Hypothetical, would you have sex with someone (protected of course) who you know is HIV positive? Would you take that risk?

 

Fuck NO!

 

No

 

If i was commited and loved him. Yes.

 

I can see your point. I don't believe I could do it myself. The main reason for me is I have children and I want to be around to watch them grow up

 

i would feel differently if I had children.

 

If you've been in that type of relationship to get there, how did he get it?

 

Thats what im saying.

 

Previous to the relationship. I was thinking of a newer relationship. not one years and years old

 

So you could fall in love and start a relationship with someone you knew had hiv. You're a better person than me.

 

i've said that before. lol

 

So..you would take the risk of your life long health for a brand new relationship? You can't be sure it will last if you haven't been together for a few months at least and you would have had sex by then I'm sure.

 

To take a risk like that i would need to be with him for longer than a couple months. It takes me longer than that to be commited and to love someone.

 

My husband has HIV. He had it when we got together. We have been together for almost 8 years. As ling as he takes his meds he is in control of it. They give the partner meds to help keep them from catching it and we use protection. With just him taking his meds and me taking mine it is almost impossible for me to catch it from him but we also use condoms to be even more careful. I have children from a previous relationship and talked to there dad when I found out. We all went to his HIV specialist and found out that from kissing him I would need to drink 5 gallons of his saliva at one time and even then the risk was slight. I am not saying that it is easy with all the eatting problems and how easy it is for him to get sick but everyobe has problems and everyone gets sick.....we will never feel each other flesh to flesh but when you love someone and know from the second you meet them that you loved them you really make it work. I love my husband more then life and to answer the original question........yes I would with the appropriate precautions but those same precautions should be taken in most relationships in the beginning I just have to have those precautions for the rest of my life.

 

This..

There is no reason not not to have a loving and sexually active sex life even with HIV. But you need to get informed understand the risks, what to avoid doing etc. HIV isnt simply about sex and if you enter into a relatonship with someone who is HIV+ you will need to understand all the downsides and be prepared to work with those.

I wouldnt want to have casual sex with someone I knew was HIV+ even with protection

 

Id give it a go for sure. If she wants it from me, it would be rude not to

 

No way ! Not ever !

 

ONLY IF IT WAS MY WIFE

I wouldn't be able otherwise to get over knowing that a lover had "any" serious S.T.D.]

 

My kneejerk reaction is a hard, unmoving "NO".

But... This question really is not so simple... It's deep, and something that does not necessarily warrant a flippant, dismissive answer.

Perhaps if it were someone I had come to know over time, and found myself falling in love with them, depending on certain circumstances, it might be possible that I would say yes. Upon introspection I find myself wanting to say that I would want to say yes to such a question, but then again it's so much easier to just say, "No, never." and be done with it.

While I know intellectually that with the proper precautions, the risk of infection is minimal, there is a primal, lizard-rat part of me with a strong, overwhelming sense of self preservation that screams out, "DON'T BE A RETARD, HOW CAN YOU EVEN CONSIDER SUCH A THING."

It is a weakness of the flesh that causes me to say no. I would be willing in spirit, but this bodily prison tells me I would not do so, in real life.

 

I understand your statement but also know that it is not just an STD any more. It can
still be caught through blood transfusions because it can lay dormant for years. When I found out my husband had it when we first started dating it scared the crap out of me but I was not going to dismiss him because i didnt know about it and all the facts. we went to his specialist and found out as long as he takes his meds lije he is supposed ti the risk is very small and. then using a condom makes that risk smaller and then i also take a med that lowers the risk more. again not saying ypur wrong for feeling the way you do but if your HIV+ partner is doing what they are supposed to medically it is not very easy to catch it and if they tell you at the get go then you know to start with. If they hide it from me is where i would have a huge problem.