I have a friend that I have known now for more than five years. While we were in our younger years I was an idiot and did not take to her advances for almost two years, because I was a young dumb male. At the beginning of my freshman year of high school the role reversed and I was the one that was wanting her. Their was an issue that ensued and I was left feeling I had lost her as a friend. Well its been three years now and we are both seniors. I have regained her trust and the trust of the family. She was had been with a guy for almost a year and this particular person is someone I had got to school with since kindergarten and I knew how he was. Leading up to the point of me losing the trust of her and her family, her and her family would stick up for him when anyone would say anything about him. His family has money and always had things handed to him growing up and I continually warned the family about him, but they did not take heed and after I lost their trust for the time being, he and my friend started dating. They went out for close to a year before, what I warned them of arose and reared its ugly face. They broke up almost five months ago and he has turned her life into a living hell. I love this girl like no other and I thought that I had blown my chances, but we have recently been hanging out and out bond now is stronger than ever. I myself lack much female experience and I might have blown my chance to be with her by not kissing her while I had the chance one evening. I have not had much of a chance to see her since she attends a different school. My main reason for not kissing her though is that I fear that if I do kiss her I will be just that guy. I was wondering if any women have ever had this experience and if so how did the guy go about addressing the situation. I was also wondering if you feel this situation is a trap and if I should hang back awhile and be that guy for her. Guys I was wanting to know if you have ever had this issue and if anything developed more from it, or if you were just the rebound guy.

 

Very Blunt!

Are you sure that you are the legal age to be a member here?!?

 

Yes I am of legal age and so is she.

 

Babbling bullshit

 

First: Paragraphs are your friend.

Second: Figure out how you feel about this girl then show her.

 

Thanks. I have been sick the past couple days, so it may not have been a cohesive read. Sorry if it was hard to read and understand.

 

Why don't you talk to her as her friend first.

Get where her head is at and proceed from there.

You don't say what you did to lose her and her families trust, but if its bad enough, nothing will over come that.

Also, be sure a relationship is what you really want and it's not just a case of opportunities lost and " the chase"! Many men love the idea of the unattainable, but once he's got the girl, the attraction wears off.

It sounds like she's been through enough and doesn't/ shouldn't deserve to get potentially hurt again.

 

I agree completely. Something happened, where there was a big mix up and the family didn't have the full situation, and I turned out looking as the bad guy. Since it's been cleared up we have been friends and talked, it is just more recent that we both have developed feelings for each other. I was stupid in my younger days and I regret not taking advantage of what was there to be offered, but it was a learning experience. I had the opportunity to kiss her, I just dont want her to think that I am using her vulnerability at the moment,, as a way of being with. I really truly care for this young woman and I don't want to hurt her, or vise versus. Thanks for the feed back though.

 

you lack self confidence and come across insecure with yourself

 

If you can't be Mr Right be Mr Right now.

 

A few things:

Paragraphs. I am too lazy to read a wall of text.

Get to the point. I am half way through and bored.

What's the moral of the story? 42

Are you even 18? Is this whole thing about a missed kiss?! O_O

 

Are you sure that you are the legal age to be a member here?!?

 

The title says it all. Who else can the message be for if it wasn't a male or female? Haha