Hello,

My current girlfriend likes her guys big (fat, chubby etc). I am 6ft 5 and 290 lbs. She likes that very much. However here is the problem.

I am trying to get in shape. For health reasons, future career path and just overall to be fit. Now I have tried for the past two weeks to start running a bit more and lifting weights again. My gf comes up with ways to stop me from working out. She also knows i am trying to cut back on food that is bad for me but she brings them over anyway. (since i have not really kicked bad food habits yet it is def enabling me)

Anyway what should i do?

 

You have a choice.

Your health, or sweet, sweet pussy and an early grave.

Why is this even a choice? Either she respects that you want to get healthy, or she goes. Don't put anyone before your choice to improve yourself.

 

she's the boss, comply or join the ranks of fit, lonely sad gym rats.

 

Actually, as a chubby chaser myself I'm gonna ask another question too...
My husband is the same size as you, and I love him that way. However, I don't want him dropping dead in ten years. Do you have suggestions of what I can do to show I love him besides making the cookies and goodies that he loves so much?

 

I'm not the OP but how about more sex (if that's even possible! ) and less cookies and goodies?

If that's not possible (and you're doing the baking), how about using a sugar substitute as much as possible in your baking so he consumes fewer calories? Personally, I like Truvia as a substitute; it doesn't have the nasty after-taste I found when I tried Sweet 'N' Low, Splenda or Equal.

Trying to stick to a low carb diet myself, I've learned that you can still have some of the goodies as long as you check ingredients (low in total carbs) try to use an artifical sweetener as much as possible.

 

This 100%.

I commend you for trying to live a healthier life, Whoobs. I put on some weight due to illness and once I lost it I felt so, so much better physically I couldn't believe it.

If she loves you, she'll understand. If she doesn't understand, she doesn't love you, so leave her n find someone else

 

Dump her.

 

Similar issue... I get sabotaged by food. I just want to be healthy and honestly look decent in a pair of jeans... I like curves and am not trying to be a stick..just healthy/fit looking. Am surrounded by people that constantly want to feed me... extreme weaknesses for certain things. But found that I am being sabotaged for other reasons... hubby doesn't want me to "look" good thinking others will take notice. So very frustrating... so my "advice" or opinion I would say... take care of you! There is only one you, if she was truly interested she would be happy you are doing everything in your power to be healthy...she can "compromise" on her fetish if she is truly loves you. There are other things to experiment with. Exercising does so many things... I love getting all worked up and sex right after in the shower is fucking amazing. My vote get fit.. be true to you!

 

Have you tried substituting what you eat around her so while you may be consuming similar portion its healthier?

Take over the cooking a few nights a week and use healthy recipies she might like herself.

Talk to her about your concerns for your long term health, relate it to her "scared of leaving her alone","not enough life insurance","insurance too expensive while this size" etc ......

She may be insucure about herself and thinking if you become fitter she may lose you so make sure your reinforcing your relationship even thou your trying to change part of it.

Encourage her to join you, you might like to go for a run, she might like to read book in the park while you do. GO to the pool to swim laps, she might like to tan a little. While your at the gym she might lie to see a movie with a friend and meet up afterwards for a coffee/drink.

 

Get rid of your gf. If she gave a flying fuck about you (which she clearly does not) she would consider what you wanted, and your health.

Women are like trolly cars...there are plenty of them in the sea :excited::smile:

Lonley, sad gym rats??? Where the HELL do you get your info from??

 

I agree with people here...

If she cared for you she'll want you fat or skinny.

I've gone through many weight fluctuations with my bf. He loves chubby girls but even at one point were I lost weight he still found me desirable just because it was me. And when I gained it back, he still loved me and fucked me good, but kept my health in mind and and supports me if I want to go to the gym.

There's more to love to you than your body size, honey. So look for someone who appreciates that if she can't.

 

P.S. - People who workout release endorphins which are the "happy" neurotransmitter.
So the combination of increased endorphins (and self confidence with the workouts) and the reduction of stress from an insesntive girlfriend will probably conclude with a happy poster. Heck he could even meet a nicer girl at the gym.


Don't get me wrong, I understand it's hard to break off a relationship when you care for someone so much. But at one point if it's affecting your health (be it physical, emotional or social) you need to understand that you come first.

As preliminary suggestion to my previous answer, talk to her first about how you feel about her behavior. If she doesn't care and just wants you fat, then you need to move on.

 

Blowjobs and massages and silence (not all the time but let us decompress from the day when we get home from work).

 

I had a friend who was rather the scrapper. His girlfriend got ridiculously turned on when he kicked the crap out of someone. Eventually the emotional, psychological and physical strain from fighting all the time made him realize that the bitch had to go. Physical fitness is a lifestyle. Losing significant weight and keeping it off is hard work. If this woman is screwing you she needs to change or be replaced. Those who encourage self degrading behavior like smoking, using drugs or eating fat and salt are trying to bring you down to their level. Think she won't dump your fat ass if ever the fetish runs its course?

 

Thanks guys for your thoughts.

Another thing she loves to suck on my stomach. Which is fine but when it come to oral she can barely fit anything in there.

So how can she fit more of my stomach in there then my slightly above avg. Penis