Ladies, do you actually like it when guys play with/ massage your breasts? How about your pussy? I've been with my gf for 3 years, and she doesn't like it when I do those things. I feel very sexually frustrated because she won't let me touch her sexually. We cuddle lots, but nothing more. And we only have sex like once a month. Maybe some girls just aren't into sex? She bearly will even let me make out with her. I'm 24 and she's 25. Any advice??

 

I feel like she's in love with me, but not sexually attracted to me

 

Did you brush your teeth and take a shower?

 

Errmmm wrong place to ask as all us women here love sex, you need the frigid womans forum

 

Some women don't have a huge sex drive. I'm willing to bet there are guys like that, too. How old are you and her? Does she have any medical conditions? Depression? I hate to say it, but could your hygiene be an issue? Without more information, there's no telling why she is uninterested. She could have suffered abuse at some point in her life. Did you ever cheat on her? If you did, I know why she doesn't want you to touch her.

Sweetie, if you want to save your relationship, you need to figure this out. I doubt she even realizes how important this is to you. My advice is if you can't work this out through communication or counseling, you should consider leaving. I don't think you would be happy in a sexless realitionship and in the long run, that's not good for her either.

 

Sounds to me like you should dump her. It is my belief that she will continue to withhold sex from you, and only give it to you to gain something she wants from you. Find you another girl, this one is playing you.

 

No she just has issues ! Maybe something she aint telling you what she does ain t normal women in there tweenties are so horny get hot really fast / seek a therapist

 

Yeah, sure. What about talking to her?

 

Maybe she is a good girl and is waiting for marriage?

 

Maby she's a nun....are you living together?

 

I'm not a huge fan of my boobs being played with and nipples sucked too hard....probably a carryover of being kinda flat growing up. But it is nice to have them kissed, softly massaged and licked. Having my pussy touched is my faaaaaavorite. (Said like Richard Christy from HS show!) I have loved getting fingered and rubbed since I was younger. I want that before sex, during sex and especially after sex!

There have been a few guys on here that have brought up being with a girl (dating or married) and not having sex. If married then my advice would be very different. I would question why the guy married a girl with any possible signs like this coming down the road. But sometimes girls can just go into a funk so if you're married then you ride it out and keep trying to make it work.

However, it sounds like you are not married. If not married then you still need to be upfront and honest with her to help her understand how important this kinda stuff is for you in a relationship. Still be understanding and there for her but the biggest difference in being unmarried is....you can leave! That's what dating and even engagements are for!!!! It is a trial period to see how you fit. I've said it before, until I accepted my husband's proposal and got married....Leaving a relationship was ALWAYS on the table for me. If she is this hung up on not being touched and just sex stuff in general this probably is what it is for her. If you aren't fucking your brains out at 25 then do you really think she will be doing more when she's 35 with more responsibilities, kids, job, older parents, etc? No way dude. Help her understand your needs, be there for her as much as you can and have open lines of communication for full honesty and support but head for zeeee hills if that doesn't work. Find someone else and let some other guy take on sexual issues like that. Just my opinion.....

 

I totally get the good girl thing. While I was not one of them, I did have a few really good friends over the years who took this kind of approach to sex. Even if it wasn't totally waiting until they were married for some, there was just a holding off concept in place for these girls. While a very broad generalization, each & every one of these friends ended up having hang ups about sex. A few had husbands cheat in them for lack of attention. Some are still married but in sexless relationships and others are divorced and totally split up. To me it is a recipe for being uptight about sex. Does anyone know of ANY girl who was a complete virgin at their wedding and is now a fun little sex loving slut with her husband?? Not me.

I'm sure there are plenty of guys who would want to marry a virgin or have a wife where sex isn't a top priority in their relationship. Different strokes for different folks. I just know that I could never be married to a guy like that and more than likely this guy on the thread probably wouldn't want a girl like that either. I love that both my husband and I had fun and full sexual experiences before we came together. That let us know when we had found something better and worth holding onto.

 

thank you.. i know i shouldn't have posed this. It's just something i need to figure out on my own

 

Why shouldn't you have posted this? I think it's often good to get other people's opinions when figuring out how you feel about something. Of course you will always do whatever you think is best for yourself. The other opinions can just help you see an issue from all possible sides.

 

........and do the washing up and take out the trash.

Seriously you need to talk to your girlfriend. After 3 years you're old enough to have a serious talk about your sexual needs and desires!
Her behaviour may just be a result of a lifetime of conditioning and she needs a little desensitizing!

Good luck!

Thinskin

 

Thanks Christine

 

I doubt it's my hygiene... I attend to that very well. I just have to talk to her and see what's up..

 

Perhaps it's because your face is a turd?

Think about it.....That is the persona you sought here for whatever the reason be it some inside joke, lack of self esteem, immaturity, whatever. Unfortunately we all tend to apply our little real life quirks to our anonymous web presence, yet also it does tend to speak of who we at least envision ourselves as.

So perhaps you might want to ask yourself why you would choose such a nickname, and whether or not you exhibit such a persona real life, even just minor aspects of........Personally, I wouldn't want a "turd-face" kissing on me.

Hush.....an alias

 

Talk to her..............Seriously but in a way which isnt confrontational. Try and find out what it is that turns her on or what she would like more of and perhaps what she wants less of.

Honestly at your ages I would have thought you would be screwin like bunnies and if she isnt even letting you kiss her and you are only making love once a month then time has come to take things in hand or cut her loose.

Yeah I know that might seem harsh but in the absence of anything obvious that is putting a damper on her ability to be real with you sexually then from experience I can assure you its more likely to get worse rather than better. When I say worse Im talkin, not in your worst nightmare worse.

Yes some woman ( and some men ) just dont have any big need to be sexual and although mismatched sex drives might be fairly common, it is not the mismatch that is the issue but the distance of that mismatch. It sounds like yours is an ocean rather than a narrow creek and unless you resolve it then you are going to spend for ever feeling disattisfied and frustrated

 

Yes, talking to her should be your very first step. Communication is always key in any relationship. If you can't confront her about this issue that is very important to you. Then that means there is already lack of communication and your not sexually active together. Two things very detrimental in a relationship. So if it continues on like you two are going, then later down the road.....if not now!! Your relationship will fail.

Like others have said it could be something that happened in her past. It could be that she's just not into you...and feels bad breaking things off. Maybe she is not comfortable with her sexuality or has low self esteem. You should be able to tell when you try to undress her or touch her if that's the issue.

But either way start by having that tlk. Then you will know if it's worth your time your investing in this relationship. If not get out while you can easily. Luckily your not married. So it's a good thing. Work out all your issues before you take the plunge into marriage. Cause trust me when i say marriage is not easy. It will take a lot of communication and work. But if you feel in your heart she's the one for you. Then most definitely try to work on your issues now. The right person is worth fighting for. So first do some soul searching and ask yourself if she's the one for you. If your not even looking to get serious, then why worry with it? There are other women that would love to be touched and be sexually involved. Best of luck to you dude!!!