So I know I'm fairly young, but I've been with my girlfriend for a bit now (little over year and a half). I've been torn up inside about this whole thing though. I love her, I really really do, and I know she does too, it's just the sex is extremely boring and unsatisfying for me. I've talked to her about some of these things too, but she doesn't and can't bring herself to change how she is.

First off, I almost literally NEVER finish. She does all the time, more than once if she lets me do my thing. In our year and a half, I have cummed twice. It's sad that I've counted. Second, she's a bit of a germaphobe. My bare dick touches anything but her vagina and she freaks. One of the two times I did actually have an orgasm, I pulled out and went on her back and she freaked and gagged and jumped over and wiped it on my bed. She won't do oral, which I understand some girls aren't comfortable with, but I don't finish from normal sex and I can't even get finished with oral after she does? She's said to get flavored condoms and she could try, but even then she can't bring herself to do it. I can't even attempt to give her oral, because she doesn't want to kiss me afterwards, and kissing is a big part of it for her. Third, she never uses any tongue. I've just recently been able to get her to make out with tongue just a little bit, but it never lasts more than 20-30 seconds.

She is honestly only my second sexual partner, and my first girlfriend didn't fair much better either. I really do love her and care for her, so I'd feel like an ass if I dumped her, especially since she lives with me, because she was bad in bed. But at the same time shouldn't it be fun for me too? I feel like I'm slowly getting turned off to the idea of sex completely since I haven't had many good experiences with it.

 

Can I ask your ages?

 

Get her drunk haha

 

So what do you think about when you masturbate ?
Yes Im being serious.

 

In all honesty, it will probably get even worse as time goes by.

It's likely time for 'the talk'. You only live once, if sex is important to you, don't waste your best years on a sexless, frigid, intimidated, woman. I doubt she will ever become an enthusiastic sex partner from what you described though.
good luck.

 

wow and your 21 dang you should be fucking like rabbits..I am sorry I feel for you hun,it doesn't sound like there is a lot of love there or there would much more desire for each other.Your so young to be in a relationship and sexually unhappy.At some point you will have to make that decision you may try talking to her about a break from each other for awhile for a start.

 

What rixer said, she won't ever change pass her to someone you don't like, ha ha but seriously it's only going to get worse

 

I agree. Not healthy, therapy is needed nd u need to sit down nd talk to her bout it. Even if she doesn't say anything, at least she knows ur concerned nd frustrated.

 

I agree with mommy! You should be at it all the time at your ages. You have to sit down and talk it out tell her your issues and listen to hers. If you carry on like this your resentment will only grow.

Maybe you can try a rubber glove session.

Thinskin

 

If you really love her than try to get her into therapy. I have no doubt that she doesn't see any problem with the way things are. A competent therapist can help her see the issues in a way that you can't. If this fails than it is time to pull the plug, but if it were me, she would be made to understand exactly why.

I'm curious though, are you her first?

 

Never stay in a relationship out of guilt. It's the wrong motivation.

You may have the greatest time together while socializing and out and about. But, if you go to bed and resentment continues, the rest will crumble.

Asking someone to conform to your needs is also a delicate task. Knowing she is willing to try would be nice but, then you'll also know her heart isn't into it anyways. So, you might buy some time but, her tendencies will likely remain.

If she agrees and is willing to seek therapy, great. If not, I don't hold out much hope for you two to resolve the differences on your own.

Good luck.

 

Ok then :/ I've always been a bit too nice but I guess it would probably have to be done. I know we are really young so it's kind of bad to have these years wasted like this, especially since I waited for awhile to even begin having sex (20th birthday was my first time). I always assumed it would be best to end things, I just feel like I needed to hear it, and I figure what better place than here?

 

I forgot the most important part too. She's done because she finishes, she gets dry and it hurts too much. I've tried to introduce more foreplay, but she's too impatient and too much of it and she actually just gets turned off to the idea of sex. She doesn't like me using my fingers so I can't get her back on again that way. She doesn't like lube, because most of them make her really uncomfortable. We tried it once. It helped a tiny bit, but not enough to make a difference.

 

She is a neurotic dick-phobic cum-phobia fruit-cake.
State-Religious-femmo propaganda-induced phobia.

Hold on tighter?
Look else where too?

 

Get a different woman.

If she's not into it now she probably won't be.
Find a chick that's already into your kinkiest fantasies and then some and you'll have a winner.