Hi guys,

In a way, this is sort of like a thread recently posted on here... and yes, I got a little help from that, but I really need more advice ASAP please - Thanks Alot guys.

Basically, in about 6 hours, my girlfriend is coming round - I have the house to myself for a couple of hours you see...

And I am 99% sure somethings going to happen... she told my best mate she wanted it too...

Great! You might say. And trust me, normally, I really would aggree. But not this time. I AM SOOOOO NERVOUS!

I am pretty inexperienced sexually, so naturally, I'm bound to be nervous... but this is more nerves than is probably usual - I'm sure!!.

To be honest, I think one of my main concerns is hurting her - because I really love her. I have this concern because she is VERY skinny, quite small in hight - and so I can only assume that she is going to be very tight. She has recieved nothing sexually, and as far as I know does not masturbate. Advice on how I can finger her without hurting her as least as possible is GREATLY appreciated.

Another reason why I am crapping myself is initiating the whole process. I am very shy when it comes to this sort of stuff - and I know she wants me to initiate the whole process - What's the best way of getting things moving, so to speak? Again, any help and/or Advice is greatly appreciated.

Thirdly, another concern for me is not being able to get it up. Usually, I have no problem - but I know for a fact that when I want/need to get it up, I really struggle! Tips or Advice anyone?

The faster any of you people out there (male or female) can help me out, the better really - seeing as she's coming round in 6 hours...

Oh, and by the way - she is of legal age.

Many, many thanks guys. Greatly appreciated.

 

first jerk it of
decond, if she is a vergin don't finger her
third be very gentile and listen to her, if she says it hurts stop it and try to go slower

that's it for now if u have more questions pm me

 

*looks up* where the hell do people come up with this stuff?

anyways. i would like to state for the record that what you're going through is completely normal. it's good that you're looking for advice, although coming here may or may not have been a good idea...

first of all, you need to relax. i realize this is impossible... seriously though, chill out and play some video games or something.

start off slow. keep in mind that you don't have to go all the way yet, that you don't even have to go that far. it'd be great if you did, but there'll be more chances, especially if you're nice and considerate and all of that.

initiating... *considers* i believe that sex should be fun. :awesome: so have fun! start kissing and go from there. maybe have a bubble bath. bubble baths are fun. plus, if it's her first time, she'd probably appreciate the effort. baths also give you an opportunity to become a little more familiar with one another's bodies. you can touch one another all you like.

despite her size, she can pop a baby out of it. *you* are not going to hurt her if she's sufficiently aroused. so, foreplay foreplay foreplay. touch one another, undress one another. kissing, biting, licking, suckling, you get the idea. if you need to lighten the moment, start tickling one another i like starting with oral. generally, it makes men hard and women wet. if she's not comfortable with you eating her out, consider lube. it isn't always necessary, but it can definitely help.

and whatever that moron says, you can finger her. fingering is in fact a good idea.
hymens... they don't close off the whole area. sometimes, they just stretch out of the way during sex, depending on their composition. i still have part of mine, last i checked. she may not even have hers. so don't worry about it.

keep the lights on so you can see one another. even if it's just a bit of light. it's way easier to stick something in a person if you can see what you're doing. if you're having difficulty, try a different position, and keep in mind that the "angle of approach" is important. you may need to stick a pillow under her butt.

if you orgasm too quickly, fear not. show your commitment to her pleasure by getting down there with your mouth/fingers, whatever. she might not cum the first time, but at least make an effort. if you roll over and fall asleep... *shakeshead* try and stay awake enough to cuddle her and tell her you love her and all that.

good luck :mrgreen:

 

if u say he can finger why shouldnt he do it, but i said it because i know from my expirience that that is a bad idea, to touch the count ok, but not to put the fingers in, an dif he is going to do it he better be gentile

 

Good luck

:rose:cool shade. Don't get so nervous you can's get a hard on, and if you shoot too quickly, try again. You should last longer.
RICO

 

Juveniles, what can I say.

start by undressing each other, and lots of kissing and licking all over her body. Give her a massage, first on her back she laying on her tummy, then start at her feet and firmly massage her legs, as you go higher spreading them apart, then have her turn over and gently rub her breasts and start kissing and sucking on her nipples, then move your mouth lower and lower, until you are ready to suck her clit (you know the pink hard thing at the top of her slit!) into your mouth and tongue massage it, But always listen to her and ask her if you are doing it right.

