Hey I have been away for quite a while...

I come with a problem... I have a girlfriend but I dont feel much for her at all, I haven't done anything sexual with her really. she is not the problem haha

My neighbour and his girl recently broke up, I was never really friends with the BF but developed a nice friendship with his ex... I believe i may be falling for her. She has the cutest little girl and the first time a single mother has really ever caught my interest. For some reason i believe she isnt interested in me but other side of me thinks she might be...

Prob just be awkward as all hell since her ex lives next to me but i am not sure what i should do.

Could i please get your opinions please.

 

Paying attention to her child when you see her in front of the house/in the streets is always a great conversation opener I'd think.

Then try to find out more about her....I'd think she might be suffering from the break up, so she probably doesn't wanna rush into anything yet....

But then, take a chance if you think it's worth it. Worst case, you and her feel embarrassed, so what.

The ex next doors....well, could prove awkward...but then, maybe he's glad she's gone....


Sorry, missed the point bout the friendship you have going with her....what do we know about her and her past relationship? Is she sending out signals that get you thinking? Are you the number to call when she wants to talk to a buddy?

 

If you don't feel anything for your current gf, then I don't think you should be with her whether or not there's someone else catching your interest.

The new girl may not seem interested since she just got out of a relationship and she may want time alone especially since she has more to think about (her daugther and their future) than her next bf. However, it wouldn't hurt to say (if/when you break up with your current gf) "I may have some feelings for you, something I would like to pursue. If you feel the same then let me know" type of thing. She may feel the same but may want more time, at least you'll know if there's more there. So what if you live next to her ex? It's about your happiness. Although if you want to avoid any tension you may want to have a talk with him if she does respond with mutual feelings.

 

Personally, at this point I wouldn't really bring up feelings. ask her to dinner, be casual. Just try and spend some time with her, feel things out. If there's something there, let it happen naturally. When you rush things you tend to fuck yourself.

 

Yeah i know what you mean. And I talk to the man next door everyonce in a while He wants her back lol

But according to her that is just never going to happen. She moved out a couple of weeks ago and i have been making that effort to see her just to talk her through some things that are happening in life.

Paying attention to the daughter is a good move, the little kid is awesome so full of energy. I have been thinking really hard about having kids lately and well my gf doesnt want them anytime soon. That is my biggest push for not wanting a relationship with her but with her i am being patient. of course im not going to play both at once

 

So, the first move then has to be: talk to your current gf, explain yourself....try for a clean breakup.

You never know what might be or not with the neighbor girl for now but first things first then....

 

I have been debaiting breaking up with her for a while, cause she is i have put it to others more emotionally unavailable then i am lol.

Do you think it would be wrong to just so some feeling out on the girl next store before i split with the gf.

I am not gonna play both thats not my style but I should follow what makes me happier. its hard...

First time i been in a relationship in over 4 years and this happens <.<

 

From a morale point of view, it's like shopping for a substitute and if there's no deal to be had, then we just drive the old car a couple hundred miles more until we find a better deal...not nice but it might work for you.

From a pragmatic point of view: the old car doesn't hold a candle anymore to the other one you saw. Try to sell first, then buy new....

 

That is quite cryptic lol Thanks, I will set myself a dead line by the end of the weekend to see what i am going to do... maybe a few drinks can help sort this shit out. haha

 

yeah...I mean, if nothing ever goes with the other woman....you'll end up in a mess sooner or later with your current gf if u don't agree and work together on some issues....

 

Approach her just like any other person but dont use the affection to child to climb onto her moms bed remember kids might end up hurt...but like ^^someone said, children are always a good way to approach the parent if the other guy is the neighbor then you should be really careful and approach in a innocent way just in case shit hits the fana, unless you dont care then go for it straight forward and ask her out. Be aware that you are crossing a sharp line by doing any of this ^^

 

if you have no feelings for you girlfriend then why are you with her. why lead her on.
don't be so cruel.
sort yourself out before you even think about getting involved with another woman.

 

Good advice. I think you're being a huge pussy, myself. You are stringing along your current GF just to have someone in your life even though you seem pretty sure it's not a lasting relationship. You'd rather waste your time and hers (mostly hers) just because you don't want to be alone.

The car advice that was mentioned was good, except you need to consider the cars don't have thoughts, feelings, goals, hopes, or dreams for what the future may bring...so the old car doesn't really give a fuck if you drive it and pound the shit out of it while you are on the prowl for a car that better suits your needs...the gf will, however care.

As far as the neighbor wanting her back, that screams NO GOOD to me. People do fucked up shit when they get jealous. And seeing an old gf banging the guy next door on a continual basis is like rubbing salt in the wound over and over and over. If he left her, it'd be different, but I'd think about it still, cuz if he didn't want her, why do you. Remember, behind every beautiful woman, there is a man sick of dealing with her shit. The secret to life...finding a woman who's bullshit you can deal with and handle the rest of your life.

 

I thought he'd understand it better if I went with an analogy men most likely can grasp

I guess all relationships are at risk to become shallow....if there was love rather than just mutual attraction, it can be rediscovered....if they talk and work on their issues...

 

Hey i will be honest, My current GF is a good person and I do like her, but can i have the problem imagining a future with her. Not saying it cant happen but at this current time i cannot see it.

The girl next store is would just be starting from square one again, but i would have the joy of help raising a child which i as of late really want lol.

Over the coarse of the weekend I am rather confused with the styles of conversation me and the girl next door have been having but we shall see >.>

but i do think its time to be open and honest with the current GF

 

Someone is shopping

 

lol I havent even had sex with my current girlfriend. its not all about getting laid. if that was the case it wouldnt have been almost a year since the last time