In college and after college, it was to feel loved or needed. However those people I fucked for FWB were not people that loved or needed me. I was used for sex and at times I used them for sex. Now I am in a relationship where I am loved and we have sex. I never had a healthy sexual relationship till my current bf

 

Well we have had enough of them!

thinskin

 

Some chicks just like it a bit rough and out of control. Mmmmmm

 

I can't think of a wrong reason to have sex. I don't do pity lays, so never had a wrong reason for what I do.

 

I did laugh, you are your avatar.

 

Maybe just maybe she loved it???

 

Guilty. Was too naive and scared to say no.

 

As the OP and while this thread is still current, just wanna add some unqualified thoughts; I don't think regret in itself is a wrong reason to have sex. Adult's have to take responsibility for actions they take willingly, and if I had to dissect every possible consequence of having sex (beyond my conscience and goodwill) I'd either abstain or agree with many here that there are no wrong reasons. Poor judgement, growing pains and things not quite working out as well as they could of, that's life, or a learning curve hopefully. Anger is debatable and as noted sometimes works well. I still can't make 'obligation' a right reason. And I'm still dealing with 'having sex to facilitate an addiction'.

 

What say I back up the above flippant statement with a couple of examples from my own experience, both of these when in Nicaragua/Honduras/El Salvador in the early 80's....At that time where ever it was specifically they would routinely round up local citizens or whomever they found and "arrest" (kidnap) them. Mind you it had nothing to do with crime, yet they would do so to torture, rape, and kill to state to everyone else, "obey, or this can happen to you."

There were about 20 of us in a cell starving, all female, yet all ages. When the guard offered up a single plate of food for only one to get to eat, I pushed through the rest who were begging, pleading and so on and promptly pulled off my dress and flopped on my back spreading my legs. After he finished right there in front of all the others, I then had to listen to all of them sobbing and pleading for a single bite of the 3 bites worth on the plate. If we all were not in such a bad state I would have been in real trouble from the gals after.

At the same place as above in a different cell and women, I would brazenly suck or fuck any guard, especially when they were selecting who would be tortured that day. It worked hit and miss, yet essentially every time it did work others suffered for my cowardice.

Wrong reasons? Perhaps, yet I'm typing this today when many others cannot.....Yet not a single day goes by that I don't regret what I did in that others suffered horribly when I didn't, my own base animalistic survival reflex, my cowardice, and that I let men that I should have dealt with, with absolute finality touch me.

The wrong reason is just a mistake, so get over it. Regret for even the right reason lasts a lifetime.

Hush....an alias

 

Well shit can't top that, so I'll just enjoy my Fresca.

 

How odd, I thought we were here to share experiences, not try and top the last person.

Hush....an alias

 

There were times where I had sex for the wrong reasons. After losing my virginity at 20 to someone I thought I would be in a relationship with, it never panned out well and she broke up with me. I thought I was looking for love, but it was more lust and I never understood it at the time because I never gotten into a relationship til after I was out of high school. I was a little shook up because I felt used. I slowly learned to understand about my past and felt I was making mistakes. I had sex with married women, a stripper, and almost made a huge, huge mistake with one girl that could've basically destroyed my life, but thank God (and my mom's long punishing speech) that I waited til she was 18 before we had sex then. Later on, I realized that I'm only young and learning from them and moving on from it. I have needs but I've become a bit conservative sexually until I at least get to know someone, and yes I did that with a stripper too. I'm only experiencing and living out some of my fantasies that I never got the chance to do before. My only wrong reason could be that I'm probably gonna stop getting into a relationship with someone for a long time, but for everything else, I don't really have regrets about it.

 

Too many times in the past because others wanted to and I was seen as the one to ask!

 

because i feel like if i dont fuck tonnes of chix now, when i'm old i'll regret it. I find the best sex is with someone i love though, so sometimes i feel regret after fucking the chix. especially after what i tell them. they all want relationships and so do i but, I have not had any lasting connections. so i string them along like little fishies, snap em up into my kingsize boat, then once i see who the are, little fuckin rock bass, i throw them back into the sea.