Does anyone else have this problem

 

I had that problem tonight.

 

...Only because you can't get a blow job.

 

Well, that blows!!

 

Occasionally. For me, it usually has to be part hand job.

Some (younger) women think its adequate stimulation to just put a dick in their mouth and be passive

 

I had two girls sucking me tonight and didn't cum. Buy I did rub one out before I went to meet them. Maybe that was the problem.

 

strange enough i can't come from you getting a blow job either

 

That is strange

 

Same here for the most part, or I have to concentrate really hard. I think one of the biggest problems is lack of foreplay and teasing. Guys need to be aroused too, and having someone tease the fuck out of you can make a big difference. Also, a lot of women aren't good at giving head.

 

I'm with Diaxis, sometimes I need the extra stimulation of having the girl wrap her hand around the base of my cock and pump it into her mouth while she sucks. This is a disadvantage with two girls, usually they are taking turns licking the head and not getting as erious about pumping the base, and it's the combo of both sensations that really gets me off.

 

If you're getting head from two girls, why would you want to come from just head? Yeah, two girls sucking my cock is more of an ego thing. It feels good and all, but I want that pussy.

 

Give me head....but I usually don't come from that.

My GF gives me great head and I love the intimacy of her going down on me.
I love to kiss and lick her too! She cums from the oral I give.
But I save my orgasm for when I'm inside her! I just love to squirt inside her!
She's brought me off orally and taken my load but I don't think it's necessary for finishing me off that way.
Just my opinion....

 

You just haven't had a blowjob from a woman with talent.

 

Variety is the spice of life, sweetie. Why should you have to choose between one supreme moment of pleasure and another? It's not like you're never going to cum again, n'est-ce pas?

 

Agreeing with jcdecoy84 -> arousal and foreplay are important for guys. I think the biggest load I ever blew was the result of playing grab-ass all day, and then finally getting around to it 8 hours later. Sure, most guys can manage a 6 minute solo rub out, but its a little different when your partner is not skilled with performance anxiety on top of that. And I have no doubt women think the same thing sometimes ( get out of the way, I can do this myself more effectively ) haha.

I also agree with the OP's thought that blowing his load in advance could be a problem. I find it easier to cum under challenging conditions if I'm actually under pressure to start with. I don't think I get much benefit going more than 48 hours though.

If you're like me, you may have become used to the frictive force associated with masturbation, so actual sex becomes a lot more work. I have the same problem with pussy. To me it feels like I'm fucking mush. That's great if you're playing for half a day, but frustrating if you're in a time window. You may have better luck with anal. Also, you could try wearing ball restraints / rings / weights to stretch your sack. That will give you more sensation, and you'll end up with a pair of low hangers to boot ( mine hang 4 inches now ).

 

I am mystified but the concept of a blowjob being just sucking cock and not having the girl use her hand or you using your hand as a part of it.

I expect that most men would have a hard time cumming because the shaft of their penis needs to be stimulated so that a guy can cum.

Except for a few blowjobs that I gave when the boy and I were very young every bj included a handjob too. The exceptions were when an inexperienced guy just about reached my lips when he shot his load.

I've also watched porn and the girls (and sometimes the guys) integrate the bj with hj's.

Love,
Lynn-nyc

 

I have never been able to cum when any woman sucked my cock. Strangely though, I have been unable to cum when some another males sucked my cock.
I think the reason is that many women just do not know how to suck cock properly. It isn't their fault because you need to know how it feels before you can know how to do it!
I cannot explain why some guys just don't know how to suck cock.

 

have the same problem, have her try a different technique or angle, or have her stop and jerk you off a little with her hand to get the process started, then go back to sucking and you will cum much faster

 

I'm not sure what you mean. All I meant was, if there are two girls willing, why would you want to cum from the head? Unless it was at the end. Of course, just head from two ladies is not something to complain about.

 

I've had a lot of blow-jobs and maybe 1 or 2% of them have gotten me off. Not that I'm complaining. Even though I don't get off, I still love some good head!!! There are other ways to get off!