Personally I won't engage in anything sexual solely to please someone else and with the exception of a service I've paid for, I wouldn't knowingly allow anyone to share any experience with me if they derive no pleasure whatsoever.

My view on this was challenged not so long ago. It wasn't pistols at dawn but someone that felt strongly that it is normal and expected to perform sexual acts solely to please and to expect such deeds to be reciprocated within a relationship.

I was not swayed! Any thoughts welcome.

 

I think you shouldn't expect someone to do something just because you want them to, its give and take in a relationship, if they don't enjoy it how can you,, well that's what I'm like but everyone is different

 

I would have to say it's mutual pleasure. Although it could vary on what the pleasure for each entails, as some may derive their pleasure from solely performing a sexual act on someone, while others may require some sort of reciprocity.

Regardless it is a mutual understanding of what each person wants out of the session.

 

I think there are two parts to this. Would I perform a sexual act to pleasure someone else and nothing else. Yea I would, and I have. Before work Blowjobs or waking him up on Sunday morning with coffee and my mouth or hand on his cock.

The point is it was still pleasing for me even if the sole aim was to have him cum and nothing else.

I wouldnt do something if I didnt like it and although I would hope the favour to be returned I wouldnt necessarily expect it either. Sometimes the pleasure is inn the giving.

Of course I have been fucked enough time with out regard to how I feel and have allowed that to happen, but for many years that was how I rolled and it is only recently I have 'grown up' if you like and decided I wont let that happen again.

 

I can't agree. I know I've sucked my husband dick 1000 times without expecting anything in return and/or hoping to get something in return and all I got was a load in my mouth whether that was enough or not depended on the day or if I had given up on him caring enough to reciprocate in that time frame of these things happening. Relationships are give and take. Sacrifices are made. I very rarely tell my husband know. Hell most of the time he doesn't have to ask. And he's happy about that. Most people would be. If it not insulting one of your limits why not go for it other than to prove the point of not giving a fuck... maybe not you directly but it will apply to some I am positive. You sound like you may be a selfish lover. Glass ceilings aren't so pretty when you're on your way up and you just smack into it instead of flying and breaking through them to amazing places.

 

Well said very well said.

 

I'm not even sure I understand what is being stated - the first sentence seems to contradict itself .
Any sexual activity to be good should be mutually enjoyable, no matter how that enjoyment is achieved .......... sometimes it can be achieved together and sometimes it might seem to be 'one-sided', but is still enjoyed.
Examples:
1) You both mutually enjoy mutual oral but for some reason sometime your cock won't react/she doesn't want her pussy licking ....... but you still lick her off/she still gives you a blow job and you both enjoy giving the other pleasure.
2) You both mutually enjoy fucking to ejaculation/orgasm but sometime for some reason you know you aren't going to cum/she isn't going to orgasm but you each carry on to give the other their pleasure.
It is such 'give and take' that makes a 'pair' and without it you are just two singles, selfishly taking without giving ------ which in sex is nothing more than using the other as a form of 'masturbatory tool'.

 

Unfortunately or fortunately depending on the day sometimes my only sexual outlet is masturbation that was preceded by just eating my wife's pussy. Being that her present state of health has been so poor and it's now come to a head medically due to an injury, she's agreed to work with me and our family in recovering from it. Cardio and body strengthening exercises are moving slow, but the future should hold promise for a return of more amorous adventures. Note if it wasn't my wife I would not offer this exception to anyone without an expectation of reciprocation, the wife earned the respect!

 

On occasion my wife or I would please the other without anything expected in return. It is damned enjoyable to bring someone pleasure, to focus on them and them alone.

 

Exactly! And I have given my wife and past girlfriends oral just gor their pleasure. I truly enjoy it.

 

for my gf and I she loves to give me bj's and she knows i will go down on her too. i love to eat her sweet pussy, some days she does it and i cant give it back to her, for what ever reasion but i will get back to her and she knows it.

 

Knowing that what I'm doing is pleasing my man is my pleasure.
He does the same for me.

 

I think that context is everything here mate!!

thinskin

 

I don't go down on a guy or deep threat because I like it. I do it because I should be getting something in return.

 

Mutual or for them.

 

As long as you're not asking for something degrading, disgusting or just fuckin sick, sometimes we do things for the ones we love that might not necessarily be our cup of tea. That's like sometimes when I come home from work and my wife tells me that she's been thinking about sucking and jerking a load out of my cock all day and tells me she wants to blow me, how could I not let her enjoy herself and have a little bit of a fun? It's my wife who I love, because she's asking to blow me, she's asking me!

 

Sometimes I let him think he is in control.

 

OK. For me, when I say mutual, I don't mean it has to be 50/50. If I get the tiniest buzz from pleasing someone... That's mutual pleasure! If that buzz comes solely from the other persons pleasure, so what, it's still mutual pleasure.

What if you detest anal sex to an extent that your partners trip to the Moon cannot override your displeasure..? What if you struggle not to laugh at the man you married when he's wearing your lingerie..? What if your hand is hurting more than her arse and you're nearly ready to strangle her but not in the context she had in mind..?

I've had many sexual partners that would willingly do anything I wanted. Hopefully they've all understood that anything better not come close to only for my pleasure. If it's an experiment or exploration that's mutual and communication is good, fair enough, try most things once. Otherwise don't ever cross your personal boundaries in a respectful sexual relationship/one night stand/casual fling whatever (with me anyway).