dear Venus, when you hear some of us studs (or rather read) speak about what master christian gray type Dommes we are, after having a laugh, could you nail down a person whether they were truly dominant, or all talk.. Jst in case lets make it 3 questions....
pardon ny dslexya and the edit here... could you nail someone down in one question? just to be fair i gie you three questions you would ask to determine dome quality

oh, and, Do you want to tie up bruce jenner and own hs neew body doesnt count..

not fair

of course we do........

 

Would you believe I've been holding off on answering this till I could find the picture I wanted to link to?

It's a combination of both. I'm anemic and, as I like to put it, "I bruise in a strong breeze." But when you get beaten a lot, your body stops bruising and marking as much. Like here:

https://forum.xnxx.com/gallery/photos/my-ass-doesnt-bruise-like-it-used-to.2697655/

That's three whole days of hard impact and I've barely got anything.

A year ago, the same type of play got me this:

https://forum.xnxx.com/gallery/photos/blossoming-bruises-3-days-post-beating.2783627/

I do get beaten hard; my sadists don't just go to 11, they start at 11! And the type of implement counts. Metal bruises me more than anything else. This is the result of just three strikes with a narrow titanium cane:

https://forum.xnxx.com/gallery/photos/three-strikes.2847967/

Wooden canes don't leave marks anything like that!

 

Maybe if you asked nicely.

 

That's not a question.

However, if you're really up for it, I have some dishes that need doing, and the bathroom floor could be cleaner.

 

No, unless it actually involves sex (like someone pulling on my nipple clamps while he's fucking me, or being beaten while giving a blowjob).

Sometimes it does involve sex and I don't really consider it sex. I've had a guy use a violet wand on my clit and it wasn't sexual to me, because it didn't turn me on. I think he probably could have put it inside me and I wouldn't have considered it sexual!

 

Ghosts.

 

Venus, I asked my wife to buy some cock rings. She doesn't really know what kind to buy, and frankly, I don't either. I had a set of cheap latex ones that didn't do to well. What would you recommend?

 

One of my partners is into small penis humiliation (SPH) and since a) he doesn't actually have a small penis and b) I have serious difficulty doing humiliation, there was a lot of trial and error before I really learned how to ignore reality and push his buttons.

So there we are having sex, I'm running out of ideas for insults, and I said "Your dick is so small it should be on milk cartons. 'Have you seen this penis?'"

He stopped, looked at me, I tried not to break character, but then he burst out laughing and so did I. I'm not sure it's actually that funny but in context it came out as hilarious. We were able to get back into the scene but it took a while!

 

There are two parts to this.

1. After I stopped drinking, I stopped going to bars. So if I wanted to pick someone up, it had to be someplace without alcohol. A few successes definitely helped me see that it could work.

2. My first BDSM party. I was feeling pretty body-conscious, but as soon as I walked in, I saw a woman a lot bigger than me walking around with nothing on but panties and needles in her breasts. People were coming up to her, talking, laughing, not making any comments on her appearance except to compliment her on the needlework. Maybe there were people judging her for her size but if so, they were keeping their mouths shut. There were a lot of other people of all body types and ages acting completely unselfconscious, and no one was pointing or making fun of anyone else. I'd never been in such a body-positive environment.

Towards the end of the night, I saw someone doing fireplay and really wanted to try it. Well, you can't do fire with your clothes on! Five minutes later my dress was on the floor and I was on the table having the time of my life. I can't say I don't still have doubts about my appearance sometimes, but all in all, I gained a huge amount of body acceptance that one night and I've never looked back.

 

I know this was a while ago, but I took a lot of notes there, so I can still answer it

And it was fantastic! This is one of the only two M/s events that don't have any BDSM play involved - it was all classes, discussion groups, and mealtime chats. (Well, not literally "all," there were games, dancing, and happy hours too, and plenty of opportunities to socialize in the hallways between events. And I'm not saying no one engaged in BDSM play in the privacy of their own room, lol.)

