My wife and i tried anal a while back and we didnt go slow enough the first time so it was painfull and obviously not enjoyable for her. Last week on vacation we decided to try it again and it went much better, we went slow, and got her used to a finger first, lots of lube ect. She had some slight/good pain but much less than before and she did get some pleasure from it, but she didnt think she would come from it. She said she wants to give it another try. I was thinking a toy between the size of my finger and my dick would help her get used to it. Any thoughts on that being worth a try?
Also we used astroglide for lube, anything better we should try?

 

Lubricant brand is a personal thing, some people just like their brand because it's what they use. My fiancee prefers the Equate brand from WalMart because it is the same as KY brand and about half the cost. Toys are good and can be used together or solo if she wants to, but nothing beats cleanliness and preparation. Relaxation is very important.

 

Anything is worth a try.
Since she enjoyed a finger, (and your cock?) I don't see why she wouldn't enjoy a small toy.
I have never cum from anal alone, but I still like it once in a while.
We also use Astroglide. It works well but tastes rather yucky.

 

Yes, she was able to take my cock, with just alittle bit of pain, and shelikes a littld pain, so that was a little turn on for her but i just want to be carefull and NOT give her a bad experience.
Does anyone have any experience with anal specific lubes? I think with just a little more familiarity with a cock in her ass plus some better lube she would relax and get into it again

And yes astroglide tastes horrible, if i was more flexible i would probably lick my own ass to get the taste out of my mouth

 

Ding ding ding, we have a winner. It's not about the lube although if you are not using a condom, silicone based lubes are the best (they don't dry out but conversely it's a pain to clean up). Silicon lube will work with condoms but...water is better. It's a long story...

Anal is 75% in her head. If she wants it, her body will follow in most cases. What's key, and you've already passed this point, is not going for full on penetration your first few times with ass play. She has to get used to relaxing and being comfortable with the sensation. I've been enjoying anal sex for a decade and even today, with the initial penetration in most cases I sometimes ask myself, "Do I have to go?". What works better is changing the position where she can relax and where your thrusting can align with the direction of her plumbing. Unlike the vagina, the rectum and sigmoid colon aren't used to being moved around, same with the inner sphincter (there's 2 back there, one you see and one you don't). Rimming, fingering and gentle/light stretching with a small plug beforehand work wonders. If she knows and wants to have anal sex, she should wear a small (contrary to popular belief, it does not need to be big, a 1" wide by 4" long is actually enough) plug before foreplay and then you play with it and/or her during foreplay. That will relax her.

I personally don't like doggy style for anal. Spooning though, LOVE. Same with missionary. But when I want to get plowed that way, on my stomach and a pillow under my hips is absolute bliss. Find out what position works for her though. For pure intimacy, missionary or spooning work wonders.

But for lube, go with JO or Wet silicone. Really any silicone *unscented* (that's key, don't use scented or warming lubes back there) lube even from a shithole like Wal-Mart will work just fine.

 

We just use a lot of spit.

 

Your absolutely right gorgeous.

 

I use the same brand as do-m and KatieColorado - Astroglide. I have tried many but also agree those that are silicon based do not break down near as quickly as water based. Of course you will pay 2 to 3 times more.

 

"I personally don't like doggy style for anal. Spooning though, LOVE. Same with missionary."

My girlfriend likes doggy better, I prefer missionary.

A small toy will work wonders.

 

I love anal, but have only used lube once or twice...

 

It has the advantage of coming in butter flavor...

 

My hero!

 

Hustler has a great beginners set of butt plugs. Three to the set. 0.8 inches wide (at widest point) and 3" long, 0.8" wide and 4" long and 1.8" wide and 5.5" long. A great selection to get someone ready.

 

Albolene is the best lube...And your partner should concentrate on pushing out as you push in...It is counterintuitive but it works!

 

Wal-Mart has a generic brand of"personal lubricant" that's only$2 . People say you get what you pay for it...not in this case. I've used so many different brands of expensive lubes from adult stores....this Wal-Mart stuff is all we use now...and it's GREAT GREAT GREAT for anal!!

My gf was the typical girl...saying hell no to anal..that no matter how you do it...it fucking hurts. She just thought I was laying a line her when I told I could do it and it wouldn't hurt. She finally gave ita try...because I'd always been right about everything else before. I was right again and she couldn't believe it...she LOVES ANAL now.

 

If she is new to anal she is going to have to have several experiences before she feels completely comfortable and able to truly enjoy it. The receiver has to learn how to relax and get used to the sensations. Might I suggest having her be on top for a few rounds so she can control the speed and depth. Once she gets used to how anal works, she can let you take the wheel. Besides, it makes for fantastic viewing!

As for lube, Astrolglide gel gets my vote. I have tried various lubes and I feel it outperforms or performs just as good as more expensive, sex shop brands. I buy mine at Target when I'm doing my everyday shopping and it only runs a few dollars a tube.

 

You got lucky there. There has been a lot of women where guys have pushed the issue and the experience was awful for her...forever ruining anal for her. That is fucking unfortunate

 

Some lube is beneficial although for me it has never been an issue, just keep trying the different brands but I am going to say it is more about her feeling relaxed than which brand of lube.

Position wise I prefer Spoons and would suggest this as a position, it is less intimidating and hopefully she will feel more in control and engaged.

By all means get a toy for the fun of it but if you are going to do anal just do it she seems to have had fun the last time so now it is just practice

 

I remember someone suggesting coconut oil as a good anal lube. I have no experience with it, but it would taste pretty good.......well, if you like coconut.

 

Well, it does have a low melting point