brains out, or something along those lines.

 

Maybe she knows.....

You posted on another thread that she doesn't know about your girlfriend....
I'm thinkin'....well...Maybe she does???
Just sayin'......

 

Hahahaha.... You hit the nail on the head