Unlike the other event of its kind, this was quite small - it's deliberately limited to 100 people - so there was a lot of interaction between the class leaders and the attendees. A lot of it was question-and-answer or facilitated discussion. We weren't just sitting in rows listening to someone lecture, we'd all put the chairs in a circle or get around a big table. It was a friendly and even intimate atmosphere. It let us have deeper discussions and talk about difficult and uncomfortable subjects. There was a great mealtime chat about racism and prejudice in the M/s community that a surprising number of audience members raised their hands to talk at. And it wasn't all "oh, I'M not racist" crap, either. I don't think people would have been so willing to share their faults and vulnerabilities at a larger gathering.

One of the classes I liked best was about M/s and illness/disability. It's obvious enough that when a Master/Mistress is sick, the slave should take care of them. But what about when the slave is sick? Everyone agreed that it was appropriate for the Master to take care of them, but it was tougher to answer questions like "does the Master do the slave's tasks while the slave is incapacitated?" or "does the slave still have the same responsibilities, and if not, which ones can be allowed to lapse?" And when the Master is sick and the slave is caring for them, does it become topping from the bottom? How much authority does a slave have to say "take your pills" or "you need to see a doctor"? If the Master can't give orders, does the slave make the decisions, or is the issue tabled until the Master recovers?

I'm definitely going back next year - I've attended it every year since it started, and it just keeps getting better!

 

Can you expand on that statement, please?

For example, your signature describes you as a masochist and an owned slave. So your statement that I quoted strongly suggests that being submissive or being in a submission based relationship (maybe?) is different from masochism and/or a Master/slave relationship. Can you please explain this difference, as you understand it or as in your experience?

 

Two questions, if I may?
1) You posted that the largest cock you have ever had was 11" - if you took it all I assume the head went into your posterior fornix, so did it feel different and give any 'special sensations'?
2) Like most women you don't like your cervix being 'banged' (although a few do) - do you like it being 'rubbed' against?

 

I thought I was straight when there was conclusive evidence to the contrary, it's always possible to miss things that don't agree with the larger cultural narrative about sexuality. I could overlook things like "I masturbate after watching the Gorgeous Ladies of Wrestling" because I was still attracted to men, and there wasn't the same language for bisexuality and non-heterosexual female desire that there is now. I'm in my early 40's, what I see being available to young people now in terms of knowledge, resources, and support is vastly greater than what there was when I was their age. You're in the same age range I am. We grew up in the shadow of AIDS and a lot of virulent antigay rhetoric. I don't think you magically became bisexual (or gay, if you're no longer attracted to women) at 40, but probably had the inclination all your life and were able to hold it in till now.

When I hit middle age, I couldn't repress my sexuality anymore. I came out to my husband as being into BDSM, he came out to be as being poly, and the past four years have been the best of my life. Life's too short not to be myself, not to take the opportunities I can, not to explore the possibilities I cut myself off from before. So my thought would be that you're at an age where your mind said "Screw this straight shit, I'm not getting any younger, I want to suck some cock while I still can."

That might be an overly simplistic way of looking at it, and I can only tell you in terms of how it felt for me when I was making my midlife adjustments. I don't know anything else that might have been going on in your life and I'm sure there are a lot of influences on all sides. But my personal belief is that people don't just "become" bi or gay after years of being straight; they've been bi or gay all along, but at some subconscious level their mind wasn't letting them realize it.

 

There's no question mark so I don't need to answer this, which is good, because wtf.

 

OJ OJ OJ?

He was totally guilty.

 

I'll address the comprehensible part of this.

I wouldn't ask trick questions or beat around the bush. I'd just ask "What does dominance mean to you?" People who don't have personal experience flounder with that question. People who have personal experience, but aren't the type I'm looking for, will have solid answers but I'll be able to tell they aren't compatible.

As for Caitlyn Jenner, I'm not attracted to her now and I wasn't attracted to her as Bruce, either. I like her a lot better than her ex-wife though.

 

Can I please 'bump' my questions because they are both on subjects that for personal reasons interest me and I would appreciate feedback from a woman of your experience.

 

Thank you @VenusInFurze for this thread, this is really helpful for newbies to understand BDSM from an experienced person's perspective. Don't have any questions for now but I am sure that I am done reading all the comments I will have plenty! Keep up the good work!

 

Well
my questions is
do you have any kids ?
if yes how many
if no would like to have some ?
if yes why
if no why )