Hi guys,
I am a gay guy 23 years old. I got a big problem: I cannot enjoy a blowjob. Guys love giving me a blowjob. Sometimes I let them suck me for a few mins just for their pleasure but I cannot enjoy it at all, I cannot even stay hard. What's my problem? What am I doing wrong? I really wanna enjoy it. Apparently it's supposed to be so much fun from what I've seen in movies and heard from my friends. Please help me

 

Try a blow job from a woman and see if that works. Do you cum with other types of sex (anal, hand?)

 

Maybe you need a supplement to help you out. Give you an erection whether you want it or not

 

Don't think it's possible for me to cum with a woman either.
I could never cum with anyone till now. But I masturbate a lot myself when I am alone: usually 2-3 times a day. But I cannot really cum using my hand though. I usually hump my bed

I usually got no problem cumming when I am alone. And I can have an erection easily when I am with a guy.

 

The majority of movies are complete fake. Friends like to brag but the reality is different.

You are a born and bred wanker.

 

Well, are you saying it's overrated? But don't you agree most men love blowjobs. And also the guys I have been with, they almost beg me to give them a bj. ( i am not interested in that either) So it must be something so good.

lol thanks, I guess. I have a lot of sex with guys but I just can't deliver my cum to them. But I still enjoy it. But everybody says i would enjoy it so much more if I could cum. So I am worried if I am missing something great.

 

That's conditioning. You've taught your body to respond to that sensation, and that's not what you're getting with someone else.
As another poster stated, you should see a specialist.

 

And you majored in psychology? lol

 

Although I'm a girl I will go ahead and give my 2 cents. I agree with the one who said reality is different from movies. Because too be honest, out of all the seven or eight guys I been with, only one actually enjoyed and wanted a blow job. All the others either didn't care, they rather give than receive, or it does nothing for them.

I like to study and read and I could write you a whole essay on why you're having such a case. But I'd suggest studying and reading up on sexuality and psychology. What you're experiencing is the same reason why some have a foot fetish. Why some need to be suffocated. Why some prefer kids. Why some enjoy rubber gloves. Why some prefer rape. Why some prefer amputation, etc, etc.

 

Sorry to hear about your issues. Sometime I would rather a good sloppy blowjob than sex.

 

As both I and another suggested, you should see a specialist. Nor was I implying that this was psychological, rather physiological. Unless you happen to encounter a partner who has an orifice that is fabric-lined and completely dry, it's not going to feel like "humping your bed" which is what seems to be the only thing capable of getting you off.

 

I think you will change when you get a little older.

 

Is there anyone out there who had the same experience as I?

 

My husband was like that for the first three months we were first dating, he figured it was mostly psychological. He just could not believe I actually wanted to give him a BJ, and our biggest fight was during this time span too...he thought he was being nice to me by not asking for sex. I was all packed up and ready to leave cause I figured he wasn't interested Ina relationship
Anyway, once he realized I enjoyed giving them, he was able to relax into it, and enjoy himself too. He claims he never understood why men raved about it, it mostly bored him. Now he whines when he doesn't get morning head at least once a week or so.

 

Not sure why you are laughing, you're the one who is fucked up. You come here on an Internet sex site asking for advice and show disdain when people give it to you.

No, really, blowjobs are overrated. Just keep humping your bed because that's the normal way to be.

 

I'd say try it somewhere risky. Movie theater or car - be creative. Maybe a rush of adrenaline will be more enjoyable.

 

Actually you might be right. I also want them gagging and drooling and taking it like a nasty whore. But the thing is I am supposed to be a good boy and I am keeping myself from being too experienced in sex. For some reason, I don't wanna have oversex... yet...
I've been thinking it's the porn effect. After seeing all the nasty things and perfect bodies, I don't really get what I expect from my real life encounters. I am too shy to ask for that anyways.

Right, I should write hundreds of sex stories instead because I have no life and can't get any pussy/cock. Do me a favor: get a life.

 

I'm 46 and a horny fuck - I have a long active an fulfilling sex life with my mrs - and blow jobs do nothing for me either - there is nothing wrong with you - my guess is its down to the quality of the bjs you've received