I am 22, have been in a monogamous relationship. He has been the only person I have been with. I decided to look on craigslist, maybe I would be lucky to find someone and fall in love then finally be able to leave my poor, disrespectful lazy first love. I found a man, his first message blew me away. Such a nice and praising man. As we spoke, I found out later he was married. I was so fixated on what I really wanted. I didn't want to have sex with someone else. Especially a married 35 year old, whom of course would never leave his wife.

Here's the thing, i don't know whether he was great with his words and maybe I wanted this the whole time. He promised to spoil me, maybe take me out. I fell in love with the idea of someone else giving me something my boyfriend has never given me. I made the mistake of meeting with him at his place a bit far from my house 30 min. That's where everything went down the hill. I mean my number one rule has been never sleep with a guy everything will change. So we kiss, his kisses are amazing. Therr was a lot of foreplay and then sex. Since he hadn't had sex he finished quite fast. I was entirely dissapointed. I later realized the new birth control pills I am taking has lowered my libido, my sex drive is down and I cant have those amazing orgasms I love having. I left his place, and felt so disappointed with myself. Which I promised myself I wasn't. I didn't hear from him for four days. Later he explained he was entirely turned off because he sucked really bad and was really embarrassed. Then of course I told him everything was fine, i guess your not suppose to make any negative comments about a mans performance lol. I was brutally honest.

Well the texting stopped. No more cute text. No more sending pictures. We met again, at his house again. We had great sex, yet these birth control pills have me going crazy, no orgasm.

Here's my problem. I cant sleep, i cant stop thinking about him. I dont understand why he put so much effort and now he's not even saying a hello. Pretty much convinced he doesn't care if I leave. However, why am I overthinking this too much? Is it because he's my second? What do men want? Just sex? What is a mistress? What I read was entirely different from what is going on in my situation. Please give me honest advice. I feel lame. I feel like I'm doomed if I ever go out in life and search for a soul mate.

And yes i love calling him daddy. I do love this whole situation, because it's so bad. It's a sexy taboo, he's way older.

 

Another age olde story, from the beginning to the end.

Move on,,everything happened that BOTH of you wanted to happen.

Is the grass greener on the other side?

 

So many men out there, and I chose the least available. The grass isn't greener, i just feel more empty. Funny?

 

Keep your chin up,,there are more men out there that are even less available than he was, you pose a case of classic immaturity, 'wanting what you dont have.'

 

You're right. I think it's ridiculous always having control. I'm such a hypocrite everything i have ever criticized I did. Yes i did do a pretty immature choice. I shall Not do this again. Way too confusing too many infections out there.

 

It's not confusing if you place it in a category of 'fucking', everyone needs to just go out and ''fuck'', keeping the emotions out of the equations.

Men do it, as you have proven that in your 'story', why shouldn't you just go and fuck.

 

All bullshit aside now, the most important thing in life that ALL women of all ages need to remember;

 

youngandconfused, everyone of us makes mistakes, its how we learn and become wiser, we just have to make sure we never make them again, yea right lol, but is what you did a true mistake? like bigDDsub48 said, use your experiance as a learning experiance, now you just learned something new about yourself, dont feel bad about gout going out to experiance new things, that is how we grow as people, we cant keep those things bottled up, it will drive you nuts, you should be proud of yourself for letting down your guard enough to get some more experiance, now is the big step, do you tell your man or dont tell him and use what you learned with him to spice up your sex life and make your relationship come back to life. i wish you the best, stop beating yourself up.

 

Your first mistake was looking on craigs list for a man.
Get out in real life and meet people.
You don't need a computer to meet people.
Try getting off the computer and actually looking around.
There is a whole world out there.
Try looking at it and not some screen.

 

+1...pay attention to the above, start living life, not typing it.

On top of that if you haven't figured it out, the reason he doesn't want to see you again is that HE IS MARRIED. He has a life already built and established. You are a massive complication in that his intention was a one night stand. Then you start pressing him, so he backs off.....but he gets horny again, and what the hell why cruise for a new one nighter when he can tag you again.

Don't worry, he'll contact you again when he wants another piece of ass.....and the whole cycle will go on over and over until he finds a new bit of strange. Then you'll be through.

Quit wasting your time with this guy. See your doctor about your believed pill problem. Stop cruising the net for love.

Hush....an alias

 

oh and p.s....

A Mistress (in the sense you or he are using it) is a lover on the side for a married male that he supports in all ways in return for no complications sex.....If you like this guy so much, tell him sure! Right after he buys you that house, puts a new Ferrari in the garage, fills the closets with furs and clothes, fills the drawers with expensive jewelry and sets up that bank account in your name where he makes weekly deposits for your allowance.

My guess is he means you just give him no complications pussy on demand then leaves him alone until he wants to bust another nut in you.....and be sure.....there is no more to it than that.

Hush....an alias

 

Yes I have many times.

 

Thank you my love. No i will not be telling my boyfriend, i made a mistake. And it was fun while it lasted. I just find it so hard how people can have causual sex without emotions!

 

You are GOOD!!! Might be VERY right!

Funny because when i told him i was open the second time he actually texted me all night.
So im just a "booty call" and I get nothing return. Thats exactly what I have with my boyfriend.

Your a wise one loved your responses.

 

So what are you going to do to start getting what you want from men or a man?

 

If you love it, then great.
Do what you love.

 

You were turned on by the fact he wasn't available and now he's gone - you seem like a nice person so just put it down to experience and enjoy the knowledge you've recognized your last partner wasn't worthy of you and that there's plenty of opportunities out there - enjoy

 

If he already has the family and his own lifestyle already maybe the wife isn't giving him exactly what he needs/wants so I agree he will use you again for a piece of ass but surely there should be more in it for you if he is cheating. Make him work harder to get your pussy not just give it up to him....

 

All true.