Yo my league of horny people! I got a problem that I need help with. See I was lucked out with meeting a beautiful indian girl who was as horny and open as me, and I thank god for that lol well she actually wants to try anal and im more than happy to help. The issue is that it does hurt her, The deepest I have every gotten into her was just the head. Im always fingering her ass and playing with it, and she really likes it. But thats my problem. Ive tried lube and I always go as slow as I can (takes a serious amount of control) but it winds up hurting her. Maybe im not stretching it enough before hand but Im really hoping to get some advice from anyone who has tried it before. Hope you guys can help a couple in their times of need lol

 

Hmmm.... not sure what to tell ya buddy.

Sounds like you're doing everything right. The point of the ass play is to help her relax but it sounds like, for whatever reason, she's not relaxing. They offer numbing creams but I don't suggest those. It shouldn't be painful and if the cream is used, she may not be able to tell when it hurts. Have you ever tried a slim toy? Something that goes deeper but is still fairly thin?

 

If it hurts her then you are doing it wrong.

You do not need to force the head of your penis into her anus. If you let it rest against it with just gentle pressure her asshole will open up.
It does not then simply slide in, you have to take it in small stages a bit at a time and always just gentle pressure(no forcing). Her whole ass will open up and you will be able to provide her with the loving she wants.

Oh, and lots of lube too!

Have fun

P P

 

try fingering her ass in stages, for example, one finger, then two then three in a triangle like formation (index & ring finger touching and the middle finger resting on top) this will get wider as you go deeper, alowing her ass to get used to the girth and relax more. progres may be slow but youl get there. my wife is only on the first stage at the moment oh and loads of lube, obviosly lol

 

ok first you need to find a toy store..find the section for butt plugs etc..the is bound to be one that starts off small and goes up...
Or get one just a wee bit smaller than your cock..work in it in let it sit fir a bit..Pull it all the way out add more lube push back in..work in and OUT in and OUT this will start to make her gape some..then slide your cock in...:excited:

 

Tell her to push her mussels out as you push in

 

use 1 finger and use lube, after about 1 or 2 minutes, put on more lube and use 2 fingers, then 3, and use some kind of dildo, then use your dick

 

Hmmmmm.. I suggest lovingly tying her to the bed, then softly applying some lube to he ass, work a finger or two, then apply a good amount of lube to your cock, then position a ladder next to the bed, climb the ladder, and tell her it will only hurt for a min. then just dive into it, that moment of intense surprise is wonderful.

Honestly, sounds like you are doing it right, just have to get her to relax, and just go real slow, hell if you can get your head in, then stop, let her relax, then let her be the one to move farther and push you in, at her pace.... Good luck....

 

It sounds like she is having trouble relaxing her internal sphincter. It is controlled by the autonomic (involuntary) part of the nervous system. The internal sphincter responds to fear and anxiety during anal sex. It will cause her to tense up even if she is trying to relax. She can gradually learn to control and relax the internal sphincter. Tell her that everyday when she showers she should use her fingers and explore her ass. Simply paying attention to her body and learning how it reacts is more important than worrying about relaxing.

 

I have the same problem! Watching anal is such a turn on, and its a bigger turn on for my guy. When we do it, it hurts! So I beg to stop, in which of course he does, but I know he's disappointed, I wonder if I should just grin and bare it to make him happy.

 

Also this is for JessicaX too...... Wha position are you trying it in... do not lay flat on your stomach, this is no good, and or doggy no good for beginners. You need to when fully relaxed lay on your side with a leg forward, and let him spoon with you that way... It will be much eaiser, it helps muscles naturally relax... That is why hospitals and such have you lay on your side when they well give you stuff up the ass...lol


Then move to you on top... this way you are in total control of how fast you go, you are in the drivers seat.

Anal is a good thing... North and South Korea should start butt fucking... they would be much happier.....

 

I'll try to explain this the best way I can..I do lay on my side, always, but once on top, and hated it..When on my side, he doesn't spoon me, but is upright...(if you can picture it.) and then pushing inside me..are we doing it wrong still?

 

Nope, that is actually one of the best ways... I mostly comes down to relaxing.. But you know it is not a matter of right or wrong, you know some folks just cannot do it... There is no lack of love or anything, so give yourselves a break, just try when you want, hell, honestly being a little drunk helps.... but hey you are doing good.