Even if you manage to talk her into it she won't enjoy it so what's the point? So just be happy your getting some or dump her and look for someone who's into swinging

 

OK here is my take.

I do not know why your wife is reluctant and that is so important. She may have body image issues compared to other members of the group. She may think you just want to get your dick into something else. Your profile says you are bisexual but does your wife know and accept this?

I would get some of the other girls in the group to talk to her......and I think you should offer her a session where all the couples stay in the same room but nobody swaps or groups up. In other words a collection of couples who stay as couples but everyone can see. You must not try to push this into anything more so she sees that she can trust the group.

Try to talk to her in a non-sexual environment about her hopes and fears.

Heywood is right if she does this when she does not want to it will be a disaster.

Finally you should question your own motives and be honest with your wife.

All the best!

Thinskin

 

Thanks for the suggestion.

 

If she doesn't want to, she won't.

How about the two of you watching other people have sex, but not participating? Or having sex while other people have sex in the same room? If she can associate sexual pleasure with the presence of other people, she might get more comfortable with the idea.

And if she doesn't.....don't push.

 

just hit her over the head with your trusty club and then drag her into the party
she will be forever thankful to you for considering her feelings and very soon, she will realise you knew what was best for her and your relationship

 

you love to watch porno together? If yes propose her to take a look live, without getting involved

 

More so, if she eventually does, it will eventually lead to the OP losing her.

It seems to me, this is the OP fantasy, not hers. I see trouble that may be irreparable if it occurs. I gotta ask, what is more important

The Fantasy, or the Wife.

 

These are all thoughtful suggestions. There are a lot of things to be considered, and there is a lot we don't know about your wife. My suggestion is that whatever gets her motor running, manage to do a lot of that. Start asking her about her fantasy life, (we all have one), and make the conversation mischievous, light and fun. Use what you are able to glean from that and subtly plant provocative seeds and let them grow. Once you make the idea of other partners for recreational sex a topic that she is at least considering, you are on your way. Just be careful what you wish for. Like any new adventure, there can be other unforeseen issues that present themselves. Just remember, forcing the issue creates resistance, where subtle persuasion can do the trick.

 

Make it fun!

 

No means no. Get over it, and move on.

 

As my friend @thinskin said, "You cannot manage this, only encourage" and it may be all for not if you don't first entice the idea. I've been encouraging my wife Lil' Donna for years to consider an MMF threesome which has gone from an emphatic NO, to opening up more curiosity and learning myself what holds those thoughts back. As such if a woman who's always been curious about group sex or threesomes this task isn't really that hard if your the right man who doesn't make it seem like a selfish indulgence (which most men do) but rather leading her to a place where it's for her glory and not only yours.
My lady was groomed a truly Catholic virgin of whom only one man would have, so for me it was the first hurdle to encourage her to be comfortable in desiring other men sexually, fast forward about the last 15 years I've been laying the foundation and much of what's holding her back now is what she feels and I know is her present physical limitations being overweight and in poorer health. What I'm saying to you is that given your wife's present thoughts on group sex or encouraging anything well outside the norm like this is possible, but if great sex is a marathon and not a sprint. Then encouraging such a lofty fantasy you may need to consider that to make it happen is more like a hike from the east coast to the west coast and back again and if it's worth it to you then you'll be ready to make that journey.

 

How do I get my husband to LET me have group sex? lol

 

Laughing!!! This way round is much easier because hubby has a lever you can pull on!

Thinskin