I think my boyfriend is cheating and I have no idea what to do. I can't say for sure, though but I don't want to be the girl who goes around stalking him or going through his phone and all that crazy stuff. Right now I'm feeling depressed but if I can confirm my suspicions I will be pissed as all hell. So, besides asking him, how can I know for sure . And if he is, I'll make sure he regrets it.

 

First you need to really think about it. Why do you think he's cheating? Are your reasonings legitimate? You need to ask yourself that because you never mentioned the reasons to I don't know what to tell you. As a guy, I can tell you that there are so many different ways to cheat. Same is true for women. So what makes you think he's cheating? Has he cheated on you or an old girlfriend in the past ? If you think he's shady enough to do it, then shouldn't even be with him. Don't date someone you don't trust. If you play it smart and ask him the right questions and if he is cheating you can catch him in a lie. Because if he lying to you then he's cheating on you. Simple as that (unless you get mad at him for dumb things or get mad if he goes out with his guy friends, then he's deff ganna lie)

 

Well, he seems to be avoiding me recently, ignoring my calls and texts when we used to talk almost every day. I don't expect him to drop everything to talk to me for hours on end but we don't even habeas those short "Hi, How are you, How was your day" conversations anymore. My cousin, who studies at the same school as him tells me that she keeps seeing him with a girl, a younger girl, and said it looked shady. As far as I know, he hasn't cheated on any previous girlfriends or on me. A few people did say he was a player but it was so few people I though it might just be gossip.
I usually don't ask him where he is and who he is with because neither of us go out much but I still feel like something is up. A part of me feels like I'm just being insecure because my self esteem has never been that great and now I'm having an emotional break down because he's much first boyfriend and I've never jaded to deal with a break up, let alone a cheater.

 

Y'all need to get together and have a heart to heart and see if this relationship has a future. Tough one hope it works out for the best and that may mean going your seperate ways idk.

 

School can be stressful and also have a lot of temptation. Stress can have many different affects.

Your intuition is likely correct. There is something wrong. Is it cheating? Maybe not. But, if you feel your bf is being disconnected from you, you have to be concerned for him and express your own concerns as well. You shouldn't be a fool either.

You are young. There is so much in life to learn. It's not something you read or find out on the Internet. You just gotta learn from going through the experience.

Good luck!!!

 

If it's the same girl the it's possible. But to be honest, if your disconnected and you feel the distance then something is wrong. He might be cheating, he might not be. But with emotional distance, it could mean he just isn't feeling the same way he once did. Try sitting down with him and just asking if he has second thoughts abut your relationship and if he's willing to work on it. Maybe he's ready to go a different way. You need to do that though. If you can't trust him and think he's cheating then the relationship has already failed. I hope you take what I say offensively!

 

Don't go down the regret road, it will make you regret what you do. Maybe you should just tell him you want to date other people, then let him go. Find yourself someone else. I know, easier said than done.

 

Your insecurities, fear, and unhappiness are coming from the distance you feel in the relationship. Your needs aren't being met and you're looking for a rational reason why that is the case. The reality of the situation is it doesn't really matter whether he is cheating or not. You aren't happy with what you're getting from him right now. You need to talk with the guy and tell him how you feel because things don't fix themselves usually.

 

Rackwell gives good advice. Long distance relationships are never easy and the unknown has a great ability of turning to fear. While your intuition may not be spot on, if that's all you've got to go with, why fight it? I say that as someone who didn't listen to my own intuition. Most relationships fail. Fairy tales are just that. Why hold on to something that causes you pain or doubt when you yourself could be free to be you and do as you please? Just my opinion, and I'm completely open and comfortable with the fact I could be wrong.

 

cheating

I think that any relationships foundation is honesty and good communication and without these two it will fall apart like you said you two have stopped talking, you have doubts about him now, just remember life is too short to be unhappy in a relationship . Talk to him regarding your feelings if you think he is being dishonest
,move on find someone new

 

i know its difficult...but.....slow down....his no=action...should b a sign....c if it continues.....n let it b his loss...oh..he WILL come back when its convenient to him...ha!....it"s a BIG world out here.....soooo much to see....soooo many men/people!!!

 

Boy, i sure hate writing in complete sentences.

 

Confront him face to face. It very well may cause and argument, but it could clear the air once and for all.

Tell him if he denies it and you find out it is true, you'll cut off his balls while he's sleeping. If he admits it, you can either give him the "one more chance" ultimatum, if you think you can deal with that, or kick his ass out.

 

He's at school?
You're how old? Old enough to be playing in here I hope?

 

Be not alarmed. By school, I mean Varsity. We have a tendency of calling it that where I'm from.

 

Communication

So I called my boyfriend last night and for the first time in a while he answered. I asked him if he had anything he wanted to tell me and he started apologizing for being unavailable for weeks. I asked him what excuse he had and he told me that they were in the middle of mid-semester exams and that he literally had no time for anything else. Obviously, I didn't believe him and told him that he could have just told me that he would be unavailable for a while if that was the case. He explained that he didn't realise how much work he would have and before he knew it he was overwhelmed.
I believed him but decided to consult a second source. I called my friend Isla and asked her if her brother was still in the same classes as my boyfriend then asked for his number. She then told me not to bother because he wouldn't answer the phone because they hectic exams. So I know he wasn't lying about that at least.
I still want to call him and ask him about this girl he's been seen with. I'm still pissed off that he didn't at least call me at first to say he would be busy. I told him I'd drive up to see him on Saturday when he's done with exams so we can talk face to face.

 

This is not the way you treat loved ones, or even friends. Why do you think you have the goal, the right, to mess up his life? A relationship should not involve revenge, regret, or fear of retaliation. If I was the guy - I'd run, fast and far.

Please move on. If he wants you, he'll contact you. In the meantime develop a life of your one, one not dependent upon a man or anyone else for your happiness (and you do not sound happy).

 

By revenge I don't mean ruining his reputation or bad mouthing him online. I don't plan on ruining his life and you don't get to tell me whether or not I should or shouldn't. When we started dating, I made it clear that cheating wad a no go and that I'm a spiteful girl. He should know what's coming.

 

If his cock taste like pussy or ass when you go down on him he is cheating.

 

You will regret this... Its not worth it. He is not worth it and with your attitude you're not worth it either