I was wondering if any other guys experienced similar issues.
Recently I hooked up with my first crush after 19 years, who is by far out of my league, and every time we end up in bed I have problems getting hard.
She is starting to get mad at me as this has happened 4 times.
With any other woman I have no problems getting hard instantly so I know the problem is not physical.
If anyone has any advise Id love to hear it.

 

I have been there where the mind gets in a loop "not getting hard, gotta get hard," then you jinx yourself and don't get hard. Perhaps you should try doing something different. Have her get on her stomach and kiss and caress her back, shoulders and hair. Or go down and lick her pussy while you play with your cock. Concentrate on enjoying her and pleasing her. Hope that helps.

 

More foreplay by you.

 

I have gone down on her, and we kiss and touch and she gets soaking wet for me.
The only time I got my normal hard with her was when we woke up a few mornings ago and I wasnt thinking about it and was hard and able to have sex.
Its almost like all the foreplay and anticipation is making it difficult.

 

You either hold her in such high regards you cant bring yourself to see her sexually or your afraid she won't be satisfied with you lovemaking or fear you will go full on fetish any turn her off. Either way its all in your head. If she is receptive to you and you can get her all hot and bothered she really wants you.

I have last issue. If I ever find a guy I like I get scared ill freak him out in bed so I keep up a long distance relationship with a guy who is adventurous as I am. I'm really getting sick of living two lives sometimes. Anyway back to you, figure out if its your inhibitions holding you back or other. Then take it from there.

As always take any advise carefully. I'm not a therapist, I just used to spend a lot of time with one.

 

Been there buddy. Here's the thing, if it happens, make the experience all about her, your tongue still works and your fingers can never truly go all limpy. Afterwords, explain it and next time you may not be all anxious. If you still have issues see your doc about a little blue pill courage.

 

Has happened to me when I actually got OVEREXCITED... my wife never ever ever wants anal sex...weve only done it a couple of times and that was years ago. But a few weeks ago, we are heavy into foreplay when she out of the blue asks me to put first my finger in her ass, and then my cock....I wasnt drunk or on drugs, but I got so damn excited I got light headed and lost my erection... DOH
You may just be way too excited and need to relax and get some confidence. I second the opinion on the little blue pill, its not just for when you cant get an erection, but it helps you be all that you can be even during the best of times

 

ancient masters says...

Beat her cunt into submission with your dick
and it will get hard.
(that is how I get drunk guys hard)
and...

for the sex...
as it says in the Dao ~Ching or something by the great master of the Yin Yang;
think of her as concrete and jade and just fuck her (paraphrased)

So like, fuck her twice over and it will be great sex for you both

 

Thank you all for the responses.
This weekend we had a very wonderful evening of drinking and having a great night on the town. We both had a minor buss and ended up back at my place.
Things were quite different and we had amazing sex that let to her ripping my headboard off the bed.
HOWEVER... Sunday we had a long day and were both tired and when we landed in bed the previous issue happened again.
I know this is not physical, I am only 33 with no history of ED and even my fuck buddy has laughed because this never happened to her when we were together.
I dont know if its when she is in a bad mood if I have problem engaging or if there is a mental block that Im not getting past right now.
Is this normal?