How many of you ladies would prefer their mate be a virgin vs being experienced in the sheets?


And any advice for a 22 yr old virgin

 

Vinnie,

I recommend going one of two ways. Go try a one night stand or hooker or something to just get it out of the way.

OR

Try and meet a lovely young lady and take an interest in her personally and hopefully she takes an interest in you. You share your thoughts, opinions........you share your souls.........You connect, you find love and then you get naked and make love. And no matter what happens, if you cum before your underwear comes off, you can't get hard, it's the most awkward experience you both ever have, it will be special and just between the two of you. I suspect if you follow option two, it won't be awkward at all. That when you touch each other, it will be amazing. Special and fun. She maybe a virgin herself or maybe experienced, it won't matter. Because you'll both feel so connected and no matter what happens, you'll both be there for each other.


And if that sounds like shit, go with option one. Hit a night club, get drunk and pick up and chick or call a hooker and get the mystery out of the way. lol.

 

Everyone has their own unique feelings and perceptions, but I don't know that being a virgin is ever an objectively bad thing. Sure, there might be negative aspects or connotations to it but... I'm going to say it's never downright bad.

Speaking as a 26 y/o virgin, I'd say to you don't rush and don't get all worked about it (which is easy to say, harder to do, I know). Once you shrug off the last of the hormone-crazed teenager phase, it doesn't have to be something that either dominates your life or defines you as a person.

I'll not pretend that it isn't a Big Thing, but it certainly isn't the only thing either. The early twenties are an important time of life, full of transitions and potentially important decisions, my advice would be to not get caught up so much in worrying about being a virgin that you forget to enjoy and engage with everything else going on.

In your case I reckon nakkers' option two is the way to go if it's something you strongly feel you want to address. I wouldn't say virginity is a thing about which Something Must Be Done, but there are good reasons why you'd want to.

 

Great advice guys you both gave insight full information; i guess as a guy with most ppl around you having sex and one's own desires to, it becomes a big deal but nakkers option 2 sounds like the best option

 

Vinnie,

I was a nerd in high school that hung out with all the cool kids. They were getting pussy all the time and I was always the guy the girls would talk to.

Here I am so fucking horny and wanting to fuck my friends' girlfriends as they poured their heart out to me. lol.

So, I do understand your pain. It continued for me through college but, I did end up meeting a very nice young lady, late in my freshmen year. We dated for two weeks and I was sleeping on the couch when she came out of her room and told me let's sleep together. I was nervous. I'm thinking holy shit, this is it!!!

Because I was afraid of cumming, I went down on her right away. Had no idea what to do or if I was going to do it right. And it was fucking amazing. The smell and taste of pussy the first time was out of this world. I covered my face in pussy juices. I used my nose and fingers and tongue and she got off. I asked if if she was all right and she laughed and told me she came three times and needed a break. My cock was throbbing and thought it was going to explode. As I was catching my breath, she straddled me and started grinding me. I was sucking on her tits and keeping my mind fixated on how wonderful they were that I didn't worry too much about cumming too soon. Then she reached around and touched my balls and that was it. I came like crazy.

I can recall my first time, just like that.

I remember being so horny and wanting it so bad before that time, everyone else was doing it and felt I needed to. I was worried that I was this college student and that decent looking and still a virgin for the longest time. How was I going to be a good lover? How would I get the experience needed to be a great lover?

Needless to say, we fucked like bunnies for the summer and it was awesome. I learn a lot. I enjoyed it and I don't regret having to wait as long as I did.

I joked about the hooker but, sometimes men feel this need to break their cherry because of peer pressure or fear of not being able to have enough experience to fuck it up the first time.

You don't have to worry. Honest. Let it come to you. I'm sure you'll find a good lady that will give herself to you and in turn you will give yourself to her.

Or drunk floozy sex I hear is pretty awesome. lol kidding!!! well, not really, I get the girlfriend drunk at the Christmas party and have drunk floozy sex and it's awesome too.

 

Thanks bro, but i guess where i live, though ppl have this idea of living in the caribbean as awesome, it sucks and guys pretty much either have sex or desire sex & not attracted to most females in my country

 

this here is pure gold


yet i much rather wait for someone who worth waiting for

 

Back in my high school days there were girls that pretended to be virgins.

 

Being a virgin is only a "bad thing" if it's for everyone else benefit but, your own! Just as bad as having sex just because everyone else is doing it or you feel pressured in to it? If it gives you pride that it's worth the wait, I'll gladly say I'll give you respect for such an important choice!

 

sir couldn't u include my name in the above ? j/k


i just wanted to say one can be a virgin and yet still know enough to get a girl off and give he a good time ? being a virgin can never be a bad thing , it means we all were born with a bad thing and we have to get rid off it , i don't like the sound of that idea

 

Wouldn't the truest sense of virginity forbid such actions as getting her off only put you in a possible position of compromising by temptation? A serious question, I'd like to know.

 

i'd be glad to answer u sir but u used big words there so i am a bit confused

i think i understand ur question on some level but i'd like you to try and make it a lil bit more simple

 

Its not.

I regret having sex because people are so difficult about sex.

Oh I'm highly skilled at it in all, but the issue is that the way I am, not many like me for some reason and so far the ones that I've been with are just not horny enough.

No one wants to unleash, especially with my type. And THAT is why I regret having had unprotected sex..The urge bites, but I'm not conformist enough to go about getting sexually involved with modern day society.

That having said I think I look fine and I love me.

My advice? If people feel "Meh" about you, I wouldn't go and have sex with a prostitute..You're just going to end up with a biting urge to fuck.

 

Short answer? It isn't

 

I just wanted to say one can be a virgin and yet still know enough to get a girl off and give he a good time ?

Your words sounded like he may be able to play without going all the way but, as a virgin would you want to put yourself in a position where you could be that tempted?

 

oh u got my words wrong , i meant at his first time like sure he would cum in secs and be all nervous and stuff , but he can bring her to orgasm or 2 before going inside her and cumming himself

answering ur question , hum to me no I'm a virgin coz i chose to wait for the right person , and i have to desire to be playful with other girls coz they wont be close to me , i need emotional attachment first , but ya if i found attachment that is good enough for me to want her for complete sex but we cant do it for one way or another but we can "play" then ya i'll do it , it is like challenging ur hormones which are really strong thing , it can be fun

 

wow thats alot but i think there is a general consensus to wait and that may be the best thing to do and i guess by waiting it makes more special so to speak, thanks you guys for help

 

I lost my V to my aunt