I am currently going out with a very attractive girl who means more than a little to me, unfortunately she is incredibly conservative sexually and definitely a virgin. I need a bit of help to convince her to have sex with me. I was hoping that any of you could share any especially persuasive arguments you might know of or have used. Thanks in advance.

BTW, first post; I hope it's a good one.

 

This is a decision that SHE has to make. When she's ready, she'll let you know. If she means as much as you say, you'll be willing to wait. If you "convince" her (or even worse, coerce her) she might end up resenting you for pushing her into it.

Is she waiting till marriage or just waiting till she's ready? Because if she wants to wait till marriage and you don't want to wait that long you need to seriously think about whether or not it's worth the wait. And if it is, you need to be patient and understanding or it'll just cause a break-up.

I waited until I was 22.5 to lose my virginity. I dated plenty of guys before then. Some were willing to wait and some weren't. In some cases I even told them I understood if they needed to "get sex elsewhere" because I wasn't ready. Those were, of course, the ones I trusted enough to know they weren't going to just go shag whomever turned up. Some of the relationships fizzled out because they couldn't wait for me. Others for other reasons. You can't know where things are going to go. I've had plenty of guys pressure me and it just ruined the relationship.

You need to talk to her. Find out exactly how she feels and then make an informed decision.

But hey, that's just my opinion. I'm sure someone will hop on here and tell you to rufie her.

 

I'm, fortunately, not that obtuse, forceful, or horny and can certainly wait as I'm perfectly happy where I am, but like any other guy would enjoy her were she to ask or allow me to. Irregardless, thank you for confirming my beliefs.

 

Experiment and find out what turns her on, then just get really intimate one day.

 

Wow, have YOU come a long way in a few years!

 

I know, right!

 

There is a not-so-fine line between convincing and pushing. Do not push her to have sex with you, you could in tern be pushing her away from you. Let her come around on her own when she is ready and talk to her about it.

 

Hey, get her drunk, kiss her neck repeatedly, caress her thighs and in between them and that will make it easier for her to drop the panties.

 

I have never slept with a virgin, and can’t say I have a particular desire to. From observing my friends it’s seems the biggest draw is that she will be your beck and call girl, but none of my friends have had the patience to be faithful to a newly x-virgin while they work through their inexperience.

 

Great post Snoochies!!

Love Always,
ixi