My wife says that masterbation is a form of cheating. I cant masterbate with out watching some kind of porn. My wife says watching porn is cheating as well. Is she crazy or is she right? I have sex with her several times a week with no complaints. But on the days she cant have sex or wont, i masterbate. If she ever cought me she would probably leave me... any thoughts on this?

 

To me that seems a little over the top, I don't have a problem with porn or masturbation.

Have you tried asking her why she thinks it's cheating? Had she been with someone who started with that and then cheated?

 

She just dosent like porn, she thinks it puts pressure on our marrage. The masterbation part, she dosent do it. Iv never seen her do it, shes never told me she did it. Iv always been told that if someone says they have never done it they are lying.... she says she just dosent enjoy it cause she sees it as a form of infadelaty...

 

See, to me infidelity involves another person. Not your own mind and body.

 

I agree but she is always saying, why not have sex with me instead of jacking off? Like i said we fuck on a rwgular bases and she dosent understand that everyone needs a little me time ...

 

Have you tried fucking her eveytime instead? Make her so annoyed with all the sex that she gives in and lets you masturbate?

 

I have tried that. She rwfuses to blow me when she gets her monthly visit but telles me that i better not jack off... iv tried to have sex with her anyway and she refusez cause she thinks its wrong/nasty. I have to hide my porn lust and masterbation/ me time...

 

Poor guy

 

Tell me about it. I have tried to get her to watch porn and masterbate together, i have tried to get her to watch porn wile i go down on her and i have tried to explain to her my want for porn and masterbation and she gets all pissy. Im at my wits end. We have been married for 4 years.

 

First, it's masturbation. How difficult is that?

Second, she is crazy and it's only going to get worse. There is a simple solution. When she brings up the porn thing, tell her you need it to masturbate, and if she's not going to help, she can give you privacy.

After that, change the locks immediately. You don't have to put up with this kind of treatment. Tell her, "I will not tolerate this kind of behavior." Let her decide if the thought of you pulling on your cock while watching people fuck on a video screen(Let's assume it's not nuns shitting on each other) is really worth finding a new place to live.

 

you are having sex several times a week and still complaining???

 

Well I get her not liking the porn thing. I have a few female friends who are really anti.

Telling you that masturbation is cheating is just plain crazy.

I agree with Bron tell her you will masturbate when you want and if she doesnt like it she knows where the door is. I think you are on a slippery slop unless you man up and tell how things work in the real world

 

It's only cheating if you are hopelessly insecure.

 

I find it ammusing that you and other people have said you fuck her multiple times a week and
She's complaining?!? Uhh yeah I bet she is... bc if you have a cock and she has a pussy... why waste it. Most
Guys on here would
Die to dive into that pussy every chance they get. But you may or may not have taken that pussy for granted or are bored with it... everyone has a different POV

 

no its not cheating ......

 

Whoops forgot the big part... no it's not cheating. Did she actually use that word?

 

You need to sit her down and figure this out by requiring a full explanation of her insecurities, if she's worth it because this won't be easy?

 

Here is the rational side of the question. If you are doing something that involves sex or intimacy that the other person does not approve of it is cheating. If you feel that you need to ask us instead of her that just says that you need to resolve real issues in that relationship or end it.

 

No it isn't cheating. As the sole owner of your body you are exercising ownership rights.

 

Watching porn is a means of getting inspiration whilst in the process of masturbation and should be used just for that proceess... Try venting your pent up frustration on your wife with all the sensuality that you can muster and I am sure that she will appreciate it.....