If your wife hasn't sucked you in years,..and pretty much said never again. And your sex life at home is very VERY rare,.. Would you seek out a bi or gay male that specifically wants to suck you off discreetly?

 

I wouldnt cheat, I watched gay porn and jerked off

 

Talk it out. Go to counseling. Try to have an open marriage. All else fails, stay, divorce, or cheat. Those are the options.

 

I would let a guy suck me off

 

No

 

First, try to work it out. Counseling should be had. Truth and consequences should be told. If no improvement and if no children I would leave the marriage. A sexless marriage (for the rest of your life!?) is not fair to both partners.

Children complicate things, but I'd still leave. Children know there are problems. You can look at it as setting an example for the kids. Sex belongs in a marriage, certainly not only outside of the marriage. Show your kids that a sexless marriage is a lie, it no longer is a marriage. Marriage is not sexless cohabitation, that is having a roommate. Children respect honesty and they learn from you and your wife.

 

Simple I pay ladies, what's the real difference, hell my wife cost me a lot more than any working lady ever charged me!

 

I come here.

 

Nope, well if all we are talking about is blow jobs.. No, not worth cheating for that. My wife is not a fan of it. She told me years and years ago she hates it. Meh, ok, so I love her more then the world. If she hates it why would I want to make her do that? I would feel badly and selfish.

As to the sex being very very rare. Talk to her about it first. See if she can "Take one for the team" so to speak. Find out if your missing something. Is there something she needs and is not getting from you? Is there stress out there she has to deal with that your not aware of? When is the last time you took her somewhere to get her mind off the world?

If all that fails. Meh, its up to you what to do. Me, well, I would do anything for love, but I won't do that. I won't go with out anyway.

 

Menopause turned my wife off so I've begun sucking dicks at the ABS and found a lot of men not being taken care of at home.

 

About once a day, someone presents their case to the Court of XNXX, seeking a licence to cheat on their spouse, because there's not enough sex at home.

In this case, the plaintiff presents a hypothetical situation and asks what the court would do, without asking whether such an action is considered cheating. Although I am a married man, and I am far from "just couldn't stand it anymore", but I understand the problem. Unfortunately, the universal "Is it cheating? test remains the same. If you have to keep something secret, in order to maintain your primary relationship, it's cheating. That said, cheating covers a very wide range of activities, starting with changing your schedule to ride the same elevator with your object of desire, with getting blowjobs from willing and discrete men, somewhere around the other end.

If sexual deprivation could be relieved by orgasm, no man physically capable of wiping his own ass would ever be sexually deprived. This means using sexual deprivation as an excuse to cheat is always bogus. If a man wants to get his cock sucked by another man, that's an issue between two people, at a minimum, but he shouldn't argue that he found a man to suck his cock, because his wife won't. Go ahead and start walking through the park after dark, but don't blame it on your wife.

 

A mouth is a mouth

 

Not sure why you would be seeking a bi or gay Male if your wife doesn't blow you? Besides all of the possible marital and psychological issues already addressed by previous comments, it seems that you think it's not "cheating " if a guy blows you but it is cheating if a woman blows you. It's cheating either way if your wife doesn't know. Perhaps you are really just looking for a guy to suck you off?

 

If I could find a friend that is exclusive.Don't want to catch anything.

 

Sometimes it reaches a stage where the wife does not want anything nor care if her husband hangs out with the guys.
It just seems less threatening to an existing situation than if he were to start seeing other women, sort of stays off the radar.
Oddly enough some wives seem to see everything but turn a blind eye to that or even worse the issue caused by their own situation. (not a generalization but I also have this problem)
Assuming he has tried and done all that his wife is willing to do in terms of resolving their situation then it just becomes a case of persuing what is most convenient.
Taking whatever risk he feels comfortable with rather than shaking up his current situation.

Being in such a situation one has the tendency to consider every possibility when they do not get any sex or any affection at home.

I agree do not use it as an excuse to persue such liasons but if it works for you in such a situation then each to his own.

 

I’m in Houston. Sane professional married to a hot wife too. Also on the short end of the stick when it comes to the sex. Haha. Sounds like we are in the same boat with the same thoughts.

 

There's nothing wrong with that my friend. I just prefer having guys blow me for the donut, for free. Blowing me because it's something they truly enjoy doing. Instead of paying a girl who's only interested in the Bengium, and getting me off so she can move on to her next buck.

Don't get me wrong? I'd love to find a girl who would just want to blow me. Because she loves it, and it's something that really gets her off. I'd also like to hit powerball, but I don't believe in living pipe dreams.

There's guys who absolutely love, and appreciate blowing cock. It's a win win situation. You both get what you want, just don't look down.

 

My wife took care of two of our friends that had wives that did not suck cock. Both of them would come over twice a week to fuck her willing mouth. My wife passed away but our friends still come over.

 

I wouldn't specifically choose a man or woman just for blowjobs either! When I've been placed in the position for too long the difference becomes whether I'm open to the offers that are always there or choose to "wait and see?"

 

What does it say about the OP’s marriage if they are seeking the sexual services of a bi or gay male?

That aside, marriage is a union between two people that have responsibilities to each other and themselves. There are challenges. Sometimes outside influences and often times it’s within the couple. Stress, mental health, finances, work, emotions, feelings, temper, past upbringing, family, etc..........these pressures have people dealing with these things differently.

As mentioned, counselling is the first place to start. Even if you can’t convince your spouse to go with you, do it for your own mental awareness and health.

Don’t let a bad marriage lead you to make poor choices for yourself. Even when faced with sexual frustration. It doesn’t fill the void and only avoids the problems at home. And things generally get worse before they get better.

What ever you find in that 10 minute encounter of sexual gratification.......it won’t make you feel any better in the long run.


Good luck!