So there was a lot of different posts around the matter but I want to know how many are currently active on any form of BDSM and what are their role. Personally I have been on and off about it mostly due to lack of time and privacy to do so. I am a Switch.

 

I am very much active and have been for quite some time

 

Very active, switch.

 

I can't say I'm a switch. Way too submissive. But i can switch. If that makes any sense to you.

 

24/7/365 ~ I'm the "Dawme`na'fed" (Dow-may-na, fed/Domme) to two 24/7/365 lifestyle choice slaves, and a number of dedicated submissives (no switches) of varied inclinations and schedules. Though I enjoy and would actually prefer a submissive role, it is simply not in my nature. The rare occasion when I can bottom/sub, I typically limit with whom in that only a select few are capable of working with me, anyone less bores me quickly.

Hush....an alias

 

I would like to thank everyone who commented on this thread. Frankly to be honest I expected more, maybe the thread got burried down or something.

 

For every person that lives or participates in BDSM, D/s, Leather, Fetish, etc. as a "lifestyle" or even simply regularly, there are a thousand people who only try it now and again. It's hard to say who is missing out. Some folks who live a dedicated lifestyle though often improving their skills and enjoyment of it dramatically over the tourist, tend to miss out on other aspects of sexuality. In contrast, the tourist will never fully realize the depths of such play. It's hard to say who misses out, we all make our choices.

That said, you commented in a post I made regarding what I was doing that moment:

Which I am in the process now of (though getting a break as Kathy tends to her). That meant I had to unbind her, wait for her to finish apologizing, help her walk into the house, clean her up and direct Kathy to bathe her and how, have Kathy tend to her scrapes and scratches, then deal with her apologizing again (which it is critical that I accept), soothe her and re-explain why it is important she not disregard anyone and obey them (in that it is my reputation, she is mine and my responsibility), then have her apologize to the person she refused, and though they don't live "the lifestyle" if they say "well I could use your help with this" I then need to insure she does that, and then I have to devise a way to prove that the point hit home by setting up a situation that she might normally refuse and observe how she deals with it (with possible subsequent actions if she fails to).

That also meant wherein this morning I woke up not being tended to by her, didn't get my coochie eaten by her which I was in the mood for while Kathy did other things, didn't have her to bathe me, etc., etc., and cannot do what I had planned this morning in that I need to take care of this, you can see how (due to my own lifestyle choices) it's not just a simple thing that I can do or not dependent upon how I feel that moment. It's responsibility, and as much as I may need to do these things in my life to suit me, it's important for her well being that I not just blow it off. She looks to me to do this, and if I do not, after enough times it builds to where she will go out of her way to get that attention feeling neglected and uncared for.

So you can see how it is not for everyone under the criteria of being that involved and active in such a lifestyle.

Hush....an alias

 

This might sound a bit weird but I would really appreciate if someone could help me explore more regards BDSM on either of my sides, thing is I might be asking too much..

 

This is not really the place to find such partners. There are other sites more FETish oriented for those into the LIFE, and though COMmercial free to join and participate at.

Hush....an alias

 

I wouldn't call it active, but I'm definitely more submissive in the bedroom with my boyfriend. The reason I wouldn't say active is because he's not really a dominant. He's never expressed any interest/questioned me about it. He'll choke me and smack/spank my ass, but that's about it that I view as him being even a little dominant. Truthfully I'm not sure I could view him as a dom, he can't mindfuck me.

 

Well mind-fucking is a singular skill!

Thinskin

 

All I can say is how happy I am that I found you Sweetpassion and love that your way too submissive lol xx

 

How long have you been involved?

 

I am dominant but inactive.

In everyday life I am considerate and gentle. So on one level my dominant sexuality restores a sense of psychic balance. But on another level my dominant side is simply another expression of a giving personality. A true dominant is in it for the other person, is living a life based on self-restraint as much as dominance. That would be my life if I had the opportunity.

 

Any more willing to share their story?