We'll recently I got my first blowjob. It had to be the best feeling of my life but there was one problem. I couldnt ejaculate. This girl was trying the hardest she could, but nothing. I mean it felt great, i think my first time nerviousness took over and wouldnt let me cum. I stayed hard for a really long time. So i dont know what was wrong.

and i spend the next 2 nights with her, getting a few more. Still same problem.

any ideas?

 

more often than not i cant cum from a blow job either. its not that it doesnt feel good. but ive only had a few girls that could make me cum orally and they put alot of work into it. i just consider a blowjow more foreplay. if you are really wanting to cum in her mouth pull out while you are on the brink and let her finish you off after you know you've already hit the point of no return.

 

aww poor guys.

There have been other threads by other guys having the same problem.

 

It's not uncommon - wank off in to her mouth, oh and then give her a little slap or two - she'll soon learn the niceities

 

i agree with BB..... she cant be doin it right.... or it doesnt feel right coz she's not interested......

 

Not the case at all. I've had more than one girl get upset at herself that she couldn't get me off orally. Obviously this wouldn't happen if they weren't into it. and as far not knowing what they are doing i can attest thats not the case, I'm not talking about isolated incidents here. For a girl to get me off with head it's about an hour of high volume energy, and even then its not a guarantee. The erection isn't the prob as the original poster said, its just something about the sensation that is different. I never really sweat it. it's not like i wasn't going to get off.

 

Mmmmm, I love you, Big Bird....

 

Seriously, I think this is all about nervousness and impatience. Settle down, relax, and enjoy yourself. Sometimes it helps if she stops sucking every so often, and just strokes your cock. It might help if she talks dirty while doing that.

"Ooooh, baby, I love sucking your cock so much...do you like how it feels when I stroke you this way? Does it make you want to cum? Huh? Can you imagine how it will feel when you cum in my mouth? Mmmm, I can't wait to taste all that hot, thick cum...but don't do it yet, cuz I want to keep sucking on you for a long time..."

 

Oh, and I think she should pay lots of attention to your balls...tracing all around them with her tongue...licking them...sucking them gently into her mouth...making love to them as she slowly strokes your sopping-wet, slippery cock...can you feel your balls becoming heavy with sperm, so eager to be released in a hot, spurting torrent, pulse after pulse?

 

"Ooooh, baby, I love sucking your cock so much...do you like how it feels when I stroke you this way? Does it make you want to cum? Huh? Can you imagine how it will feel when you cum in my mouth? Mmmm, I can't wait to taste all that hot, thick cum...but don't do it yet, cuz I want to keep sucking on you for a long time..."[/quote]

WOW!!! Im gunna copy this down and put it on my headboard !!! Next time i get a bj i will make her read this !!

 

Have you ever read the "Penis Book" it is a very good book that explain every detail and facts about penis. Also in there it explains why sometime ejaculation is almost impossible at time that you really do want it to happen.

Its all in your head. If there is any moment that your thoughts are lost to some other non sexual activity like you suddenly remember about some work datelines, you thought about someone (non sexual). Even a slight pressure in your head about something like how to impress you partner while having sex. And the killer of all pressurizing question is why can't I cum right now? If you have any of these in your head while having sex or oral, most probably you won't cum at all until you are able to remove all these thoughts.

To get a really satisfying ejaculation it is not only your dick or your balls she need to play with and stimulate. She also needs to fuck with your head and your brain. One very example is as mentioned on previous post, talking dirty. Talking dirty while sex is like fucking the brain and filling it with sexual fantasies and thus eliminate all other non sexual thoughts.

It also helps if you are playing with her pussy and fondling any part of her body and she reacts like she really enjoys you playing with her pussy wiggling and moaning and begging for more as she suck you dick.

Sometimes it does not help at all to look at her blowing your pipe especially if she doesn't show any kind of reaction like she is enjoying it but just simply moving her head masturbating your dick with her mouth. In this situation you definitely will not ejaculate unless you know how to fill up your brain with dirty fantasy about her. You can just close your eyes and imagine that she and her best friend is sucking your dick .

If everything else doesn't work, make her suck you dick while you watch XXX. Because those Porn starts are really well experienced in fucking with your brain.

Good Luck
EGDream

 

OK I looked over these and if you are missing these inputs suggested that go along with a standard blowjob by all means try them. Being in a similar situation to you, I read the suggestions as oversimplified and not going to “fix” it. I did like the book ref though, and I’ll agree it’s prob at least in some way psychological. I can’t hit the nail on the head, but have just put some thought into this and think I can’t touch on it.

Part of the male ego is responsible? I like my girls to cum before me, it just makes me feel good knowing what I’ve done to them, I and know they are getting very little direct stimulation from a blowjob. Though this is not a 100% theory because even after they cum it’s no easier for me orally and I don’t always feel the need to give a one night stand that same consideration.

It might be a control issue. During sex you have much more control over the force and rhythm than with a blowjob. Again not 100% because forcing her head gives no results and her riding me has never been an issue.

I think it may be some muddled combination of these things, but instead of getting bent out of shape about it, use the fact that she is obviously into you and wanting to please you sexually as some subtle leverage to get into her pants.

 

Yeah I cant cum from a BJ either, i have a certain way that I like it and even when im super horney it takes me about 6 minutes to cum by hand relaxed... Just some guys cocks are picky about whos mouth they cum in

this is what i do If i know i need to cum from a BJ for the pleasure or so the girl dont feel bad

I usually do a lot of foreplay and tease around a bit... get close to her and let her rub up against me while i gently restrain her sides, or if its a quicky ill start myself up and basically dry beat or spit beat off for a little and basically let her finish me...

good luck my man, and its not you, usually her, unless a woman has a cock herself she wont know how to give a blowjob or handjob... hey she dont know how it feels and the last sentences appeal to all women except Kimiko and Piggit of course

 

Dont jerk off for a week then have her blow you ,you will be more then ready to shoot in her mouth.

 

just wank ur self off into her mouth. the hand of god etc etc. If it gets to that, cut out the sensual girlie lips thing, grasp the offending article and thrash away like a good 'un. 2 mins later..sploodge..jobs a good 'un.

 

In my experience, some guys are really uncomfortable with the idea of just receiving pleasure. It triggers some kind of guilt in them, it seems. They think they have to change course and concentrate on pleasing their partner, and it makes them unable to just lie back and accept what's happening to them. And that's a pity, because sometimes we girls just want to give pleasure, too.

 

Maybe Piggit and I could get you off if we both worked on it at the same time...

 

Show her how you like it, how you like to be touched, how you get yourself off. hold her hand and show her the pressure that feels good, the speed, how to touch your balls. I think a lot of girls are too rough sometimes. She can't feel it for you, so you need to direct her and help her out. You will both love it when you cum all over the place!

 

yeah it was a bit rough. i think it was just me being self concious about how long i last.

 

Yeah I know a few guys that can't get off orally but try the not getting off for like a week you'll probably top her off when you blow your load!!!