His reason for cheating

His wife is selfless, uncompassionate, he's been married with her since July and she's only had sex with him twice. Which i don't believe, why would she be taking birth control.

 

Pretty sure he can find me on Facebook without a problem and tell my boyfriend. I have a reputation. One i have to maintain, which he well aware of. Infuck him over, he'll fuck me over.
I dont get it though, if he was playing dirty why would he give me his real name, tell me where he works and even let me into his house

 

What is your reputation ?

 

Do not listen to anything Sanguine_Narcissist says as he doesn't have your best interest at heart. He is a misguided soul. Best of luck to you and I hope you find what you are looking for.

 

You are only hearing one side of the story and who knows if what he said was true. She might very well not be having sex with him but you don't know why. Maybe he gave her a std, lol. Women love sex so if she isn't then it could be that he is very much be an asshole or maybe they are not sexually compatible or anything. Unless you talk to them both you will never know what truly is going on in their marriage. Maybe he just is the type to have affairs. It is something you will just have to let go knowing that you may never know the answer. If you are in a small community you may run into them.

 

Block him. If you block him on FB, he can't even view your page to see who your boyfriend is: and switch all your settings to Friends and Family only, so he can't hop on a puppet account to mine for information. Did you let him take pictures or anything like that, and does your boyfriend keep an account of where you go, what you do? What I mean is, if your boyfriend approaches you and is like, "What where you doing on the 29th of September?" will he know if you don't give him the right story? Do you love him? Would losing him destroy you, or would you bounce back? Gotta remember, dude with the wife has a lot more to lose than you do: he can lose half of his assets in divorce and alimony payments.

You can ignore the people telling you not to listen to me. I don't care if you take my advice one way or the other, I only say the things I do to get you to look at things differently, and think about them differently. Think of me as a little voice that whispers the best advice for destruction. Just always keep in mind, that you can indeed do anything. Where there is a will, there is a way... Just have to think your way through it like a puzzle box and collate all the data.

 

Pfft, way to see things from "all angles". What do you know about my soul, and the direction it's in? You get pissed and bitch and moan about Aces hurling insults, and you turn around and hurl them at me, after I've said nothing, NOTHING, that is even remotely insulting to you.

 

Smells like a lie to me. 4 months, 2 sexings... Maybe if he tried as hard to get his wife as he tried to get you. I've known some women to take birth control just to stay regular. Off birth control, their periods act all wonky and random for months and months until their body adjusts. Either way, not looking to make excuses for him or her, just dropping some ideas you may not have thought of, and no one else seems to be thinking up.

 

I did see things from all angles and knew she had power over him as suggested but I sure as hell wouldn't tell anyone to use blackmail and get themselves in a whole new can of worms and make it worse then it already is. Geez.... You like to argue just to hear your own voice don't ya...... with having power comes responsibility which doesn't mean when you have something on another that you take them out. Only a person with severe lack would think this way. She had her part in this too it wasn't just all him.

You have been an idiot towards me in the past and you might not have said insults here in this thread but advising someone to cause trouble for themselves, the other party and their spouses ya that shows me enough of your evil mind to know that you are not someone of quality substance. Furthermore what happens between Aces and myself is none of your business. You don't know the entire story and history.

It isn't about letting people shit on you it is about doing what is right for the higher good of all. A concept you obviously are not familiar with by the sounds of your posts.

 

Actually, when you do have power over someone, you should take them down. We have responsibility to ourselves, no one else. There is no greater good of all. Also, I don't have to know ya'lls history. You make it public enough that I can comment on it as I damn well please. Not my business? Keep it in PM. I actually made the OP laugh with my original opinion. Did you make her laugh, or bring any kind of joy to her heart? However horrible my advice was: it worked. Mission Afuckingcomplished.

You think you are some kind of judge of character? On what authority do you judge the condition of my mind, heart, and soul? What makes you an expert on quality substance? And just for the record: you started this argument with me.

 

And now for some advice that might actually help you find some long-term contentment/happiness. Caution: Hard work follows.

Step 1 - Lose this guy's contact info and block him. Why? He's a negative influence in your life. He doesn't add meaningful value to it. And I'm not talking about things you can get with money. Your encounter with him left you feeling like shit. The correct course of action is obvious, disengage.

Step 2 - Break things off with your boyfriend. Why? Because he's obviously not the man for you and you are obviously not the woman for him. Stop wasting each others' time by continuing an empty relationship.

Step 3 - Take a long, hard, and honest look at your past and present relationships.

I'd suggest getting a notepad. Each person gets a page with their name at the top. And next to each name you write 'positive' or 'negative' depending on how you feel that person influences your life. Then you look at the actual evidence and do a pros / con list for each person. Then you compare the lists to whether you rote 'positive' or 'negative' next to their name. If you find that people you've judged as positive have far more cons than pros, you need to reevaluate how you form relationships with people.

Step 4 - Fix yourself. Get your shit together. Get your house in order. Check yourself before you wreck yourself. In more other words, if there's something about you personally that you don't like change it if it is changeable or learn to accept you for you. Don't like your job, find another one. Can't find a job in your area, move! Can't get the job you want because you lack the education/experience, go to school (there are tons of tuition assistance programs out there and Community Colleges and State Universities are a perfectly good option, just make sure they are accredited). Are you unhappy with your weight? Workout and diet, all this requires at first is will power and walking shoes. If you've suffered emotional trauma in the past you should probably look into counseling. Especially if Step 3 indicated that you form more negative relationships than positive ones.

Step 5 - Get involved with activities that you enjoy. You'll find that being happy with yourself and being social at activities that you enjoy will put you in a position to meet like-minded people. One of those like-minded people might be someone you are attracted to and I don't just mean physically. Get to know people before you sleep with them. And by that I mean pay attention to their actions and not just their words.

As someone who's been around the block a few times I can tell you one thing with certainty. The only thing I ever found when I went looking for love was lust. And while lust can be fun, it's not love.

 

Forget the asshole men. Find you a good woman
PS. I'll volunteer.

 

I think about that at times but I like cock to much to convert.

 

Couldn't convert....i love cock. But i would let a woman eat me anytime. Lol

 

Yes my thoughts exactly.

 

Bahahaha and thats why i was looking for a girl at first
Lmao