My intention is to share a wealth of knowledge that looks at sex beyond the act and nurtures it just as you would learn to grow a plant or a child? By both growing by natural instinct and feeding the psyche with positive reinforcement to allow blooming (growth), getting past sex as a mere action (We did this, I gave him or her that, etc Sex should be treated with as much relevance and fan fair of celebration as love has held for so, long when you realize that sex is one of the top three reasons for separation and divorce! Money, Sex and Children are the three with jealousy the fourth (which can easily be connected with sex)
LESSON #1 The most important step to a successful sexual life is to go into it with your lover's pleasure ahead of your own, if your lover is truly worthy the pleasure you receive in return will be ten fold without even trying!

 

May I share one Milos?

Lesson #2
Don't withhold sex as punishment to control your partner. This will ruin your relationship. Your partner will eventually come to resent you.

 

i can relate to that...and i can tell you it did not end well :/

 

Thankfully I am weak and feeble and totally incapable of withholding sex if asked for it by my wife. :excited:

OK, that's not true. I did once do this for about 3 weeks after finding out we were hugely in debt when she had been in control of the finances (I earned the money, she took care of the accounts). It was not a good move, I think she still holds some resentment to this day for the way I reacted. Don't do it!!!

 

I was hoping everyone would?

 

Lesson #3

Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater! If you want better sex but, the lover your with isn't up to speed, before you go out looking or searching for something new why not learn to polish the old? Most of us carry with us into a relationship baggage full of bad experiences (both ours and others we know) as well as bad information of expectations (anal is painful, pussy smells and tastes horrible, etc Given that the lover we're with is worthy of the time we can communicate our needs, wants and kinks and build the perfect lover through a caring program of slowly teaching them how to please us and learn the steps to please them, otherwise we never make it past infatuated sex and move on to the exciting stuff? Two lovers trying to blow each others minds!

 

Lesson #4

Know going into a sexual relationship that the standards of practice include for both men and women mutual oral satisfaction (the act and not the skill set), vaginal penetration regularly and (like it or not) the anal escapades and curiosities of kink! No act should be considered required if it is physically unattainable, psychologically devastating or morally reprehensible that it goes against the beliefs of a lover's enough to destroy their essence!
Otherwise monogamy is a mutual gift and not a given in any relationship, make sure to do your part?

 

AGREED!

Both lesson #1 (Milo) & #2 (Knox) are to be considered by the members of each and every couple...

If I may, I'd add a #5:
Don't keep on comparing the length & girth of your dick with others (for men) and... don't keep on comparing the dimensions of your boobs with others (for women).

Just enjoy your partner and yourself, cause life is short!

 

Leave it to a Philly dude to show everybody what's up. Way to rep the area, Milos

 

Consider it #5 Ovid and a good one for mental health and well being, some people drive themselves nuts living up to a grand expectation of themselves and lose focus of who cares and what matters most! Good One, Ovid

 

Hope it helps and everyone has fun, Thanks.

 

Lesson #6

If a new or random lover insists that you won't need a condom, you really need to use one! If they persist to "They won't use one!" Walk away know they'll be others and that you dodged a bullet! Pride is playing " SAFE AND SANE TILL YOUR SATIATED SOMEDAY!"

 

Lesson #7

NOBODY LIKES A ONE TRICK PONY! It's that one technique that has worked every time and drives them wild with lust until, that fateful day when it dies and your thinking "Is it me?" Our experience may be limited by the past and an unimaginative future, I like to see my techniques grow with time what I refer to as an "evolution" and the slightest changes can make incredible strides in our connection to our present and future lovers. Imagination, adaptability, creativity and stamina play a major role in keeping each other satisfied and far from temptation to stray here are some oral tricks that may bring a ray of sunshine to your lover's face #1) Mint and Cinnamon have amazing properties that cause warming to your tongue and whatever it touches so before oral, why not use a mouthwash to rinse your mouth out just prior, making sure to swish a bit longer than suggested?(I keep a bottle by the bed) #2 Advancing this step you may consider an infusion once called "clit oil" with 10 parts extra virgin Italian olive or sweet almond oil and 1 part pure mint oil (peppermint is the hottest while spearmint is more mild) To infuse warm up the base oil slightly and add the mint, like cooking taste your concoction, you can add extra drops of mint playing close attention to the tingle so, that it's if only slightly more tingle than a mouthwash to start (you can adjust but, be careful as you know it'll be more sensitive where it's going?) Now let it cool and keep it in a bedside table in a small bottle, a few drops on a tongue or finger to apply can heighten intensity more than you'd think (so don't over do it) Cinnamon works but, you have to use enough oil and a cinnamon stick (this preparation takes longer and you have to keep checking it for intensity) "Remember Good Sex should be like an incredible high that makes you Happy, Horny, Hungry and Tired!"

