now that is solid advice. Good to see someone new actually contribute without using stupid BS

 

hmm,, good advice, but, like that guy said, we don't know his age,location,occupation so we really can't help,


But don't worry dude, i'm 18 and i am still damn shy with women, the same thing is happening right now to me actually hahaha, so heres the info haha

age-18 her-16

location-small town 1 hour from her town

occupation-college student her-highschool

so, yea, basically i go to another town every 2-3 weeks for school, wenever she knows im going, she asks me to stop at her place on the trip home, problems is, i'm never alone when i go there, always with 1 or 2 fellow classmates, but my classmate and the girl are friends, so it aint so bad, so anw, we talk on msn pretty much everyday, sometimes the phone*me+phone=big no*

so anw, i am like one of the best to figure out if a person likes another*only works for other people* but this i am kinda desperate cuz one weekend, she invited me and her friend from my town to go up to a concert, so i go, but dancing aint really my thing hahaha*6f3 and 220 pound, u kinda stand out, plus a incarnated toe doesnt help* so when we arrive there, she was all happy*alittle drunk* but she sees a guy she had been after for like 2 years, right there she went from 100 to 0, so anw, after i go onto stage for once, she starts like dancing with me,*her back agaisnt me front* but i'm kinda shock right there,still thinking bout the other guy. so the songs end, i get back to where i was, anw, i slept at her place that night, *she past out while i was driving to her place* anw, we didnt do anything, she slept with the girl in my town, left early the next day

 

True, ask bnthrdntht

Speaking from my own personal experiences, I was sexually molested by an older man when I was 5 and once again when I was 9. First was oral thing, the other was more than that. These two things totally destroyed any possibility I may have had at having self confidence concerning the opposite sex. Believe it or not, doesn't really matter to me. I'm 34 and have never asked a woman out face to face. There's a difference in being shy and having a true,honest to God phobia of rejection. When I was single, I would rather assume no was going to be the answer and go about with my life than risk actually hearing it. So, that being said, I know where you're coming from about not wanting to be rejected, but, since I haven't overcome my own phobia of it, can't really offer advice. Just letting you and everyone else know that just cause a person is older, it doesn't make them a pussy or whatever cause he fears rejection. There could be a cause behind it.

 

if you have a friend that is her friend then you could ask them to find out but the best way is to ask her yourself if you don't move in the chances are she'll move on and you'll never know if she does say no then just ask if she wants to go out to get to like you :wink: but if she says no to everything move on mate there plenty more out there

 

damn i must be so obvious around the guy i like at work!!!
the best thing is to ask them out. no shitting around just do it. otherwise someone else wil beat you to it.

 

confidence will be your best asset... embrace it.
enough said.