Ok i will start this by saying in the past i told my wife i thought it would be hot if she had a guy on the side as long as i knew about it and that she ask permission before she would go on a date with him or do anything. Just so that way i would know what was going on. Well she somewhat was ok with the idea but said no that she felt it was wrong and she didn't want to do that. in the past we have had a few 3 somes with other guys so her doing stuff with another guy doesn't bother me as long as she is safe
so fast foward its about 2 yrs later..i have a habbit of checking my wifes email and looking in her phone. she knows i do it so its not a big secret. She recently told me about a new guy they hired at her work and that he was a nice guy etc. I told her maybe we could have him over sometime and she said no she don't want to do anything with him..so i was looking at her phone notcied she sent some reg pics of herself to somebody..then i notice her and the guy are talking through email and text..so don't say anything to her about it but i asked her if she wanted to have him over she still says no( this is after she came home talking about him doing something at work ) keep in mind i'm not pissed about them talking because to me its a turn on..lately she been getting off late from work like 3 am and she asked if i mind if he give her a ride home. i told her no its fine but if she did anything she needs to tell me..i'm not dumb so i'm knowing good chance something gonna happen because of the emails and texts i been seeing. then she starts showering as soon as she gets home..duh i know she did something now lol..so i ask her and she says no..more time goes by..she doesn't always get a ride with him..only a cpl times in a week maybe..then onenight i wake up and i see him pulling up to drop her off but he pulls all the way into the driveway..i'm looking i can see them kissing and talking..i go lay down thinking she'll be in..time goes by..i go look again and i can see she is giving him a bj..as i see her head moving up and down. wow so this goes on for a few min and she gets on top of him and rides him this goes on about 10 min and then she is just on him kissing him and then gets off and so i went and layed down..she comes in takes a shower..
any clue on why she is doing this and doesn't want me to know even though she knows i wouldn't be mad?? keep in mind my wife is very loving to me and is currently preg with our second kid. Do u think its just funner for her to do this without me knowing?

 

we think alike, i always get horny thinking of my wife fucking on the side.

 

What makes you think you're the father?

 

i am. up until a few weeks ago i always picked her up from work.
She definitly would not of taken the chance of getting preg by another guy she takes our family life serious and also would not want other ppl to know she has been with another guy. when we did the 3 some with the guys she always made them wear a rubber even though she was on the pill.
trust me i talked her into doing the 3 somes because i was the only guy she been with and i felt she needed variety..u only live once. but yes she is preg by me. that guy didn't even work there yet when she got preg and this is the only guy besides my buddy we did the 3 some with that she even talks to.
So back to the subject lol
i wonder why she likes sneeking to do stuff with him..she knows i know whats going on but she says its just talk and that she hasn't done anything with him lol

 

BTW i have read the emails and the guy does have a girl and knows that my wife is married and worries about me catching on. My wife has told him i wouldn't care that i like that stuff. He is just scared of me doing something to him it seems and they had other talks where she told him the only way he could do her without a condom is if he went and got std testing etc.
he said he did and showed her a paper as he was teasing her in a text for thinking he was not clean. It was hot to read the email from him after that night in the driveway..sounds like he had fun..so i'm guessing my wife wants to do this on her own with him? i wish she would just come out and say what goes on..but she doesn't erase the texts or email so i'm guessing she want me to know as she knows i check her stuff..

 

btw she was sloppy that night..took forever to get mine..i'm guessing he is thick and that she let him cum in her

 

wish my future wife would do the same, but alasd there is no hope!

 

my view on it is pretty much eventually everybody is going to mess around..i'd rather just know about it. We have a very secure relationship, i dunno maybe she likes the idea of being alone with him or he is not down to have me watch them is another guess..

 

I guess you could just come out and tell her.

But if you're getting some enjoyment out of it, and so is she, since you don't seem to care about it that much, then let things go as they are.

 

yea thats kinda my thought..i see all the emails and texts so i have an idea of what is going on between them..but still i'd rather they just come in the house and have their fun..i wanna watch lol. i'm thinking maybe he is uncomfertable with the idea of another guy around while they mess around..we have talked with alot of guys and once they find out that i want to watch and join they get spooked.

 

seems a bit odd to me that she feels the need to A) not tell you the truth and B) to blatantly fuck this guy in the car in your driveway.. If you have always been open in the past, I would be wondering what has changed??? You need to talk to your wife and find out what is going on. You obviously don't mind she has been with him, but it would have to be worrying that she feels the need to sneak around behind your back for this particular guy........ I am not saying she is gonna leave you or anything, just keep you guard on and talk to her and get her to bring this guy in the house!!!

 

It seems to me that you have simply reaped what you have sown. If you want to have an open marriage, don't be surprised if she doesn't always follow your rules to a T.

 

well yea of course..i mean if she really wanted to hide it she would of deleted the texts and her emails to him..she knows i check them..it just seems this is something she gets off on of messing with him alone..trust me if they were trying to be sneeky i don't think she would not of had him park in the driveway..she knows i'm up late. there is plenty of near by places they could of went. she knew what she was doing. i dunno i'm thinking its something she is getting off on by thinking she is being a bad girl but yet at the same time she leaves the texts and emails so i know what is going on. She has always had shyness issues and always been uncomfertable talking to me about her messing with other guys unless she was nice and buzzed and since she prego that don't happen no more. but yea i wish she would just be brave and tell me she want to hang out with him. but he might be one of those guys that is not down to take turns with a female with another guy in the room..

 

today we had sex before she left to work..she was hella sloppy and wet..felt nice

 

yell her you know, but say if you wanna fuck him make sure you do it in the car outside your house so you can watch, then you get to fuck her when she gets in and all wet sand sloppy!

 

she's welcome to bring him in and do him in the house..it just seems like for now he is not willing to do that or he does not feel comfertable with another guy in the situation..u'd be surprised how many guys get scared of the idea of another guy in the room while he do their lady or even then guy knowing about it.
at least these are things i gather from recent emails he has sent her

 

maybe you could suggest to her that she find a fuck toy on the side, someone she can hook up with without you around(like she is already doing) and see what she says

 

DEEPDIVER that is what me and her had the talk about before..months ago..we had a guy in mind one of my buddies that she had already had sex with, he was a guy we had a threesome with. she was ok with the idea but when it ended up not happening cuz he got a girlfriend she said she really didn't care for the idea anymore and that it would just cause problems and that she didn't want me thinking that she was sleeping around. I have seen the text messages and my wife just tells him she doesn't wany anybody knowing about their lil thing going on but that if i found out i wouldn't be mad. i have told her things about i don't care if she does it but she really does not say much back. she gets shy and quiet at the subject. keep in mind she is younger only 21. so maybe she just is not comfertable with me being ok with the situation

 

Sounds like she likes to feel like she is cheating, even though she isn't. She likes the adventure of it and not telling you. It makes her feel naughty.

 

Why dont you find yourself a treat too? A hot girl perhaps