Then you lick up and down her slit which should be really wet by now, next if she is ready get on your knees between her legs and stroke your dick up and down her slit, it might make you cum. If so do it on her belly and rub it in.

If she is on birth control pills you can go bare, but if not use a condom, find one in your parent's bedroom. It's safe if she just finished her period in the last week.

Have her next get on her hands and knees, butt in the air, near the edge of the bed, so you can be standing up and put yourself in her pussy very gently and slowly, stirring it around as you go. STOP when she tells you to.

After you have been fucking her like that for several minutes then you can have her lay on her back and you kneel between her legs to put it back in.Don't lay your weight on her, but hold yourself up with your elbows.

You ought to jack off before she comes over about thirty minutes, or else you will cum in two or three strokes when you go in.

One thing I didn't mention is her sucking on you and maybe swallowing a load first, you could do 69 each sucking the other for a while, too.

That should put you in good shape, think what she is giving you, herself, appreciate and honor it.

 

Guys - thank you soooooooooo much for your help! It really is appreciated Thank's alot.

Any more advice in the short period of time that is left....

 

hmmmm..........

Take it slow, rush her and you might scare her of.
She'll show you if she likes what you're doing.

 

Thanks guys. I am going to meet her and walk her back to my place in 15 mins!

My nerves have calmed down alot since reading the replies here... no doubt they'll be back with avengence when we are both sat next to each other in an awkward silence... lol.

BTW ecesis and ZYZX, amongst all the other great advice you both gave me, thanks for help on how to initiate everything

I'll let everyone know how it went later on. Cheers again everybody!

 

if you can't spell "experience" i refuse to believe you have any.

 

Again peeps, thanks for your help.

Well, it's over. The night I mean, not the relationship im glad to say. lol

Well, it went well. As far as I could tell... I fingered her and reubbed her, and she jerked me off 4 a bit.

There was a few technical glitches, however

1) She didnt get that wet... but not 2 worry i geuss (I dont no why cs i was rubbing her clit alot) Oh well - every girl is different... (I didnt get to "finger her" that much either come to mention it, probably mostly owing to the awkward sitting/lying position we were in...)

2) I didn't get hard! Not even a Semi! About an hour later i felt precum on my leg though... What's going on!?!?!? She did do it slow though, and didnt do it for longer than 10 mins (because i was embarassed about not getting hard, i told her to stop cos i was going to cum)

Again thanks for all the help. At least next time I come to do stuff with her, I shouldn't be as nervous... Now to just solve my erection problem! I can get one, just didnt tonight (the second wank i've ever had, the first girl i didnt care about [we were both happy just folling around] and so this dilema was understandable) ANy help and Advice people?

Cheers.

 

i didn't get very wet when i first started having sex, because i was nervous. lube is your friend! and sometimes it's more than just "rubbing her clit" - every girl is different. for me, it has to be a tongue, or, the finger needs to be wet. otherwise it just hurts. certain motions and pressures are better than others, as well.

i would guess the lack of erection is due to nervousness, but i don't have a penis, so i'm not a qualified expert. it happens to one of my boys, sometimes, but if i give him a bit of a blow job and talk dirty, the problem is solved... :awesome:

 

My mind is much better at producing wetness than actual physical contact. Perhaps this is the case with her, too.

 

hmmm

Sense you don’t post your age I would guess you’re too young to have erectile dysfunction, so that would concern me.
It amazes me to watch a porno and the girl drops to her knees, unzips his fly and then pulls out a flaccid cock. I’ve never had that happen (the cock is always hard).

Most guys I’ve been with get hard from passionate lustful kissing, and I get very wet too. Probably more of a mental thing of knowing how hott and primal the sex is going to be.

Oh, and the clit can be over stimulated if you don’t know what your doing, and becomes painfully raw.

 

I'm with you...most guys I've ever known got hard if I looked sideways at them.

As for wetness, I agree with Piggit...thinking about sex almost always makes me wet. A guy's fingers might, or they might not. If you want to be certain, get down there and give me a nice tongue-bath.

 

exactly!

 

Again, I can only thank everyone for the advice. Kool how some even maged to get some homour in there aswel!

So, hopefully, when both of our nerves subside... things will start going - normal?

Well thanks very much again everyone, you have all been a great help and it is much appreciated

 

if you say so :excited: