do what is right for you

 

Be happy, what ever that entails.

 

You say you keep turning on the fire and she is always there with a bucket of water, but whose fire are you trying to turn on? Try to find out what's wrong from her end. Have you put on weight? Changed behavior? It sounds like you are frustrated enough to have a pretty shitty attitude, is that turning her off? Are you trying to win her attention in non sexual ways? Have you tried talking to her, doing nice things for her, doiung favors for her like picking up some chores to alow her a little more relaxation and a little less stress? Take her on dates? There are lot's of ways you can make changes that might get her attention.

 

I have to agree.

Also, after years of marriage, couples find themselves falling into a series of ruts. They tend to stop taking care of themselves, because they feel they no longer need to attract someone, simply because they already have a mate. They often fail to realize, they still need to keep the attraction of their other half, through the original attributes that first attracted them.

So the problem isn't always with the other person. Sometimes "we" need to take a serious look in the mirror.

 

Always working....

 

Yuuuup!:excited:

 

+1

People let themselves "go" after they are in a marriage. They don't care about their appearance. They have their "mate" so they drop the sex appeal. A sexy woman will always get attention, same with a guy.

You want sex, look sexy, think sexy, be sexy.

 

michael saint lol your funny. I said thought of it but never did. HELLO did you read my post. She does not work at all. The worst I do is look at porn and think about it. Which is why I like xnxx. I have been tempted but resisted. I like how people read posts and fill in blanks when there are no blanks to be filled in.

BTW I say strip club instead of call girl

 

She does not work at all, but you do, right?

 

Yes I do work

 

I am telling the truth and stating my opinion. He is probably in a dfferent country.

 

Couldn't have said it better.
Well put.

 

Real question here:
So you're in a strip club, and decide to get a lap dance.....

You get very excited and erect, do you...
1. Let her rub on your lap enough to cum, then spend however much remaining time you spend at this establishment with a stain on your pants?
2. Do you bring a change of clothes just in case you need them?
3. Do you let the girl rub/ grind/ wiggle on your lap almost to fruition, but stop her, go to the bathroom and jerk off in a stall?
4. None of the above, but there is always a fourth option.

*Sorry GD intellectuals, I'm sure this probably belongs in sexuality, but Casey2828 did bring it up.*
NEW

 

I have never gotten a lap dance. I say make the lap dance just before you go so you do not spend long with a stain. I serious never thought of it. I wonder how many guys have

 

What's her contribution then?

 

Some comparisons:

Variety
Marriage-Low
Prostitution-Endless

Switching Costs
Marriage-Divorce=Expensive
Prostitution-Nil

Quality of sex
Marriage-Low. The partner doesn't have to really care if the other is satisfied or not, as they are bound by a "contract of marriage"
Prostitute-High. If the sex is not good there will be no repeat business

 

Have to agree with the folks calling you an ass. A pain in your wife's ass rather. From the confidence you show I'm sure you'rhe one enjoying life to the full. Get a divorce, keep enjoying your life and let them live in hapiness too. Not in Stalinist Moscow.

 

i think you made a commitment, so you owe it to the health of your relationship to work through it.