Ok so I have been with my wife for almost nine years married for three of them. We have been together since middle school. She was my first and I was hers. But she has never had an orgasm. Yes she has been with other men and I have been with other women. I just am looking for any kind of advice. We have tried everything from foreplay for hours on end, vibraters, lotions all kinds of things. Please help...

 

She has never had an orgasm in general? or just with you?

 

General

In general not even by herself.

 

Damn, I don't know what to say.. because going by your first post, it sounds like you guys have tried literally everything. All I know is to keep trying and try and get her to relax and enjoy the moment instead of focusing on trying to climax because it is probably just getting her frustrated.

 

Thanks

Thank you I do think part of the problem is maybe she is thinking to much about it. Just wanted to see if maybe someone else has been through this before.

 

Try a big dildo like a john holmes or shane diesel and pound that pussy. If that dont work then this :wall: might make you feel better for a lil. If this doesnt work then IDK

 

if she cant relax about it and is nervous and keeps thinking about then get drunk and fuck like rabbits.

 

Have you tried all possibilities. My wife like to lay down, I put her legs on my shoulders, sitting up while I fuck her, rubbing her clit with my thumb. She gushes when I do this. Any other time she doesn't.

 

Unfortunately, many women never have orgasms. It's really a terrible thing, I imagine, for both partners.

Perhaps you've talked so much about it, it created a barrier. Perhaps now she'd be ready to have an orgasm, but with another man, one with whom she had no history, hasn't talked about it.

If you'd go to a swingers club and she'd be stimulated simultaneously by several men, it could excite her so much, she'd perhaps get that elusive orgasm.

I know you said she had other men before, but at the time she had that, perhaps she wasn't ready, her body wasn't ready, her mind wasn't ready.

I've read there are women who only experience orgasm later in their lives.

I'm by no means blaming you. It isn't your fault.

Perhaps a hired male prostitute would be able to make her climax. They obviously have a lot of experience. You could offer it to her as a gift.

I know my ideas sound crazy, and perhaps they are.

If I had never had an orgasm, I think I'd hire a pro to try to give me one. A very experienced professional.

Good luck!

 

Never orgasmed I couldn't imagine such a thing!

You have said you've tried many things which means she must at least enjoy it without the orgasm, so is there a position that you've tried that you've gotten a more favorable response from then others?

One where you are getting more moans from her, and her body is reacting more to your touches?

Maybe try that position and see if you can't rub her clit, or have her use a vibrator on herself at the same time to heighten that levels of the position. A well placed finger is also very effective.

Good luck.

 

What if you got some guy who was a ladies man with a big dick to fuck her while you watch? Imagine her cumming for the first time and with another guy. Imagine the look on her face when she cums for the first time..
That would be wild huh?

 

Wild

If that's what it would take, I'd be all for it. Hell yeah it would be wild.

 

Thank you

Thank you everyone we will keep trying and I will update.