So, in away, you do like giving head then. You just have a different reason.

 

I like giving my hubby blowjobs....like someone else mentioned it's not necessarily the idea of having his cock in my mouth...it's being able to see the pleasure he gets from it and knowing that I can amp that up to the point he blows his wad....that's a lot of control but at the same time I'm almost submitting to him. I think experience is one problem....guys tend to want to ram their cock down the back of your throat ...maybe from watching porn or needing to feel powerful and dominating...instead just lean back, relax and enjoy it.

While I do let him cum in my mouth I'll tend to back him out a bit or else it can be overwhelming and hard to handle getting it all down. Often times when I feel that first shot...I'll just pull back and he cums on my face or onto my tits......I'm not sure he really minds either way.

 

I definitely agree with you abut the happier marriages statement, I dont think many could argue against you on that point.

 

I like a dick in my mouth.
But I think it is national thing as there are big differences between nations.

'Malacad’s study showed that 50 percent of the 181 young Canadian women she surveyed viewed oral sex as less intimate than intercourse, whereas 41 percent thought it was equally intimate, and 9 percent thought it was even more intimate...'

'Australian survey, 50 percent of women ages 16 to 25 reported that they’d been pressured to give oral sex, and a recent Playboy/Harris Interactive online survey revealed that 23 percent of men wouldn’t even date someone if she refused to give it.'

'...2010 study from the University of Alberta, researcher Brea Malacad and her colleagues found that the majority of 18- to 25-year-old women were “excited” or “stimulated” by the act; only 10 to 20 percent of women felt “disgusted” or “bored” by it. Diana, 26, from New York City, for instance, will give a guy a blow job not because he asks for it but because it’s fun for her—even on a first date, she says, “It’s never been something I’ve regretted doing.”

 

Thank you. Its ery nice to find a perspective I had heard before. I appreciate it.

 

Let's say I wanted him to do something for me, and he says no. Later, after getting him hard and almost ready to cum, I stop and ask again, I bet he says yes every time.

Or the promise of oral on him might sway his opinion or judgment for making a decision. Stuff like that. Guys think with the wrong head sometimes.

 

we think with the wrong head MOST of he time. lol

 

hmmm well i think im in love with all the women who have said yes!

i dont know what the deal is, ive had alot of happy sexual relationships and head never seems to be on the agenda!

i love going down on a woman, and seeing the pleasure it gives and likewise love being sucked off, but i can say many of my partners have ever been active when it comes to blowjobs.

 

gotta say that's rather a turn off , using sex as a way to get what u want , and giving it to me "saying i am the guy" on terms would sure kill my boner

and i know u are right , but not everyone is gonna change their opinion or choice about something coz of a blow job , those are weak to be honest

 

I dated my ex for almost 3 years and she gave me head maybe 3 times. She always said that it made her gag too bad and didn't like the taste of precum

 

Thank you for your insight. I've been pondering this same concept. Does it always work for you?

 

at least she gave you a viable reason.

 

That's true. I didn't ask her to at all after she told me that. I'm not going to force her not to do it even though it feels really, really, really good.

 

For me, its not a matter of not liking to give head, but I hate the texture of cum. So we just avoid that by him cumming on my face or tits. Then we both have fun and everyone is happy.

 

I personally enjoy it but I do have a friends who was molested by a family member from a very early age and he attempted to force her to suck him at 5 so she now will not suck cock due to trauma so I get it.. but I haven't ever experienced it like that so I cant say much to her state of comfort or anyone elses only my own cum loving cock sucking self

 

Being a guy I would have to agree with the statement that it would be more healthy relationships and marriages, if BJs were more forthcoming. I am a guy and I can say from experience that it receiving a BJ from a woman that you already have feelings for makes those feelings much stronger. This is,in my opinion, due to the fact that a woman giving me a BJ shows that she cares about how I feel, what I like, wants to make me feel desired, and shows that she is not here to just receive but to give.

 

That's truly and terribly sad. Everyone has the right to refuse sexual acts for their own reasons and should never be pressured. It's definitely understandable why your friend doesn't pursue oral sex and hopefully she doesn't have to deal with being pressured into it.

 

Do you think there is a balance between giving and receiving oral sex? i.e Do you think men give (or perhaps they should give) as much as they want to receive?

 

A functioning relationship should be about being sensitive to your partners needs and desires and acting in a non selfish way.

It isnt about keeping score in a tit for tat manner however but simply taking and never giving is never going to work long term either.

If your partner is willing to devote herself to giving you pleasure then it seems to be absoloutely right and proper that the same courtesy should be extended to them.

 

My biggest problem in this area has always been that I know plenty of women that love to give blowjobs....it's just never the ones I'm with. There were 2 of them that did and enjoyed doing it, but the rest of them, it was a very rare occasion. It doesn't frustrate me until I talk to female friends and they tell me how they are always giving their men blowjobs.