 

Lesson #8

LEAD WITH YOUR MIND AND YOUR BODY WILL FOLLOW! So you have a nice dick O.K., your tits are huge great\\\ but, the secret to great lovers is not rated by a list of spectacular body parts (add to it preference) what are we offering? The secret to becoming a great lover and a cure to performance anxiety lies in your ability to not over think or view yourself as inexperienced but, to Perceive the possibilities. Believe that you already have the skills (by mimicking at first) what you've seen, heard or read in highly sexual people and Achieve by applying what you've learned in practice until it's second nature! Find the skills that you excel in and start there, your not born a great lover (as I've said) it's a learned skill! So act like your the greatest and someday soon you truly will be, confidence is a hot commodity!

 

Lesson #9

From here on in I'll try to only interject Philosophy and theory and get to the matter at hand, techniques starting with ORAL TRANSLATION! Amazing oral for men and women can make the difference between a good lover and a great one, it not only makes a lovely prelude to intercourse but, can be a powerful finishing move! The most powerful piece to the oral puzzle is in establishing the passionate connection most would be familiar with when they French kissed? Who's had a good and bad French kiss?, the difference of tongues intertwined, lips moist and inviting covering yours or a tongue shoved in your mouth rolling around like it's trying to pick food from your teeth! The lover who knows how to enjoy each moment makes kissing seem like it stands alone while, the tongue pusher has already in their mind removed your clothes, gave you a quick kiss on the crotch and has already moved to fuck you badly! There in lies the first secret every step builds to the next and oral is no different remove the next step and focus all your energy selfishly on the task of your lover's reaction to each change in intensity, speed, suction and deft maneuver! Listen closely to their bodies movements and their voice with every change and don't get stuck too long or too much on one technique (but, take mental notes) Which ones produced a long moan, a short scream or made their body stiffen and writhe in ecstasy, combining them is easy once you've leaned their personal pleasure (no two lovers are ever the same) Truth be told the best oral can only come from someone who truly enjoys the act or has learned what turns you on so, overcome certain boundaries and be your best.
Running late for the Gym Next Lesson #10 detailed Oral techniques, Milo

 

Lesson #10

Oral Translations:

1. Whether you chose raw, with a condom or dental dam? A small drop of lube applied to the cock head or cunt make a big difference to the initial slickness and can improve the overall experience. I.D. makes a great flavored lube myself, I use a drop of Astroglide!
2. For discussion sake we'll name the similar areas of both the cunt and cock:

a. The Tip- of the cock and the clit under the hood
b. The Crest- just under the cock's hole and under the clit hood (including the clit herself)
c. The Pass- the imaginary line running down a man's cock and just between her labia

1. 1. The Suck and Tickle: First when holding the tip in your mouth let your tongue dart in every way imaginable across the tip and crest but, keep the suction firm! Include a slightly flattened tongue at that spot for a different effect. ( the pointed tongue gets boring quick so, fluctuate with the flat)
   2. Drop and Drag- Start with a flat tongue outstretched down the pass with a drawing minimum suction ascend up to the crest and suck harder while pressing your flat tongue and wagging it from side to side.
   3. Honey Pop- For cocksuckers head to the side and lips secure over the pass, pussy lickers nose toward clit and suck between and /or over the pass (labia tease) Let the suction intensify as you rise toward the crest and once at it pull the suction to high and “Pop!” the thin skin at the crest.
   4. Butterfly Tongue Tease- There's a lot to be said about soft passing strokes over the crest, over the tip or through the pass but, make sure to incorporate other techniques as this can only tease and not finish what your starting (usually, there's always the exception) The trick here is finding the lover's fingerprint where precisely their sweet spot is?
   5. The Grape of Wrath- A complicated skill to master but, effective! Place a grape between your teeth and apply tongue pressure making sure the grape doesn't fly out of your teeth, you don't use your lips and most importantly don't break the skin! Roll your flat tip over it and tease it with your tip, hard and flickering. Practice this once or twice a week until ,your tongue licks the hole in it without breaking the skin with your teeth! An amazing tactile skill that can be incorporated with all techniques?
   6. Bad Porno Training- Pussy Eaters: Watch more lesbian porn (in that) the less pretty woman usually, eats the best puss! (It's just the way it is) Less, head back and tongue flickering bullshit and more face planting, suckling with talented French tonguing! Cocksuckers : Hold the base or roll the balls but suck harder! (It just feels better and all porno cock sucking is wrong! Porno oral is all about face time with the exception, of a lot of lesbian cunt licking?

 

less is more

 

Yes in the beginning that's true, it's over the years you need to find more ways to amaze and keep your lover interested beyond the infatuation phase!

 

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Shall I continue on to new ventures or let it die? Majority wins!

 

Please continue, I'm enjoying reading you! (Even though I have no partner to practice with atm, but that shall come ... someday )